Umxholo
Ukuphilisa emva komcimbi yinkqubo eyenzeka ngokwamanqanaba. Ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyonto ekhawulezileyo, ekhawulezileyo, okanye elula. Ukuba ufumanise ukuba iqabane lakho lalithandana, ngokuqinisekileyo uyakuqonda oku. Kwaye mhlawumbi uyagxuma phakathi kokukhanyela, umsindo ongachazekiyo, ubukhulu becala obubonakalayo (kwaye buhlala buvakaliswa) umsindo, kunye nosizi olungachazekiyo. Zonke ezo ziqhelekileyo. Musa ukoyika, uya kuyigqiba. Nazi izigaba ezine sonke ekufuneka sidlule kuzo ngaphambi kokuba singene kwihlabathi ngaphandle kwentlungu kwakhona.
Isigaba sokufumanisa
Mhla wafumanisa (ngokuqinisekileyo) malunga nokuthandana kunokuba yeyona inzima onokuyikhumbula. Kodwa, ikwangumzuzu xa uqala ukuphilisa. Amaqabane angcatshwayo ahlala enamava esisu, mhlawumbi ade afumane nemikhondo, mhlawumbi ade azame nokwenza iqabane eliqhathayo livume. Kodwa, yonke loo nto ayikaze ikulungiselele ukufumanisa ngokuqinisekileyo.
Eli linqanaba lokothuka. Ngokufana nokuba ujongene nehlosi elinamazinyo. Umzimba wakho uphela ulungiselela ukusinda kwingozi esemnyango. Kwaye ingqondo yakho iphela ijolise kwinto enye, ilizwe lakho liphela liyancipha kulawo magama "umcimbi". Kwaye ke iingcinga zakho ziqala ukungxama ukubuza yonke imibuzo, isigidi semibuzo onethemba lokuba iya kuzisa isiqabu.
Idibeneyo: Ungajongana njani nomntu okopayo
Uninzi lwethu, ukufumanisa kulandelwa kwangoko ngumsindo ongathethekiyo. Siziva sinomsindo kunanini na ngaphambili. Kwaye ihlala itshintsha phakathi kweqabane lethu, kunye nomnye umntu- umngeneleli.Kodwa, ingqumbo ayisiyiyo yonke into esihlangabezana nayo kweli nqanaba. Kukwakho nokuzithemba, ukuzisola, ukwehla ngesiquphe kokuzithemba, kunye nemvakalelo yonke kwimbonakalo.
Inqanaba lentlungu
Inqanaba lokuqala leemvakalelo ezinamandla nezitshintsha ngokukhawuleza, emva kwexesha elithile, kutshintshelwe inqanaba elihlala ixesha elide. Linqanaba lentlungu. Ayisiyo yokuba usizi aluzukungena kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zezinye iimvakalelo, kwaye sizakuhlala sizifumana sikhumbula iintsuku zokuqala zolwalamano lwethu olutsha.
Ukuba buhlungu yinto ebalulekileyo ekunyangeni kwethu. Kungenxa yokuba akukho bhetele ngaphandle kokuzivumela ukuba uzilile ngenxa yento olahlekileyo, kwaye ulahlekelwe kakhulu, nokuba loluphi ulwalamano nokuba loluphi na ikamva okanye elidlulileyo. Ngomntu othandana naye, kuhlala kurhoqo ilizwe lakho liphela. Iinkolelo zakho, ikamva lakho, kunye nexesha lakho elidlulileyo, zonke ngoku zibuzwa.
Idibeneyo: Ungasinda njani kuXinzelelo emva kokungathembeki
Nangona kubuhlungu, kuya kufuneka uzivumele uzive ubuhlungu. Ukuba awunayo inkxaso evela kwiqabane lakho lokukhohlisa ngeli nqanaba, kunokuba nzima, kodwa kusafuneka ukhathalele iimfuno zakho ngoku. Khala, ukhwaze, ulale, ukhale ngakumbi, kuya kufuneka uve lonke usizi lwakho kwaye usebenze ngalo, ke musa ukuzibamba. Fumana inkxaso ukuba unako, kubahlobo bakho kunye nosapho, okanye ngokungaziwa kwi-intanethi.
Inqanaba lokwamkela
Asizukuxoka kuwe. Ukufumana ngaphezulu komcimbi kungathatha iminyaka. Oku siyakubonisa kuba uninzi lwamaqabane aqhathiweyo athintela ukuphiliswa kwawo ngokuzilindela ukuba afumane ngaphezulu kokubetha kwentliziyo. Ungayichazanga eyokuba ucinga ukuba awungekhe umelane nentlungu kwakhona. Kodwa yiba nokholo, njengoko izinto ziba ngcono mihla le, nokuba azibonakali zinjalo.
Idibeneyo: Ukufumana kwakhona ukuthembana emva kokukrexeza
Nje ukuba uphile kuwo wonke umsindo wakho kunye nentlungu, uya kuthi kancinci uyamkele into eyenzekileyo. Oko akuthethi ukuba uyalixolela iqabane lakho. Okanye ukuba uyakucinga ukuba umcimbi wawungekho mkhulu kwisivumelwano, hayi. Kuthetha ukuba uza kuza eluxolweni kunye nexesha lakho elidlulileyo, kunye notshintsho, kwaye ufunde ukufaka oko ukufundileyo kwinto yakho entsha nakubomi bakho obutsha. Ngamanye amagama, uya kusebenzisa umcimbi ukuze ube luhlobo olungcono lwakho.
Inqanaba lokuphinda uqhagamshele
Kwababini abagqibe ekubeni basebenze kubudlelwane babo, emva kokuba iqabane eliqhathiweyo liphilisa, okulandelayo kukudibanisa kwakhona. Ngoku baya kudibana kwakhona, njengabantu abatsha. Inye engasenazo iimfihlo (okanye ayinakufihla oko banako ukukwenza kwakhona, ubuncinci), kwaye enye ikhule ngaphandle kwentlungu enkulu kwaye yafunda ukuba uthando lomelele kunolo.
Idibeneyo: Ukujongana nemva yokungathembeki kunye
Kodwa, nokuba awuzukuzama ukubuyisela ubudlelwane bakho, inqanaba lokugqibela lenkqubo yokuphilisa ikwanxibelelana kwakhona. Ukunxibelelana kwakhona nesiqu sakho, nokuzimela kwakho, amaxabiso akho, nothando lwakho ngokwakho. Kwaye ukunxibelelana nabanye. Nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho, kwaye, mhlawumbi, nothando olutsha ngaphambili.