Umxholo
- Ukutshintsha kwezinto ezisondeleyo
- Imikhwa yonxibelelwano efanelekileyo
- Amaxesha acwangcisiweyo
- Fumana iindlela ezintsha zokondla ubudlelwane
Akukho nto inokulungiselela nabani na ubomi emva kwabantwana. Ungazifunda zonke iincwadi, kwaye ufumane iingcebiso kubahlobo, kodwa kude kube uyiphila, uninzi lwezinto oza kuzifunda kwaye uzive zingenakuba sengqiqweni. Mhlawumbi owona mmandla mkhulu wokonakaliswa kwesibambiso kubudlelwane emva kokuba abantwana besondele. Nokuba kungenxa yemicimbi yemizimba yomzimba uninzi lwabasetyhini olunamava emva kokuba nosana, imiba yokuguga yendalo eyenzeka kumadoda nakwabasetyhini njengoko sineminyaka yobudala, okanye ngokucacileyo ukuba sidiniwe kakhulu, ukusondelelana ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba yeyona ndawo ichaphazelekayo kulwalamano lwakho.
Ukutshintsha kwezinto ezisondeleyo
Okokuqala kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukutshintsha kwezinto ezisondeleyo njengoko ubudlelwane bukhula. Njengoko ubudlelwane bukhula, nobunzulu bobuhlobo obusondeleyo bukhula. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuya kuhlala kubambe indawo ekhethekileyo kulwalamano ngokunxulumene nokukwazi kwesibini ukuziva sisondelene. Nangona kunjalo, izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ziya kutshintsha, kwaye ke ziya kuba njalo neendlela apho iqabane lakho lingakubonisa ukuba bayakuthanda kwaye ukhethekile kubo.
Umzekelo, musa ukoyika ukubonisa uthando lwakho nothando ngeendlela ezilula, nezithandekayo. Umbhalo okhawulezileyo othi, "Ndiyakuthanda!" izakuhamba indlela ende yokwenza iqabane lakho lizive lithandwa kwaye lixatyisiwe. Rhoqo njengoko unokukwenza, yitsho ngokuthe ngqo ekubaxeleleni izinto ozithandayo ngabo, ezinje ngendlela abakunceda ngayo nabantwana okanye ukugcina indlu iqhuba kakuhle, okanye uyayithanda xa bekhuhla umqolo wakho okanye betyibilika ngexesha lokulala.
Kananjalo ayizukubonwa ukuba uvuka ekuseni nabo ukuze babelane ngesidlo sakusasa, okanye upakishe isidlo sabo sasemini ngenqaku lothando olukhethekileyo elixelela iqabane lakho ukuba uyabaxabisa kangakanani. Ukongeza isinongo esincinci, mhlawumbi ungabaxelela ukuba ujonge phambili ukubabona kwakhona ngobo busuku "ngexesha elikhethekileyo".
Imikhwa yonxibelelwano efanelekileyo
Unxibelelwano olululo lubalulekile ekugcineni umtshato uphila kwaye usempilweni. Emva kwabantwana, izibini zihlala zindixelela ukuba zizifumana zikumaphepha ahlukeneyo ngokunxulumene neendlela zokuba ngumzali. Akukaze kube lixesha lokuba uhlale phantsi uxoxe ngezi zinto ukufumana isivumelwano kunye nokwakha ubuhlakani. Akukho ndlela ibhetele yokuphelisa ukuthandana kubudlelwane kunokuba uxabane ulwe nabantwana. Ayisiyongo nje ukuba uyathandana kunye nokusondelelana, ikwayindlela entle yokuphulukana nolawulo lwabantwana bakho xa bebonke. Okukhona unokubonisa njengembonakalo yobumbano kubantwana bakho, kokukhona uya kulunga ngakumbi njengentsapho.
Amaxesha acwangcisiweyo
Rhoqo, siphoswa ngamathuba abucala "exesha elikhethekileyo" ngenxa yeeshedyuli ezixakekileyo. Musa ukoyika ukucwangcisa ixesha elikhethekileyo kunye. Splurge kumgcini wabantwana kube kanye ngenyanga, okanye usebenze nezinye izibini ezinabantwana ukuba bathengise ngononophelo lwabantwana ngobusuku bomhla. Kungenxa yokuba icwangcisiwe ayithethi ukuba ayizukubaluleka. Iya kuba ntle kuba nobabini nithatha ixesha lokukhathalelana kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane benu buhleli.
Xa ninethuba elingenasiphazamiso kunye, zama ukugcina incoko ikhanya, kwaye nigxile kuthando nakubudlelwane benu. Ngubani ongayithandiyo xa uNowa exelela uAllie ibali lothando lwabo kwi "Incwadana yokubhalela"? Thatha ixesha lokuphinda ubalise ibali lakho lothando omnye komnye. Xa ndisebenza nezibini ekucebiseni, ndichitha iseshoni enye kwangoko ukuba izibini zenze le nto kanye. Esona sizathu sokuba ndenze oku kukubanceda ukuba baqinise isiseko sobudlelwane babo, baphinde bazibambe ezo zinto zibatsalile ekuqaleni.
Rhoqo izibini ziya kuthi kamva zindixelele ukuba iqabane lazo lathetha izinto ngexesha lolo vavanyo ababengazange balazi okanye balive ngaphambili, njengokubonakala kwabo kokuqala, okanye indlela ababeqala ngayo ukwazi ukuba omnye ukhona. Amaxesha amaninzi, izibini zithi zibabuyisela emva kwixesha “lomlilo namabhabhathane” abalangazelela ukulibamba kwakhona.
Fumana iindlela ezintsha zokondla ubudlelwane
Nokuba uhlala ixesha elingakanani neqabane lakho, kubalulekile ukuba ufumane iindlela zakho ezincinci zokondla ubudlelwane bakho ukuze iqabane lakho lizive lixabisekile kwaye lithandwa. Njengokuba ungankcenkceshela kwaye wondle isityalo osithandayo, ngokunjalo kufuneka ubudlelwane bakho butyiswe ngamaxesha abandakanyekayo ukuze ungabeki amandla okuphumelela.