Umxholo
- 1. Masiqale ngezona zibambekayo - ezemali
- 2. Amaxhala okuba "onele ngokwaneleyo" emntwaneni
- 3. Umbuzo webala
- 4. Ukungaqiniseki rhoqo kunye nokuziva unetyala
Ukuba ngumzali ongatshatanga kuza nemicimbi emininzi, masikhuphe oko endleleni. Kodwa, makhe sitsho ukuba ukuba ngumzali, ngokubanzi, kuyinto enzima ukuyenza. Eyona inomdla ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa inzima.
Umzali ongatshatanga (oqhelekileyo ukuba ngumama, kodwa ngo-2013 bekukho iipesenti ezili-17 zooyise abangabodwa e-US) bajongene nemiceli mngeni emininzi eyongezelelweyo-eyengqondo, eyentlalontle neyoqoqosho. Ke, kunjani ukuba ngumzali ongatshatanga, kwaye kujonga njani kwimpilo-ntle yabantwana nakumzali nokukhula kwabo?
1. Masiqale ngezona zibambekayo - ezemali
Ukukhulisa umntwana yinto ebiza imali eninzi, kwaye ukuzenzela wedwa kunokubonakala ngathi kunzima ukuyikhupha. Nokuba uyifumana phi imali komnye umzali ukuba ikhona, ekubeni ungumondli ophambili kuwe nakubantwana bakho kunokoyikisa.
Ukufumana imfundo ephezulu yeyona ndlela ingcono, kodwa ukufumana itayitile ngelixa ukhathalela yonke into ngokwakho ngamanye amaxesha kuyacaca ukuba ayinakufezekiseka. Olu loyiko luhlala lutyhala abazali abangabodwa ukuba bathathe imisebenzi abayifaneleyo kwaye bahlala besebenza iiyure eziphambeneyo.
Imeko enjalo, nangona ihlala ingenakwenzeka ukuyiphepha, ngelishwa, ingathatha uxinzelelo lwayo lwengqondo.
Abazali banestres. Lonke ixesha.Ukuba ungumzali, ke uyazi ukuba inzima kangakanani indima, kwaye zininzi kangakanani izinto ekufuneka uzenzile kwaye ucinge ngalo lonke ixesha lokuvuka. Kwaye umzali ongatshatanga akanabo ubunewunewu bokuthatha umzuzu wokuphumla. Ukuba bayakwenza oko, konke kunokuhlaselwa. Oku kunokuba kuyinyani kwaye kuyinyani, kodwa into eqinisekileyo kukuba wonke umzali omnye uziva njalo.
Ngenxa yoko, ngabona bantu banexinzelelo kwihlabathi liphela, nokuba ababonakali njalo.
2. Amaxhala okuba "onele ngokwaneleyo" emntwaneni
Ngenxa yokuba kufuneka babe bobabini umama notata, kufuneka benze konke ukuqeqeshwa, isidingo sokwenza konke ukudlala. Ngapha koko, umntu ungaphezulu komzali nje - sonke kufuneka sifezekiswe kwimisebenzi yethu, ukuba nobomi bothando kunye nobomi bentlalo, kunye nakho konke oko abanye bakufumanayo.
3. Umbuzo webala
Kunqabile kunqabile kwihlabathi lanamhlanje laseNtshona kumzali ongatshatanga (umama, phantse kuphela), ukugwetywa ngemeko yabo, kodwa umzali ongatshatanga usenokuziva engamkelekanga apha naphaya. Njengokuba akwanelanga ukujongana nabo bonke ubunzima obusebenzayo kunye neemvakalelo zokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga, phantse wonke umama onjalo wadibana nokujongwa kube kanye ebomini bakhe.
Ukuba ngumama ongatshatanga kuza nehlazo lokuba nokuba ngumntu oziphethe kakubi kunye nokukhulelwa ngaphandle komtshato, okanye umfazi ombi aze aqhawule umtshato. Ukujongana nocalucalulo olunje kunokubenza ubomi bemihla ngemihla bube nzima kakhulu.
Ke, ewe, ukuba ngumzali ongatshatanga kunzima ngeendlela ezininzi.
4. Ukungaqiniseki rhoqo kunye nokuziva unetyala
Kukho uloyiko olungenangqondo malunga nabantwana bakho abangakhulelanga kusapho olupheleleyo. Kodwa, xa ungena ekucingeni ngayo yonke le micimbi, khumbula ukuba emntwaneni kungcono ukukhula nomzali omnye onothando nolufudumeleyo kunokuba akhulele kusapho olupheleleyo apho kuhlala kusiliwa kunye nengqumbo, nditsho nobundlongondlongo. .
Into ebalulekileyo emntwaneni kukuba akhule kunye nomzali onobuhlobo nothando.
Umzali onika inkxaso nothando. Ngubani ovulekileyo nothembekileyo. Kwaye ezi zinto azibizi mali kwaye azixhomekekanga komnye umntu ngaphandle kwakho. Ke, kwixa elizayo xa uphuma engqondweni yakho uzama ukuyenza yonke, zinqumle kancinci kwaye ukhumbule- eyona nto ayifunayo umntwana wakho luthando lwakho kunye nokuqonda kwakho.
Nokuba sinqwenela kangakanani ukuba kuyafana nokwabelana ngomthwalo, akunjalo. Nokuba ungumama okanye utata womntwana (okanye abantwana) ozikhulisela wedwa ngaso nasiphi na isizathu, yindlela engqwabalala ngaphambili. Nangona kunjalo, thabatha intuthuzelo kwinto yokuba yindlela efanayo efanayo yabazali abayenza kunye yonke imihla ngenxa yokuba ngumzali kunzima. Kuya kufuneka ubeke umzamo ongezelelweyo, kodwa, njengoko sikubonisile kweli nqaku, lelona thuba linomvuzo ongasoze ube nalo, elinokubangela ukuba wena nabantwana bakho nibe ngabona bangcono.