Umxholo
- Isishwankathelo semeko
- Umahluko phakathi kokukhathalela kunye nokunyamekela abantu esibathandayo
- Amanyathelo okunyamekela
- Ubudlelwane lishishini elinzima
Ibinzana elidala i-TLC okanye uThenda loThando kunye noKhathalelo lisetyenziswa rhoqo. Kodwa kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, njengesakhono sobomi, sisisebenzisa kangakanani? Thatha imeko engezantsi:
Ngu-10: 00 ngokuhlwa ngeCawa. UKate udiniwe kwaye ukhathazekile. "Ndizama nzima" utsho kumyeni wakhe uVince, osele esembhedeni, elungele ukulala. “Sithandwa, kufuneka uphumle. Abantwana bayaphila ”utsho. "Phola?" Uthi, “Awuqondi ukuba kwenzeke ntoni? UNathan wayenomsindo kakhulu ngam kangangokuba wayiphosa ezantsi ibhayisekile yakhe esitratweni wayikhaba. Andenzi umsebenzi olungileyo njengomama ”. Watsho ngelizwi elibuhlungu. "Uye wehla kakhulu kuye kwaye uqhuba ibhayisekile" utshilo. “Wayenqaba ukuzama, ndaziva ngathi ufuna ukutyhilwa kancinci. Awuqondi; Ingqondo yakho ibikwenye indawo. Ngendincede uyazi. Abantwana abayiwo amahlahla; Azikhuli zodwa. Baneemvakalelo kwaye bafuna ukukhathalelwa ngokweemvakalelo ”. Uthe xa ilizwi lakhe elilusizi liguquka lilizwi eliphantse ukuba linomsindo. “Ewe ndiyaqonda. Ungatsho njani? Ndisebenza zonke ezi yure, ukuze sibenobomi obungcono. ” Uye waphendula. Emva koko walandela esithi “Sthandwa sam, ndidiniwe, kwaye kufuneka ndilale. Andifuni kungena kwinto ngoku ”. Ngeli xesha xa wayenomsindo kwaye wavutha. “Udiniwe? Wena? Ububukele iTV ngelixa ndiphekayo, ndicoca kwaye ndihlamba iimpahla yonke intsasa. Ke emva kokukhwela ibhayisekile, uthathe ikhefu elimnandi leyure eli-1, ngelixa bendicinga ngento eyenzekileyo kwibhayisikile! Ndenze yonke into obundicelile namhlanje. Undithumele ukuba ndikhwele iibhayisekile, ndihambe ngenja, ndenze isaladi, kwaye ndenze njalo. Ukuba ufuna uncedo olungaphezulu, ubunokucela nje. Kufuneka ndibuze yonke into, andibi kunjalo? Awunakho ukusebenzisa isigwebo sakho, akunjalo? Hayi, akangekhe uzikhuphe kancinci ngeempelaveki ”.
Ejika umva ngelixa elele ebhedini, uthi "Ndiza kulala, ubusuku obuhle, ndiyakuthanda". Uphakama ebhedini wathatha umqamelo wakhe waphuma egumbini. “Andikholelwa ukuba ungalala nje kanjalo xa usazi ukuba ndikhathazekile ngoluhlobo”.
Isishwankathelo semeko
Kwenzeka ntoni apha nje? Ngaba uVince uyiJerk iyonke? Ngaba uKate yindlovukazi yedrama kunye nenkosikazi enzima? Hayi, bobabini ngabantu abalungileyo.Siyayazi loo nto kuba sidibene nabo befumana iingcebiso kwisibini. Baphambene ngothando kwaye banomtshato owonwabileyo ixesha elininzi. Ewe, lo ngumzekelo womahluko phakathi kwendlela amadoda nabafazi abaziva bethandwa kwaye bethandwa ngayo. UKate waziva ephoxekile ngokwenzekileyo kwangoko ngemini nabantwana. Xa wajika waya kuVince, wayemjongile ukuba amkhathalele ngokweemvakalelo; mhlawumbi emnika ingqiniseko yokuba ungumama olungileyo. Ukuba abantwana bayazi ukuba uyabathanda, ukuba wenza kakhulu kwaye uNathan akazukukhumbula ukuba wamngxolisa. Ayisiyo into ethethwe nguVince ayinabunyani, kodwa endaweni yokuba uKate wayefuna into eyahlukileyo ngelo xesha.
Njengoko uKate wayethetha noNathan, nangona kwakusemva kwemini, wayemzama ukuze amncede azole. Wayebuza ngaphandle kwamagama ukuba ufuna inkxaso yakhe ngokweemvakalelo. Kwelinye icala, yena wayecinga ukuba uyamhlasela kwaye ucebisa ukuba akenzi ngokwaneleyo. Yiyo loo nto ephendule ngokuzikhusela kwaye wacacisa iiyure zakhe zomsebenzi, njlnjl. Kutheni ukujonga kwabo imeko kukhokelela kwiziphumo ezibi?
Umahluko phakathi kokukhathalela kunye nokunyamekela abantu esibathandayo
- Ukukhathalela umntu omthandayo, kunokuboniswa ngezenzo zobubele ezifana nokuhlamba imoto, ukwenza ukutya, ukunkcenkceshela ingca, ukuhlamba izitya, kunye nezinye “izenzo zobubele”. Ukwenza imali, kunye nokuxhasa enye imali, kuyawa phantsi kolu luhlu ngokunjalo.
- Ukukhathalela abantu esibathandayo ayizizo iintshukumo, kodwa kukucinga kunye nenkqubo yokucinga ekrelekrele kunye nokubonisa ukwamkelwa. Ukuba kulo mzuzu, ukuhlonipha ixesha labo, ukuba wedwa, ukusikelwa umda kunye neemvakalelo.
Kwenzeka ntoni phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo, ngakumbi emitshatweni kuba ulindelo lwemitshato luphezulu kunezinye iindlela zobudlelwane ngakumbi xa kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo, esi sibini sibuyele kubo I-ego-centric isiqu sakho. Le yinxalenye yesiqu sam "esijolise kuyo", ethe-ethe kunye nokugweba. Eli candelo lomntu, ngakumbi phantsi kwamaxesha oxinzelelo, apho umntu anokuzigxeka kakhulu, unokuzimela, wohlwaye wena kwaye udideke. Inokuba ngqwabalala, ingenangqondo, ingenabuntu, kunye / okanye ilawule.
Ekuziqhelaniseni kwam, ndihlala ndimema izibini zam ukuba zikhangele imikhondo efihliweyo. Izikhokelo zinokuba ngamagama, ulwimi lomzimba, okanye ixesha elichithwe. Kumzekelo ongentla, zontathu izikhombisi ziphawulwe nguKate. Imikhondo emibini ebekwe nguKate ibisithi "Ndizama kakhulu" kwaye "awuqondi". Ngalo lonke ixesha elichithwe nguVince, kwaye engqina okwenzekileyo, waye waziva enetyala lokuba uKate angaziva enetyala. Nangona ngaphezulu, kungabonakala ngathi uKate wayehlasela uVince xa esithi "awuqondi", wayecela ukuba aqonde ingxaki yakhe. Endaweni yoko, uphendule ngokunika isisombululo esithi "Kufuneka uphumle" esinokuthi sishumayele xa singabambeli.
Eyona nto ibinokuba ngcono kukuba alule isandla, ambambe ngesandla, okanye amange kwaye athi, into ethi "uzama nzima sithandwa" okanye "sthandwa, awufanelanga ukuba ugqibelele" okanye “Sweetie, ndicela ungabi nzima kwiziqu zakho, umkhulu”.
Kwelinye icala, wayenokwenza ntoni uKate, endaweni yokuzama ukuthuthuzela umyeni wakhe ngento awayecebisa ukuba ilixesha elingalunganga? Kucacile ukuba bobabini aba bantu "bayakhathalelana". Kodwa ngaba "babekhathalelana". UKate wayenokuyihlonipha imida kaVince. Wayenokuyithemba into yokuba wayengazukuvela kwindawo yokungakhathali, kodwa endaweni yokhuseleko. UVince ngesele enze uvavanyo olukhawulezileyo kuluhlu lweemvakalelo zakhe kwaye waqonda ukuba udiniwe kakhulu ukuba angamamela kwaye ke, ukunqanda ungquzulwano, xa kunokwenzeka athethe into engeyiyo, uthathe indlela yokunganyaniseki wathi "Ndifuna ukulala". Ewe kunjalo, engazi okanye engaqondi ukuba wayenokhetho ekuxoxwe ngalo ngasentla, olungakhange luthathe ixesha elininzi kwaphela.
Amanyathelo okunyamekela
- Soloko uthatha uluhlu lweemvakalelo lokuba uphi kwaye uphi omnye umntu ngaphambi kokuqala Ingxoxo
- Cwangcisa injongo kwaye ucinge ngombono wento oyifunayo ukuqala incoko
- Nxibelelana ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni le njongo kwiqabane lakho ngokucacileyo
- Lindela uze ubone ukuba kukho ukuqheleka kwiinjongo ngaphandle kokulindelweyo
- Yamkela kunokuba unyanzelise isisombululo
Ekugqibeleni, masiphinde senze into ebinokwenzeka phakathi kukaKate noVince. Ukuba uKate wayeqhelanise ngokucacileyo inyathelo lesi-3 endaweni yokucinga ukuba uVince angazifunda ezi zalathiso, ngewayengayifumana inkxaso awayeyilindele. Kwelinye icala, ukuba uVince ebenokulisebenzisa inyathelo loku-1, ngewayephawule ukuba le nto yayifunwa nguKate yayingelilo uvavanyo lwento eyenzekileyo, kodwa yayisiqinisekiso.
Ubudlelwane lishishini elinzima
Uninzi lucinga ukuba uthando luthetha ukwazi konke. Olu ayilo thando; Kukuxela ithamsanqa. Uthando luthatha umonde, nokuqonda, kunye nokuzithoba kunye nokwenza konke oku kungasentla. Ukwahlula phakathi kokuKhathalela kunye nokuKhathalela abantu esibathandayo, kuyasinceda ukuba sihlale sizolile, kwaye sithobeke ngamaxesha apho ngokwemvelo sithambekele ekuzimiseleni kwaye sizibekele ulindelo oluphezulu kunye neengcinga ezimbi ezizenzekelayo. Ayilulo Uthando lweThenda. Ayilulo ukhathalelo lweThenda. Luthando kunye noKhathalelo. Kufuneka sizinakekele ezethu iimfuno kuqala, emva koko sibe sisithethi sokunxibelelana ngokucacileyo namaqabane ethu, okanye abanye ababalulekileyo kwaye sibavumele bazive bekhuselekile ngokwenza okufanayo.