Umxholo
- Yintoni uxinzelelo ngokwesondo?
- Indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngesondo ingatshintshwa
- Zithini iimpawu?
- Yintoni onokuyenza ukuzikhulula?
- Yise kude
Ngaba unokucinga ngexesha apho wagqibela ukuziva unemincili kunye nomnqweno wesondo owongamela? Kwimeko apho impendulo yakho ithi 'andikhumbuli' okanye "ngekhe" unokuba ufumana uxinzelelo lwesondo.
Kuluntu lwanamhlanje, le ayisiyo mpendulo ingaqhelekanga. USigmund Freud uchonge ingcambu yeengxaki ezininzi kuluntu lwaseNtshona njengoxinzelelo lwesondo. Izimvo zakhe zazingekho ngaphandle kwabagxeki, kodwa uxinzelelo ngokwesondo sisihloko abantu abaninzi abachaphazelekayo.
Eyona nto icinezelayo inkcubeko, inkolo, kunye nokukhuliswa kokukhona amathuba okuba umntu akhulele kwezi meko afumane le meko.
Yintoni uxinzelelo ngokwesondo?
Yintoni ethatha indawo yengcinezelo yesondo inokwahluka ngokuxhomekeka kwinkcubeko, kodwa le nto inxibelelene nokungakwazi ukubonisa ezakho ngokwesini ngendlela eyonelisayo. Iimpawu ezihlala zenzeka zibandakanya ukuncipha kwesifiso sokuziphatha ngokwesondo, ukonqena, ukucaphuka kunye nokungonwabi ngenxa yeempembelelo zesondo. Ngaphandle kwezo zidwelisiweyo, iimvakalelo zokuba netyala kunye neentloni zihlala zenzeka.
Ukucinga ukuba umntu unengxaki yoxinzelelo ngokwesondo, uninzi lweempawu ezichazwe apha ziyaqhubeka ngaphandle komlingane. Oku kunxulumene nokwoneliseka ngokwesondo okuphuhliswe ngumntu kuyo yonke ikhondo lobomi kwaye yinto enamava kuyo yonke ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kude kube umjikelo ubuyiselwe umva, kunjalo.
Indlela esikhuliswe ngayo kunye nemeko esondeleyo kuyo kunye noluntu inento yokwenza nokukhula kwengcinezelo yesondo.
Njengabantwana abancinci, sifundiswa ukuba yintoni "elungileyo" kwaye yintoni "engalunganga", ngokuthetha ngomlomo kunye nokuziphatha.
Umzekelo, usenokuba unxulumana neemvakalelo zokuziva uneentloni kunye nokwabelana ngesondo xa kwavela into evuselela inkanuko kumabonwakude ngokuqaphela indlela ababengakhululekanga ngayo abazali bakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, inokuba sisiphumo sokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo okanye amava angathandekiyo kunye nokuhlukumeza ngokwesondo.
Indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngesondo ingatshintshwa
Kukho iindaba ezimnandi, nangona!
Indlela esivakalelwa ngayo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo inokutshintshwa kuba uxinzelelo ngokwesondo luyimveliso yengqondo ebonisa isini njengezinto ezingcolileyo okanye ezimdaka (faka igama lakho apha).
Sikhuliswe ukuba samkele kwaye sixabise iinkolelo zesini njengeziphethe kakubi, zimdaka kwaye zikhohlakele. Nangona kunjalo, yongeza ukukhula kobuqu kule nxaki, kwaye singafunda ukukholelwa kokuchaseneyo - isini siyindalo njengomoya esiwuphefumlayo okanye ukutya esikutyayo, kunye novuyo kunye nolonwabo oluvela kuyo, akukho nto ukuba neentloni ngayo .
Zithini iimpawu?
Ukuphazamiseka nokungahambi kakuhle komzimba
Amandla ezesondo, ukuba awakhange akhululwe, kunokubangela ukonyuka koxinzelelo emzimbeni. Kunokubakho iintlungu entanyeni, emagxeni nasezinqeni.
Amandla angakhutshwa ngexesha le-orgasm anokuwuthwalisa umzimba obangela ukungonwabi.
Kwangelo xesha ezi mpawu, ukuba zihlala zodwa, zinokuba sisiphumo soxinzelelo kunye nendlela yokuphila.
2. Ukuphuthelwa kunye namaphupha enkanuko
Ukuhlawulwa kwentlawulo yesondo kunokubangela ukulala kunye neengxaki zokulala.
Ukongeza, usenokude ufumane ubuninzi bamaphupha enkanuko.
Oku kunokuba yindlela yokuba umzimba wakho ukwazise ukuba awuhlangabezani namandla akho ezesondo.
3. Iimvakalelo zokunqanyulwa
Abantu abanamava okucinezelwa ngokwesondo abayinyanzeli into yokuba babelane ngesondo. Banokuba namaqabane ezesondo, kodwa uyolo luhlala lungekho kwesi senzo.Wakhe waziva ngathi awukho ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, nokuba ulala nabani, nini okanye phi? Ngaba le mvakalelo iyaqhubeka kwaye ufumanise ukuba awukwazi ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo zomzimba ozifumanayo? Ukuba ewe, unokuba uphantsi kwempembelelo yoxinzelelo ngokwesondo.
4. Ukuphepha umzimba ohamba ze
Abantu abaphethwe yingcinezelo yesondo bayakuphepha ukuzijonga beze. Ewe kunjalo, oku kungakho ngenxa yezinye izizathu, kodwa xa zidityaniswe nezinye iimpawu ezidwelisiweyo ziyayixhasa ingcinga yokuba isondo licinezelwe ngokwenene.
5. Ukuyeka ukuphulula amalungu esini okanye ukuwugweba
Abanye bethu bakhule benoluvo lokuba ukuphulula amalungu esini akulunganga, kunokubangela ukungaboni, sisono kwaye kufanelekile ukuba kuthintelwe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuphulula amalungu esini yindlela yendalo kunye esemthethweni yokutyhila oko sikuthandayo kunye noko kuziva kulungile.
6.Ukuziva uneentloni kunxibelelene nokubongoza
Abantu nazo zizilwanyana kwaye iminqweno yesini yinxalenye yethu njengoko sinesidingo sokutya nokusela amanzi. Sisinye sezilwanyana ezinqabileyo ezabelana ngesondo kungekuphela nje ngokwandisa uhlobo, kodwa ngenxa yolonwabo lwazo nazo. Ke ngoko, iimvakalelo zentloni kunye nokuziva unetyala kunxulunyaniswe ngokungeyomfuneko kwiminqweno yesini kwaye ziyimveliso yengqondo yethu.
Yintoni onokuyenza ukuzikhulula?
Xa sizama ukusombulula ingxaki kufuneka siqale sijonge unobangela wayo kunye nendlela echaphazela ngayo ubomi bethu. Phambi kokuba sizame ukuyisombulula kufuneka siyiqonde.
Ke ngoko, nantoni na ecetyiswayo apha kufuneka ikhutshwe ngononophelo. Kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuzama ukuzikhulula, nangona kunjalo ukufumana uncedo lobuchwephesha kuyindlela ekhuselekileyo ekufuneka uyithathile, ngakumbi ukuba uxinzelelo ngokwesondo lubangelwe ziimpawu ezimbi. Ezi ngxaki zinokusonjululwa. Bayinxalenye yakho, kodwa ungakhululeka kubo. Awuzalwanga uneentloni, unetyala kwaye ungenawo umnqweno wesini.
Ngalo naliphi na ixesha elinikiweyo ebomini bakho, unelungelo lokuphinda ubonakalise isimilo sakho!
Tshintsha loo miyalezo icinezelayo kunye nenkululeko kwaye uqale uhambo lwakho ngokutsha.
Yise kude
Mhlawumbi ungaqala ngokubhala phantsi ingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho kwijenali. Ngokwenza oku uya kuba nakho ukufumana intsingiselo entsha kwaye uqonde ngcono into ohamba kuyo. Ukongeza, zazise, qalisa ukufunda malunga nokwabelana ngesondo kunye nezibonelelo zako. Fikelela kubantu onokubathemba kwaye uthethe nabo. Oku kunokukunceda uchithe ezinye zeenkolelo ezikugcina uzibambile, utshintshe iingcinga zakho ngaphambi kokuba utshintshe indlela oziphethe ngayo. Nje ukuba uzilungiselele, ungaqala ukuphonononga umzimba wakho ngokuwujonga esipilini, phantsi kweshawa, uzichukumise ukuze ufumane into evakalayo, njl.
Khumbula, indlela yokutshintsha ayingomgca othe ngqo, kunokubakho amahla ndenyukakunye nokuziva kwakhona unetyala kunye neentloni.
Kwezo meko, kubandakanya uncedo lweengcali kunokuba lukhetho oluhle kwaye olunokwenza inkqubo ukuba ikhawuleze kwaye izinze. Ekugqibeleni, vumela ubuchule kwaye uzame ezinye iindlela-jonga ukuvuselela isini sakho ngobugcisa, umculo, umdaniso okanye ukunxiba ngokwahlukileyo. Zininzi iindlela onokuhamba ngazo, kwaye uvunyelwe ukuba ufumane ezona zinto zivakalayo kuwe.