Umxholo
- 1. Yenza isiteketiso sakho
- 2. Unoluvo lwakho kwimicimbi yezentlalo neyehlabathi
- 3. Hlonipha abantu basetyhini nabantu obaziyo
- 4. Amava onke iimvakalelo kunye neemeko
- 5. Yenza into oyithandayo
- 6. Musa ukuphumelela kancinane
- 7. Lala kakuhle kwaye ucamngce
- 8. Hlaziya usuku lwakho
- 9. Soloko uphupha kakhulu
Wakha wazibuza ukuba yintoni eyenza zonke iimagnethi zeshishini ezicebileyo, abadlali abathandanayo, kunye nothando lokulukuhla olwahluke ngokupheleleyo kolunye isihlwele? Kwenzeka njani ukuba abafazi bathande ukurhalela izinto ezinjalo?
Kukho inqaku elinye lokutshintsha umdlalo elixhaphakileyo kubantu abanjalo, kwaye iingcebiso ngobuhlobo zamadoda anikezwe apha ngezantsi anokukunceda uyiqonde kakuhle!
Xa siphandwe ngokucokisekileyo, sinokufumanisa ukuba amandla engqondo kunye nenkqubo yokucinga ababekhe bayenza kuyo yonke iminyaka yabo yamava zizinto ezinoxanduva kwimpumelelo yabo enkulu.
Ukuba nomtsalane akusoloko kuqinisekisa impumelelo. Kufuneka ube 'nobuhle bengqondo.' Nangona indibaniselwano yobudenge, inomyalezo wokuba kufuneka ube ngumntu othile.
Ukuvela njengoMnumzana Omangalisayo, kufuneka ulandele ezi ndlela zingqiniweyo kwaye wenze onke amanenekazi awela kuwe!
Emva kokufunda eli nqaku, uyakufunda ukuba- 'Kufana nokuba yingqondi ngaphandle kokuba ube krelekrele!'
Nazi iingcebiso zobudlelwane ezilithoba zamadoda ukuze zingabinakuphikiswa kwaye ube ngumntu otsala iintliziyo neengqondo zabasetyhini abaninzi.
1. Yenza isiteketiso sakho
Oku kuvakala kuyothusa, kodwa igama elicingelwayo linika ubuntu bakho ipolishi ekhazimlayo. Uninzi lwabantu abanempembelelo kumabala afana nemidlalo, iimuvi, bakhetha ukuya kwisiteketiso.
Igama lakho ekuthiwa ligama kufuneka libe nefuthe kwaye lahluke kwabanye. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, zama ukuyenza emva kwebali lakho lobomi okanye amava atshintsha ubomi.
Omnye wabahlobo bam uzibiza ngokuba 'yinkosana enesiqingatha segazi'. Bendisazi ukuba ikwaligama elifanayo u-J. K. Rowling alinike umlinganiswa wakhe uNjingalwazi Snape. Kodwa inantoni yokwenza nosomashishini?
Ngenye imini, ndambuza ibali emva kwesidlaliso sakhe esingaqhelekanga. Impendulo endiyifumeneyo kufanelekile ukuba ndiyifunde!
Uthe kum ukuba umama wakhe wamkhulisa njengomzali omnye. Wayengazi ukuba ngubani utata wakhe omzalayo, kodwa xa ebuzwa, umama wakhe wamxelela ukuba uyindoda ekhohlakeleyo.
Njengokuba inkwenkwana ikhula, yayiqonda ukuba buyintoni ubomi kwaye kunjani ukuphila ngaphandle kotata!
Umhlobo wam ucinga ukuba wazalwa kukungqubana kokulungileyo nokubi. Uye wagqabaza ukuba akanakususa inxenye yakhe engeyiyo kodwa angahlala ethembela kwinto elungileyo.
Inxalenye yakhe elungileyo yiyo emkhuthaza ngalo lonke ixesha. Yile ndlela igama elithi 'inkosana yegazi-yegazi' langena ngayo ebomini bakhe!
Uhambo lwakhe lwalunemvakalelo kodwa lwalukhuthaza kakhulu. Uphumelele kakhulu ngoku, kwaye ibali elinje longeza ubulawu kubuntu bakhe.
Ukuba ulandela le 'ngcebiso yobudlelwane emadodeni,' iya kubonisa kuye ukuba sisiphumo sezigqibo zakho hayi iimeko.
2. Unoluvo lwakho kwimicimbi yezentlalo neyehlabathi
Ezi 'ngcebiso zobudlelwane emadodeni' ziya kukhulisa ubukrelekrele bakho. Ngelixa uncokola naye, nakanjani na niya kuxoxa ngemicimbi yezentlalo neyehlabathi.
Ngamanye amaxesha, unokudubula umoya kunye nawe kwiingxaki zehlabathi ezifana nobhubhane wangoku, imiba yabasetyhini, ukutshatyalaliswa kwamahlathi, ubuhlanga, njl.
Ukuba nolwakho uluvo kwezi ngxaki kunokukwenza ube sisidenge. Kwakhona, yazi ukuba abanye abantu basetyhini ngabom bazisa ezi zifundo ukujonga ubukrelekrele bakho kunye nokuzonwabisa.
Ngeli qhinga, uya kuwuphumelela kwangoko 'uvavanyo lomgwebo'! Ukuze ube kwicala elikhuselekileyo, kufuneka uqhubeke ukwandisa ulwazi lwakho - ‘Okukhona ufunda, kokukhona ufumana umvuzo!
3. Hlonipha abantu basetyhini nabantu obaziyo
Oku kuqhelekile kodwa kufanelekile ukuba kudweliswe. Nanini na xa ukunye nomntu, ngakumbi owasetyhini, zama ukumenza azive amkelekile.
Ukuba uyintanda yakho, imbeko yiyo eya kunika impumelelo kumadoda kubudlelwane. Khumbula inyani yokuba intlonipho izala imbeko kwaye uthando luzala uthando, ungaphoswa naliphi na ithuba lokumenza azive kwilifu lesithoba.
Soloko uzama ukuba yindoda emncedayo ukuba akholelwe ukuba ungoyena ubalaseleyo kulo mhlaba. Ukubamba izimvo ezinkulu malunga nabantu basetyhini kunye nabantu obaziyo ngokungathanga ngqo kutyala ingcinga yokuba 'ungumntu othile!'
4. Amava onke iimvakalelo kunye neemeko
Ukuzithemba nokunyamezelana zombini ziimpawu zendoda ekhulileyo ngokwasengqondweni. Ukuba unazo zombini ezi mpawu, impumelelo iya kuza ngendlela yakho.
Kodwa ukuba awenzi njalo, kuya kufuneka ufunde, njengoko ezi zinto zintle kangaka zizezakho ezinamandla okukhuthaza!
Unokuzifumana ngokulula ezi mpawu zimbini. Nantsi inkohliso yokufunda iincwadi ezijolise kuhlobo lwebhayiloji kunye nenkuthazo. Oku kukunceda ukuba ube neemvakalelo ababhali abanazo, kodwa awunayo.
Uya kufunda kwakhona indlela yokujongana neemeko ezithile kwaye ube yindoda ezithembileyo. Oku ngokungangqalanga kukwenza womelele ngokwasengqondweni kwaye kukubonelele ngamandla afunekayo ukuze uchasane neengxaki!
5. Yenza into oyithandayo
Umntu okrelekrele kwaye onobunkunkqele uhlala engenaxinzelelo. Yintoni imfihlo? Bahlala bezibandakanya kwizinto abathanda ukuzenza.
Banesistresbuster sabo, esibahlaziya kuwo wonke umceli mngeni.
Nantoni na ekuncedayo kukukhathaza. Ikwenza uzolile, okhulisa ingqondo yakho yexesha. Ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuziva ukhuthazeka.
Gxila kwizinto ezinjalo xa usiva - 'Awunakuyenza!'
6. Musa ukuphumelela kancinane
Ukuba ilandelwe ngokuthembekileyo, ezi 'ngcebiso zobudlelwane emadodeni' zinokukuzisa kwi-1%!
'Ukwenza okungaphantsi ufezekise okungaphezulu' kuthetha nje ukusebenza ngobukrelekrele, hayi nzima. Ukukuqonda ngcono oku, masithethe ngengqondo.
Zimbini iintlobo zengqondo elandelwayo ngabantu-abasebenzi kunye nabaphathi.
Kwindlela yokusebenza kwengqondo yabantu, abantu bagweba impumelelo yabo ngenani leeyure abasebenza kuzo. Kwelinye icala, kwingqondo yomphathi, abantu bagweba impumelelo yabo ngenani leeyure zokuvelisa.
Cinga ngomntu osebenza iiyure ezili-15 kodwa angayifumani into ayifunayo. Omnye umntu usebenza iiyure ezi-2 kuphela kwaye ngokulula ufumana into ayinqwenelayo.
Qeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuba ilandele indlela yokucinga yomphathi.
Kuya kufuneka wenze inqaku kwaye udwelise phantsi wonke umsebenzi obalulekileyo ofuna ukuwenza. Ngale nto, uya kukhawuleza kwaye ufunde ukugxila kwizinto ezilungileyo. Oku kungathatha iinyanga okanye iminyaka, kodwa iziphumo zilungile!
Ukusetyenziswa rhoqo kwale ndlela kuya kukufumanela ingqondo yomphathi. Ngale ndlela, unokufumana ngaphezulu, ujonge ukukhula, kwaye ube nefuthe kumgangatho wobudlelwane bakho!
Bukela le ntetho yeTED ilandelayo apho uBethany Butzer, umbhali, isithethi, umphandi kunye nomhlohli kwiYunivesithi yaseNew York echaza indlela yokuphila ubomi kunye nokufezekisa iinjongo ngokufanelekileyo nangokufanelekileyo ngaphandle kokuxinezeleka.
7. Lala kakuhle kwaye ucamngce
Umntu ophilileyo engqondweni uhlala ejolise kwezi zinto zimbini.
Ukulala kakuhle akuthethi ukonqena okanye ukuvuka emva kwexesha kakhulu. Kuthetha nje ukunikezela ixesha lakho iiyure ezingama-24 ngokukodwa ukulala.
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba kufuneka ulale iiyure eziyi-8 - 10 ngosuku. Ikunika ingqondo ezolileyo kunye noyilo, mhlawumbi yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo zokulala okuhle xa kufikwa kubudlelwane.
Yintoni eyenzayo ukucamngca?
Ukucamngca kunye nokuzilolonga nako kukunceda ukuba uphumle emzimbeni nasengqondweni.
Izibonelelo zempilo yokucamngca zibandakanya ukukhutshwa kwee-endorphins, ezinokukwenza wonwabe!
Ngaphandle kwale nto, iihormone ezinje nge-serotonin nazo ziyimfihlo, ezonyusa imeko yakho!
8. Hlaziya usuku lwakho
Ukuba ufuna ukubonisa abafazi ngengqondo yakho ebukhali, le 'ngcebiso yobudlelwane emadodeni' ingakumbi kuwe.
Xa kubudlelwane, usuku lwakho luzaliswe zizinto ezininzi ezingalibalekiyo ezinje ngencoko emnandi, ukwanga okufudumeleyo, ukumangaliswa okumangalisayo, ukutya ngaphakathi, ukuncamisa uthando, njalo njalo.
Ukuba uyazazi ngentloko, uyakuhlala wonwabile, kwaye ukuba ubuza ngokufanayo, uya kugungqa! Kodwa ungayiphucula njani inkumbulo yakho?
Ngaphambi kokuba ulale, vala amehlo akho kwaye uqalise ukujonga ngeso lengqondo zonke izinto ozenzileyo ngala mini.
Ukwenza oku ngesiqhelo kuya kukwenza ube yintshatsheli! Le yeyona ndlela ilula yokuphucula imemori yakho. Indincede kakhulu kubudlelwane bam.
9. Soloko uphupha kakhulu
Iphupha kuphela kwendawo apho unokwenza nantoni na phantsi kwelanga, nokuba uhlala nabafazi obathandayo okanye ungoyena mntu usisityebi emhlabeni!
Amaphupha anendawo yayo yonke into enjalo. Ke, phupha nantoni na oyifunayo kuba 'ukuba ungaphupha, ungayenza!'
Iphupha lokuba ngumntu onqwenela ukuba lilo. Umsebenzi wakho onzima, umnqweno kunye namaphupha anokukunceda ufeze impumelelo kuyo nayiphi na intsimi oyifunayo!