Umxholo
- Yintoni esebenzayo
- 1. Nenza izicwangciso zokuhamba kunye
- 2. Uziva uphelele kunye
- 3. Nihlala nenza iinzame zokugcina omnye nomnye onwabile
- 4. Ubonisa iqabane lakho kwabanye
- 5. Wazisa iqabane lakho kusapho lwakho
- 6. Nijongene nobunzima kunye
- 7. Niceba ikamva lenu kunye
- Yintoni engayi kusebenza
- 1. Iqabane lakho lisachacha kubudlelwane obungaphumelelanga
- 2. Ufumana imvakalelo engalunganga yamathumbu
- 3. Uziva umathandabuzo malunga nezicwangciso zexesha elizayo kunye
- 4. Iqabane lakho alamkeli ubudlelwane eluntwini
- 5. Uphepha ubumfihlo beqabane lakho
- 6. Ulwa kakhulu.
- 7. Awukadibani nosapho lwakhe
- 8. Wena neqabane lakho anikho kwiphepha elinye
- Inyathelo eliya phambili-Iinjongo zexesha elide zobudlelwane
Abanye bathi eyona nto intle kwaye intle kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane lixesha "lomtshato." Ngelixa abanye bekhetha ukuqala ukulungiselela emva kwenqanaba leenyanga ezi-6 zobudlelwane kwaye bajolise kwiinjongo zabo zobudlelwane bexesha elide, abanye banokukhetha umtshato. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ulubhala njani ulwalamano lwakho, kuya kuza ixesha apho yonke into iya kuba yinyani, apho ukuthandana kungeyona yodwa iglue ebambe ndawonye. Yilapho ubuhlobo bokwenene buqala khona.
Ngaba ukhe uzibuze ukuba kutheni inqanaba leenyanga ezi-6 zolwalamano luhlala lubonwa njengolwenza okanye ixesha lekhefu lobuhlobo bakho? Ngexesha lokuqala kweenyanga ezi-6 zolwalamano lwakho, ufumana loo mabhabhathane esiswini sakho uziva, ufumana uvuyo, kunye nemincili yokuba yintloko phezu kwezithende kuthando. Njengoko besitsho, kulapho yonke into ibonakala ijolise ekwazaneni, ekuhlaleni ngokukhululekileyo kolu lwalamano lutsha.
Ngaba ukhe uzibuze ukuba uza kudlula kwinqanaba lenyanga le-6 lenyanga? Ukuba ukhona, Nazi ezinye izinto onokufuna ukuzijonga.
Yintoni esebenzayo
Kubudlelwane, senza konke okusemandleni ukwenza izinto kwaye siya kude sitshintshe senzele umntu esimthandayo. Kuzo zonke iinzame zethu, singathanda ukwabelana nabanye ukuba ezi zinto zilandelayo ziimpawu zokuba ukwindlela elungileyo eya kubudlelwane bexesha elide.
1. Nenza izicwangciso zokuhamba kunye
Kulula ukuthandana kwaye wonwabe kodwa xa nobabini niqala ukucinga ngokuhamba kunye kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ngumqondiso olungileyo. Sifuna ukubona izibini zizithembile ngokwaneleyo ukuba zingahamba nokuba kukanye okanye kabini ngexesha leenyanga ezi-6 zobudlelwane.
2. Uziva uphelele kunye
Ngaba ukhe uzive ugqibelele xa ukunye neqabane lakho? Ngaba wakha waziva ngoluhlobo ngaphambili? Ukuba eli lixesha lokuqala ke unento eyenzekayo ngokwenyani kwaye intle nje. Nangona ungazithembi kakhulu, kusafuneka usebenze ngokusemandleni akho ukugcina olu lwalamano luhle.
3. Nihlala nenza iinzame zokugcina omnye nomnye onwabile
Zingaphi iinyanga oko uqala ubudlelwane bakho? Ngaba wena okanye iqabane lakho niyigcinile inkxalabo kunye nobumnandi omnye komnye? Usabona umzamo ofanayo kwiqabane lakho? Esi sesinye sezizathu eziqinisekileyo zokuzithemba ukuba ulwalamano olude. Kuthetha ukuba uyilungele into ebaluleke ngakumbi.
4. Ubonisa iqabane lakho kwabanye
Xa iqabane lakho lifuna ukuba uhambe nabo nanini na kukho ithuba lokuba kunye nabahlobo okanye amagosa aseburhulumenteni, ke uliqabane elinye elinethamsanqa. Oku kuthetha ukuba iqabane lakho liyazingca ngawe kwaye liyazithemba ngokwaneleyo ukuba likuvumele udibane noogxa kunye nabahlobo bakho.
5. Wazisa iqabane lakho kusapho lwakho
Kwiinyanga ezi-6 zobudlelwane bakho, ingaba iqabane lakho likumeme ukuba nihlangane nosapho lwalo? Ngaba nawe wenze okufanayo? Ukuba kunjalo, ngaba ninokucinga ngokuba yinxalenye yabahlobo nosapho lomnye nomnye? Nobabini nilungele iinjongo zakho zobudlelwane bexesha elide.
6. Nijongene nobunzima kunye
Akukho buhlobo bokwenene ngaphandle kwezilingo. Ukuba unebhongo lokuthetha ukuba unezabelo zakho ezifanelekileyo kwaye uzoyisile kunye, konke oko luphawu oluhle.
7. Niceba ikamva lenu kunye
Ukuba sele uqalile ukuthetha ngokuhamba kunye okanye ukutshata lixesha lokuba uphakame. Qiniseka kodwa uvuleleke kutshintsho, lunga kodwa ungangxami.
Ukuba ulwalamano apho ukwazi ukugcina ukuba ungubani kunye nobuntu bakho, oko kuthetha ukuba iqabane lakho likhupha okona kulungileyo kuwe. Unento yokwenyani eqhubekayo ...
Yintoni engayi kusebenza
Sonke siyazi ukuba abukho ubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo, enyanisweni, olunye ulwalamano alunakusebenza kwinqanaba lokuqala leenyanga ezi-6 kwaye abanye abayi kuba nakho ukubetha kwinqanaba lenyanga lesithathu. Oku kuyenzeka xa umntu engakwazi ukulalanisa okanye eyi-narcissist. Ngaphandle kwezi, Nazi ezinye izizathu zokuba kutheni ubudlelwane obuthile bungazukusebenza.
1. Iqabane lakho lisachacha kubudlelwane obungaphumelelanga
Ukuba iqabane lakho lisaphukile ngaphakathi ngenxa yobudlelwane obungaphumelelanga kwixesha elidlulileyo- alikakulungeli. Asikhangeli ukubuyela apha, sijolise kubudlelwane bexesha elide ukuba iqabane lakho alikadluli kwi-ex yakhe, yinto embi leyo.
2. Ufumana imvakalelo engalunganga yamathumbu
Thembela kwisibindi sakho. Ukuba ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho liphepha izicwangciso kunye nemibuzo malunga nekamva lakho, sele iluphawu lokuba ayikakulungeli.
3. Uziva umathandabuzo malunga nezicwangciso zexesha elizayo kunye
Ngelixa abahlobo bakho beqale ukufuduka kunye namaqabane abo, kwelinye icala, eyakho inyanzelisa umbono wokuhlala kunye. Iflegi ebomvu apha.
4. Iqabane lakho alamkeli ubudlelwane eluntwini
Ungathini ukuba iqabane lakho liyinto yonke oyikhangelayo kodwa ayisiyiyo leyakho ukulebhula ulwalamano lwakho okanye ukukubiza ngokuba liqabane lakho? Ewe, lo inokuba luphawu olucelayo ngaphambi kokuba uphume kolu lwalamano lungekho mpilweni.
5. Uphepha ubumfihlo beqabane lakho
Ngoku, akusoloko lelinye iqabane elinengxaki kutheni ezinye ubudlelwane zingasebenzi, sonke sineziphoso ezinje ngokuba nomona kakhulu okanye uthambekele ekulawuleni yonke intshukumo yakhe kwaye ujonge nefowuni yakhe. Oku akuyi kusebenza-kuqinisekisiwe.
6. Ulwa kakhulu.
Oku sele kubonisa ukuba usenokungahambelani omnye nomnye.
7. Awukadibani nosapho lwakhe
Uphantse waba kulwalamano olunesiqingatha seminyaka kodwa usapho lwakhe alwazi ukuba ukhona okanye kungenjalo.
8. Wena neqabane lakho anikho kwiphepha elinye
Ukuba ungumntu onomdla wokwenene wokutshata okanye wokuba nabantwana kwaye iqabane lakho liziva licinezelekile malunga nalo-ke ayisiyongxaki. Ukutshata nokuba ngabazali kukwenzela iinjongo zobudlelwane zexesha elide kwaye akufuneki kuba kungenxa yokuba ucinezelwe ukuba uvume.
Inyathelo eliya phambili-Iinjongo zexesha elide zobudlelwane
Ukuthandana yinxalenye yobomi kwaye sonke sifuna ukuqhubela phambili kwiinjongo zobudlelwane bexesha elide kunye nomtshato nosapho. Nangona kunjalo, ayizizo zonke ubudlelwane eziya kuphumelela, unokuzibona ungabethi inqanaba leenyanga ezi-6 zobudlelwane kodwa esi ayisosizathu sokuyeka ukuthanda okanye ukuyeka ukuzama. Sukuba kubudlelwane nje; kunokuba zisebenze nzima ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho. Abanye bathi iinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala ziya kuvavanya uthando lwenu omnye komnye, abanye bathi lolona lonwabo kubudlelwane- ekupheleni kosuku, ukuba nje uzimisele ukulalanisa, ukuqonda kunye nothando, ke wenza okuhle ekufumaneni iqabane lakho ubomi bakho bonke.