Umxholo
- Izibonelelo ze-oxytocin kulwalamano
- Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo
- Igcina amaqabane enomdla
- Yiba nomfanekiso ngqondweni wezi meko zimbini:
- Ukuzibophelela okwandayo
- Ukwanda ukuthambisa ajikeleze lobufazi
- Ukuququmbela
Uninzi lwabantu lucinga kuphela ngesondo eliqhelekileyo njengenkqubo yokuzala, kwaye bambalwa kakhulu abacinga ngayo njengenye into enokunceda amaqabane enze amakhonkco asempilweni. Yintoni abantu abangayiqondiyo ziindlela zokwabelana ngesondo ezinokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho.
Ngaphandle kokudlala indima yokuzala kunye nokusasaza, ngesondo rhoqo inganceda ukudala ubudlelwane obonwabisayo.
Uninzi lwabantu luba neentloni ekuthetheni ngesondo, kwaye xa besenza njalo, kuhlala kungamazwi athuleyo. Kuyaqondakala ukukhusela abancinci kwintetho yesondo kuba abakabi badala.
Nangona kunjalo, abantu abadala kubudlelwane nakwimitshato kufuneka ngokupheleleyo yamkela isini esiqhelekileyo ngenxa yeziphumo ezilungileyo ezinazo kulwalamano.
Njengomntu omdala kuya kufuneka uqiniseke njani ukuba ndingabelana njani ngesondo ngcono? kwaye uzame ukufumana iindlela zokufezekisa isini esingcono kubudlelwane.
Olunye uphononongo luvavanye iqela labantu abadala abali-163 ukuze babone isiphumo sokungabikho kwesini esiqhelekileyo kubudlelwane babo. Iqela eliqukethe izibini ezingama-60 (i-120 yabantu) kunye ne-43 yabantu abangatshatanga.
Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba abatshatileyo kubudlelwane bezothando babenenqanaba eliphezulu le-oxytocin xa kuthelekiswa nee-singles. I-Oxytocin yincindi yedlala, kwaye ingqondo yakho ivelisa emva kokuncipha. I-Oxytocin, ekwabizwa ngokuba yi "Happy" okanye "love" hormone, inoxanduva lwesiphumo esihle kubudlelwane bezothando.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba i-oxytocin inegalelo kwiimpendulo zeemvakalelo emzimbeni wakho, ezinceda ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhlala buqinile nobomeleleyo. Oku kulandelayo zizibonelelo zehomoni kubudlelwane.
Izibonelelo ze-oxytocin kulwalamano
Ukonwaba kunye nokuphumla
Kolunye uphando, izazinzulu zifumanise ukuba i-oxytocin evela kwisini esiqhelekileyo inokuba nefuthe xa kufikwa ekudaleni ulonwabo phakathi kwabantu ababini kubudlelwane. Olu phononongo luvavanye abathathi-nxaxheba abangama-3800, kwaye isiphumo soko kukuba ukulala ngesondo rhoqo kudlala indima enkulu kubudlelwane obonwabisayo.
Wonke umntu ufuna iqabane elonwabileyo nelikhululekileyo. Kukho uvuyo oluza nokuba neqabane elonwabileyo, kwaye oku kunokwenza ubudlelwane ukuba bukhule. Iqabane elinomsindo, kwelinye icala, linokungathandeki ukuba phakathi.
Abantu abanomsindo benza ngokungenangqondo kwaye bacaphuka msinya. Iimpazamo ezincinci eziza kwenziwa liqabane elonwabileyo ngenye indlela ziyekelele isilayidi kunokwenzeka ukuba zenze mandundu iqabane elingonwabanga.
Iqabane elonwabileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba liphume kwindlela yalo yokwenza iqabane labo likhululeke ngakumbi ngokwenza izinto ezinje;
- Ukunceda ngemisebenzi yasekhaya
- Ukuthenga iintyatyambo kunye nezinye izipho
- Ukuqonda ngakumbi kunye nengqiqo.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ayisiyiyo nayiphi na into eyokwabelana ngesondo xa isiza ekudaleni ulonwabo. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokunyanzelwa kunokwenzeka ukuba wenze ngokuchaseneyo, kwaye kunokwenza elinye iqabane lingonwabi.
Ke, ke, kubaluleke kakhulu kwizibini ezitshatileyo yenza imeko-bume esempilweni yenza omabini amaqabane uyonwabele isondo. Imizekelo embalwa yezinto ezinokwenziwa ngamaqabane omabini apha zezi;
- Ukufunda ukuba neentlobano zesini rhoqo ngendlela efanelekileyo
- Ukuqinisekisa ukuba omabini amaqela ayahambelana omnye nomnye ngesilumko. Amanye amaqabane anomdla ngakumbi kunabanye
- Ukuzilungisa ngokwakho umzekelo ukucoceka
Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo
Ukuba usazibuza ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba neentlobano zesini kubudlelwane ?, sinethemba lokususa ukungathandabuzeki kwakho kweli candelo.
Ubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla buzele ziimeko zoxinzelelo, nokuba zivela kwindawo yoxinzelelo emsebenzini, ukujongana nokungalali ebusuku neentsana okanye imicimbi yemali. Uninzi lweeofisi ezinomphathi ophakanyisiweyo zinehlaya elisebenzayo elicebisa ukuba umphathi kufuneka abenokwabelana ngesondo ngakumbi.
Uxinzelelo kunokukhokelela kwi ezantsi libido; nangona kunjalo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunokwenza imimangaliso kuwe.
Ukwabelana ngesondo rhoqo inokukunceda ulawulo eyakho uxinzelelo kwaye ekugqibeleni kukhokelele ekubeni ufune ukwabelana ngesondo ngakumbi.
Ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, umntu uphefumla ngokunzulu kwaye awukhuphe umoya emzimbeni. Inkqubo yokuphefumla nzulu yile inceda ukuphelisa uxinzelelo, ngokunceda umzimba ukuba ukhulule uxinzelelo olunoxanduva lokudala uxinzelelo emzimbeni wakho.
Igcina amaqabane enomdla
Ngaba wakha wacinga ngesondo njengomsebenzi womzimba njengokuzilolonga? Ewe, isondo siyafana nokubaleka, ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza okanye ukunyuka usihla kwizitepsi.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba isondo siyafana nokusebenza ngokulingeneyo, okunokukunceda ukugcina ezo phawundi zisebenze. Ukuba uyafuna ithoni ezo izihlunu zesisu okanye izihlunu zangasese, ukuba Ukwabelana ngesondo rhoqo kunokunceda.
Masijongane nayo; wonke umntu ufuna iqabane elinomtsalane xa kufikwa kumba wokwabelana ngesondo. Ngexesha lobudlelwane, iqabane linokufumana iiponti ezimbalwa, ezinokubenza babonakale bengathandeki kwelinye iqabane.
Ukutyeba kuthwala uxanduva lokophula ubudlelwane obuninzi kuba uninzi lwabantu lukhetha ukulala nabantu abanemizimba yeetoni.
Yiba nomfanekiso ngqondweni wezi meko zimbini:
Ukuba neentlobano zesini nomntu onesisu esibi apho indawo yakhe ye-groin ungayiboniyo ngenxa yamafutha amaninzi
Ukwabelana ngesondo nomntu onomzimba onetoni onokuhamba ngokulula
Kwezi meko zimbini, yeyiphi enomtsalane ngakumbi kuwe?
Umntu ophilileyo ukhangeleka ngakumbi. Umntu unokuba kwimeko yokunandipha isondo rhoqo, kwaye unokuba uzimisele ukuzama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokugcina i-monotony.
Ngaphandle kokukunceda ufezekise umzimba weetoni, ngesondo rhoqo ikwanamawaka aphindaphindiweyo e izibonelelo zempilo njenge:
- Kukunceda thintela izifo ezingapheliyo njengesifo sentliziyo, isifo seswekile okanye umhlaza
- Ukuphucula eyakho Impilo yengqondo ngokukunceda ukuba ucinge ngokucacileyo, gxila ngakumbi okanye ukunciphisa uxinzelelo
Ukuzibophelela okwandayo
Ukwabelana ngesondo kubudlelwane bomntu omnye kunokunceda ukuphucula inqanaba lokuzibophelela kubudlelwane. Ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo budala ukuthembana kubudlelwane, kwaye buqhubela abantu abatshatileyo ukuba bahlale bethembekile omnye komnye.
Enye indlela yokwazi ukuba iqabane lakho liyaphambuka kwaye liyabelana ngesondo nabanye abantu phaya kukujonga indlela abasabela ngayo kuwe. Inqabile into yokuba iqabane lakho lokukhohlisa likonwabele ukulala nawe ukuba liyakopa, kwaye lifuna ukukwenza rhoqo.
Iqabane elinobuqhetseba kunokwenzeka ukuba liphephe ukuba neentlobano zesini nawe, kwaye nokuba liyakwenza oko, lisenokungavakali liluhlaza.
Iqabane elithembekileyo, nangona kunjalo, linomdla kuwe ngokwesondo kwaye kungenzeka ukuba likonwabele ukulala nawe. Ukuthembana kungena xa ujonga indlela iqabane lakho eliziphatha ngayo kuwe ngokwesini, kwaye yile nto inceda ukudala ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo.
Ukwanda ukuthambisa ajikeleze lobufazi
I-lubrication yenza ukuba isondo libe mnandi ngakumbi kwabasetyhini. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye neendonga zangasese ezomileyo kunokuba buhlungu kwaye kungathandeki, yiyo loo nto ibhinqa lobufazi lifuna ukuthambisa ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngexesha lokuvuselela inkanuko yangaphantsi yelungu lobufazi, incindi ekwindawo yelungu lobufazi ivelisa into ebonakalayo. Le nto icacile ngombala kwaye yile nto isebenza njengesithambisi sendalo ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo.
Isiyobisi siyamtyibilika kwaye senza ukuba kube lula ngakumbi ukuba owasetyhini abelane ngesondo. Ukunqongophala kwesithambisi kungakhokelela ekucaphukeni nakwiinyembezi zangasese ezinokubangela usulelo kwilungu lobufazi.
Ngaphandle kokungena ngokulula, ubufazi obuthanjisiweyo obufanelekileyo bunokwenza isondo lube mnandi ngakumbi kubafazi kuba lonyusa inqanaba lokuvuka. Kumadoda, ukuthambisa yenza kube lula ukutyibilika kwilungu lobufazi, okunciphise amathuba okonzakala kwepenisi ngelixa usabelana ngesondo.
Ukuququmbela
Ukwabelana ngesondo rhoqo kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekwakheni ubudlelwane obunempilo kwaye kunokunceda ukuguqula ubudlelwane obuhlulekileyo ngeenxa zonke. Izinto ezinje ngokwakha ukuthembana, ukunceda ekuphumleni, ukudala ulonwabo kunye nokuphumla, ukugcina amaqabane enomtsalane, kunye nokuthambisa iindonga zelungu lobufazi kunokuhamba indlela ende yokwenza ubudlelwane bakho buhlale ixesha elide.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukulala ngesondo ngenxa yayo kunokuba neziphumo ezibi kubudlelwane. Ukunyanzelwa ukuba ulalane okanye unyanzelise ukuba ubelane ngesondo xa elinye iqabane lingafuni ukwenza into embi kunokulunga. Abalingani banako, nangona kunjalo, ukudala imeko-bume efanelekileyo apho omabini amaqela anokonwabela ukwabelana ngesondo.
Ukufunda indlela yokwabelana ngesondo ngendlela eyiyo, ukufunda into ethandwa liqabane lakho okanye ukuzilungisa ngokwakho kunokugcina izibini zihambelana omnye nomnye, ukuze ufumane inzuzo enkulu.
Ukuba awazi ukuba uqale ngaphi, kukho iikhosi ezifumanekayo kwi-intanethi ezinokukufundisa ngendlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo okungcono kunye nokonwaba.