Umxholo
- Iimpawu zabantwana abakrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukwazisa ngokweemvakalelo
- Yiba ngumcebisi weemvakalelo
- Mamela ngovelwano
- Bancede bachaze iimvakalelo zabo
- Bancede basombulule ingxaki
Ukuba ngumzali yiroli coaster erhabaxa. Nje ukuba ukhulule amabhanti okuhlala, kuya kufuneka ulungele ukujikajika kwaye ujike uhambo lwakho.
Wonke umntwana wahlukile kwaye ufuna indlela eyahlukileyo aza kujongana nayo.
Uninzi lwabazali lujolise ekongeni imali eninzi ukwakha ikamva eliyimpumelelo labantwana babo. Bopha igazi esitalatweni ukuze baqiniseke ukuba umntwana wabo unekamva eliqaqambileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukusebenza kwezemfundo ayisiyiyo kuphela into ebalulekileyo yokuqinisekisa impumelelo kunye nokuchuma. Kuya kufuneka usebenze kumandla abo ngokweemvakalelo.
Kuya kufuneka ufundise abantwana ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo kunye nendlela yokuqonda iimvakalelo zabo.
Isitshixo sokuhlala sonwabile ayisiyomali kuphela okanye ukuqokelela imithwalo yezatifikethi; Luxolo lokwanelisa nolonwabo oluhlala kuwe.
Kuya kufuneka ufunde izibonelelo ezininzi zobukrelekrele bemvakalelo kwaye ujonge iindlela zokomeleza ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo yomntwana wakho.
Iimpawu zabantwana abakrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo
- High EQ kunye IQ
- Ngcono ekwenzeni ubudlelwane
- Umntu ophumelelayo
- Ukuphuculwa kwempilo yomzimba neyengqondo
"Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba nangaphezulu kwe-IQ, ulwazi lwakho lweemvakalelo kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukujongana neemvakalelo kuya kumisela impumelelo nolonwabo lwakho kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi, kubandakanya ubudlelwane bosapho."
–UJohn Gottman
Nje ukuba umntwana akwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo, banokuchaza ngokukhululekileyo nangokuzimeleyo ukuba bafuna ntoni kwaye kwakha ukuzithemba kwabo.
Ukukhulisa umntwana okrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni, nazi iimfihlo ezintlanu zokuba ngumzali. Qhubeka ufunda!
Jonga kwakhona:
Ukwazisa ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuba ngumzali kuxinzelelo. Umdyarho ongapheliyo, kodwa kuya kufuneka uthathe izinto kulawulo ukusukela ekuqaleni. Ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke nokuqonda imeko yeemvakalelo zomntwana wakho, kuya kufuneka uqonde ezakho, kuqala.
Uphila kubudala apho uxakeke luxanduva oluninzi; Kufana nokuqhuba imisebenzi imini yonke.
Ke kubomi obunobundlongondlongo, uhlala uthintela iimvakalelo zakho ezikwenza ukuba ungaboni imeko yemvakalelo yomntwana wakho.
Ke ngoko ngokukhulisa umntwana oneemvakalelo kakhulu, Okokuqala, qhekeza iindonga zakho kwaye uvumele iimvakalelo zakho zihambe ngokukhululeka.
Nje ukuba ufeze imiqobo yakho ngokweemvakalelo, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuba umntwana wakho akaziphathi kakuhle, oko akuthethi ukuba akacaphuki.
Njengokuba umntwana esiya phambili ukusuka kwinqanaba lokuhamba, uqala ukufumana utshintsho lweemvakalelo olukhawulezileyo. Ngeli xesha, kuya kufuneka ujonge kufutshane kwaye ujongane nabo ngembeko.
Yiba ngumcebisi weemvakalelo
Abazali bobona budlelwane buphambili benziwa ngumntwana, ukusukela oko avula amehlo akhe, ke uyonwabele indawo eyahlukileyo neyona iphakamileyo ebomini bakhe.
Akakho omnye umntu onokuyithatha indawo yakho okanye aqonde umntwana wakho ngcono kunokuba wena unakho.
Ke ngoko, xa umalunga nokufundisa okanye ukucebisa umntwana onomdla ngokweemvakalelo, akufuneki ubashiye ezandleni zabanye. Kuya kufuneka usebenze njengomcebisi weemvakalelo zabo.
Kuya kufuneka ubakhokele ngendlela yokuhlonipha iimvakalelo zabo kunye nendlela yokuzigcina belawula. Kuya kufuneka ubanike amagama ukuchaza imeko yeemvakalelo zabo.
Okwangoku umntwana wakho ekhangela iimvakalelo zabo, lelo lixesha elifanelekileyo lokubafundisa izifundo ezikhulu.
Kwelinye icala, ukubangaphezulu komzali, ukukhathazeka ngaphezulu, kunye nokwamkela ingqumbo yabo zezona zinto zintathu ziyingozi onokuzenza ukonakalisa ubuntu bomntwana wakho.
Ubungqongqo obuncinci obudityaniswe neetoni zothando yinto efunekayo kumntwana owonwabileyo kwaye okrelekrele.
Khumbula, xa ukhulisa umntwana ontununtunu, kuya kufuneka ubancede ngokuthe ngcembe ukuba baqonde kwaye baqhubekeke neemvakalelo zabo kwaye ingabi ligxalaba lokukhala kubo.
Mamela ngovelwano
Ukuphulaphula ngovelwano yeyona nto ibalulekileyo onokuyenza ukuze umntwana wakho azive engcono, ngakumbi xa ukhulisa abantwana ngokweemvakalelo.
Nje ukuba uphumelele ekumthomalaliseni, uya kuba nakho ukubafundisa indlela yokudlulisa iimvakalelo zabo.
Kuya kufuneka ulimamele ngokwenyani igama ngalinye kunye nokujonga intshukumo yomzimba kunye neenkcazo.
Sukujonga nje amabali abo; endaweni yoko, cinga lonke igama kwaye uzame ukuzibeka kwimeko yabo ngaphambi kokuba uze nalo naliphi na icebo. Nje ukuba bazi ukuba uyaziqonda, bayakuthemba amazwi akho.
Awunakho ukuphikisana nabo malunga neenyaniso, kwaye iimvakalelo azikho ngqiqweni. Musa ukutsiba ekusombululeni iingxaki, qala ngokwakha umhlaba ofanelekileyo.
Isenokungabikho ngqiqweni kuwe, kodwa ingxaki inokuba nkulu kubo. Ke sukubonisa ukuba ayinaxabiso okanye yinto nje encinci njengoko inokubenzakalisa iimvakalelo zabo.
Bancede bachaze iimvakalelo zabo
Ukufunda ukuba phantsi koxinzelelo ngaphandle kokukhupha kufutshane nakwezona zinto uzithandayo sisakhono sobudlelwane esixabisekileyo- Leigh
Ungamkhulisa njani umntwana okrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo? Qala ngokubanceda bafunde ukuchaza iimvakalelo zabo.
Umsindo, usizi, uloyiko, ubumnyama, ukukhathazeka, kunye nokudana, uzibuze ukuba kutheni kukho uluhlu olukhulu lwamagama ukubonisa iimvakalelo.
Ngenxa yokuba kukho imfuneko yokulebhelisha, kufuneka ufundise abantwana bakho ukuba bangayichaza njani eyona nto baziva ngayo ukuze ubafundise malunga nengxaki yokusombulula imeko.
Yonke imvakalelo onayo ineeseti ezikhethekileyo zobuchule bokuzoyisa.
Awunako ukoyisa uxinzelelo ngokubukela ividiyo ehlekisayo okanye ngokuwola iteddy bear. Ngokufanayo, xa umntwana wakho ethe waqonda ukuba uziva njani, kuphela kwakhe onokuza nendlela engcono yokujongana nayo.
Ngokubonelela ngamagama kubantwana bakho, ungaziguqula iimvakalelo zabo ezoyikisayo, ezingonwabisiyo, kunye neemilo zibe yinto elawulekayo nenokucaciseka.
Xa ubona umntwana wakho elila, ungambuza, "Kutheni uziva ulusizi?" Ngokwenza njalo, umnika amagama achaza imeko yakhe yeemvakalelo.
Bancede basombulule ingxaki
Nje ukuba ufundise abantwana bakho ukubanakho ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabo kwaye ulebhelishe, kuya kufuneka uthathe inyathelo eliya phambili. Kuya kufuneka ubafundise ukuba iimvakalelo ezithile azamkelekanga kwaye azinakunyamezeleka.
Nje ukuba bayamkele le nyaniso, kuya kufuneka bafundise iindlela ezingcono zokujongana neemvakalelo zabo kunye neemeko.
Awunakubakho ukubeka amagama emilonyeni yabo okanye umbono entloko; Ke ngoko kuya kufuneka ubakhuthaze ukuba beze nokusombulula iingxaki.
Bakhuthaze kwaye ubabuze malunga nendlela ekufuneka benze ngayo kwimeko ethile endaweni yokubanika ukutya ngecephe.