Umxholo
- Thatha isigqibo 'ngegama elikhuselekileyo' elithintela ukwanda kweengxoxo
- Misela intsingiselo emva kwegama elikhuselekileyo
- Sebenzisa esi sixhobo kufuna ukuziqhelanisa
Ngamanye amaxesha ngexesha lempikiswano, nokuba siyazi kakuhle into ekufuneka siyenzile, sineentsuku zokuphumla. Mhlawumbi uvuke kwicala elingalunganga lebhedi okanye mhlawumbi uye wagxekwa emsebenzini. Ukuthintela impikiswano akunakuba yiseyile egudileyo.
Ukucinga ngendlela yokuthintela iimpikiswano kubudlelwane?
Zininzi izinto eziguquguqukayo ezinegalelo kwiimvakalelo zethu kunye namandla engqondo kunye neemvakalelo ezinokubangela ukuba singakhethi okanye sikwazi ukusebenzisa izixhobo zethu ngexesha lempikiswano. Ke, yintoni ekufuneka uyenzile xa ungumntu kwaye utyibilika, ubangela ukunyuka kwengxoxo? Kukho izixhobo ezimbalwa eziluncedo oza kuzisebenzisa xa ujonge ukuthintela impikiswano.
Esinye isixhobo esasisebenzisa nomyeni wam kunyaka wethu wokuqala emtshatweni xa uxinzelelo lwaluphezulu kwaye sasifunda indlela yokusebenza kunye kunye nokukhusela ingxabano, ligama elikhuselekileyo. Ngoku kufuneka ndinike ikhredithi apho kufanelekileyo kwaye yayiyeyona ndawo yam ibalulekileyo eza nolu luvo luqaqambileyo.
Yayisetyenziswa xa iimpikiswano zethu zaziya kunyuka ziye kwinqanaba lokuba kungabikho kubuya. Ngelo xesha ebomini bethu, khange sikwazi ukunyuka kwaye sidinga indlela ekhawulezayo yokuhlangula ubusuku kwaye singenzi monakalo owongezelelweyo. Amagama akhuselekileyo kwizibini yayiyindlela yethu yokunxibelelana omnye nomnye ukuba lixesha lokuba simise imeko ngokuthe ngqo.
Thatha isigqibo 'ngegama elikhuselekileyo' elithintela ukwanda kweengxoxo
Eyona ndlela yokuphucula nokusebenzisa esi sixhobo kukuchonga ipateni engentle ekunzima ukuyaphula. Ipateni yethu embi yayisonyusa impikiswano de omnye wethu aphakamise ilizwi okanye ahambe ngomsindo. Emva koko, khetha igama kunye elingenakubangela ukuba iphethini engalunganga iqhubeke. Amagama akhuselekileyo afanelekileyo sisixhobo esibaluleke kakhulu ekuchazeni impikiswano.
Sisebenzise igama elikhuselekileyo "iibhaluni" ukuthintela iimpikiswano. Kwakubalulekile kumyeni wam ukuba asebenzise igama elingathathi hlangothi elingenakuthathwa ngendlela engeyiyo. Cinga ngayo, ukuba abanye bayakhwaza 'iibhaluni' kwimpikiswano, nokuba uyithetha njani, kunzima ukuyicaphukisa.
Lithetha ntoni igama elikhuselekileyo? Igama elikhuselekileyo lenza omnye umntu azi ukuba lixesha lokuba uthathe lula okanye uyeke xa izinto ziba nzima. Lithini igama elilungileyo nelikhuselekileyo? Igama elilungileyo elikhuselekileyo ligama okanye umqondiso ovumela omnye umntu ukuba azi imeko yeemvakalelo okuyo kwaye uzobe umda ngaphambi kokuba elinye iqabane liwele imida kwaye izinto zibe mandundu ngakumbi ngaphandle kokulungiswa.
Ngaba ujonge ezinye iingcebiso ezikhuselekileyo zamagama? Eminye imibono yamagama ekhuselekileyo ithi “bubomvu” kuba ibonisa ingozi, okanye ibonisa ukumisa. Omnye wemizekelo yegama elikhuselekileyo kukusebenzisa into elula njengegama lelizwe. Okanye kungenjalo, ungayithwebula iminwe okanye usebenzise izijekulo zezandla ezingoyikisi. Amanye amagama aqhelekileyo akhuselekileyo asebenza njengomlingo ngamagama eziqhamo afana, ivatala, ibhanana okanye i-kiwi!
Ukuvumelana ngokuvisisana ngelizwi elikhuselekileyo kunceda iqabane ukuba liqonde ukuba lixesha lokuba uyeke!
Misela intsingiselo emva kwegama elikhuselekileyo
Ngoku ukuba unelizwi engqondweni lokuthintela iimpikiswano, inyathelo elilandelayo kukuphuhlisa intsingiselo engemva kwayo. Kithina, igama elithi 'iibhaluni' lalithetha ukuba "kufuneka sime de sithi xibilili sobabini." Okokugqibela, xoxa ngemithetho esemva kwayo. Imithetho yethu yayinguye nabani na othi 'iibhaluni', ngomnye umntu ekufuneka aqalise incoko kamva.
Ixesha elizayo alinakuba ngaphezulu kosuku ngaphandle kokuba luziswe iqabane. Ngokulandelwa kwale mithetho, saziva ngathi iimfuno zethu ziyalungiswa kwaye ingxoxo yoqobo ingasonjululwa. Ke, ukuphonononga ipatheni engathandekiyo, igama, intsingiselo yegama kunye nemigaqo yokusetyenziswa kwayo.
Sebenzisa esi sixhobo kufuna ukuziqhelanisa
Esi sixhobo khange size lula ekuqaleni.
Kuthathe ukuziqhelanisa kunye nokuthintela imvakalelo ukuyilandela ukuthintela impikiswano. Njengoko siphucula ngokuthe ngcembe izakhono zethu zonxibelelwano ngesi sixhobo, ngoku khange kufuneke nokuba sisisebenzise ixesha elide kwaye ukoneliseka emtshatweni wethu kuphuculwe kakhulu. Njengoko uphuhlisa oku kubudlelwane bakho, yazi ukuba unokuza namagama amaninzi akhuselekileyo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neepatheni ezimbi ezinceda ukuthintela impikiswano. Zama ukwenza enye ngokuhlwanje (ngaphambi kwengxoxo).