Umxholo
Cwangcisa
Kuziva kumnandi ukufumana uthando oluhlaziyiweyo emva kwexesha lobunzima okanye ukwahlukana emtshatweni; akukho mathandabuzo ngaloo nto. Kodwa, kungcono ukuba unqumame okwethutyana ngaphambi kokutsiba kwithuba lesibini. Amathuba esibini ngamathuba axabisekileyo okwenza uhlobo lolwalamano abantu abanqwenela ukuba nalo okokuqala ngqa. Kubalulekile ukwandisa amathuba esibini, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi abantu bayabachitha ngenxa yokuba bengakhange benze lutshintsho lubalulekileyo.
Ukuqonda ukuba yintoni kunye nokuba ungatshintsha njani kuhlala kufuna ixesha lokujonga okwenziwe kakubi ngaphambili. Ngelixa ukubonakalisa ngale ndlela kunokubangela ukungonwabi ngokweemvakalelo, ukusilela ukunqumama kwaye ubonakalise ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba yimpazamo enkulu. Amathuba esibini asebenza ngcono kunakwilinge lokuqala ukuba omabini amaqabane achonga kwaye aphucule kumanyathelo angaphambili. Ke, kunokuba utsibe ngokukhawuleza ungene kwithuba lesibini, nqumama kwaye ucwangcise. Uluhlu olungezantsi zizindululo zokwenza kanye loo nto.
Nqumama
1. Chonga ukuba kwenzeke ntoni
Hlala phantsi neqabane lakho nichonge ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ezibethe ulwalamano lwenu. Ukwenza oku kufuna ukunyaniseka, imfesane, isibindi kunye nomonde. Ungahendeka ukuba uphikise amabango eqabane lakho okanye ucelomngeni kwinto abayibona njengeziphene zakho, kodwa kungcono ubonise ukuthobeka nokuvuleleka. Nciphisa ukuphazamiseka kwakho kwaye ujonge iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zabo ngegolide! Ukuqonda iingcinga / iimvakalelo zabo kukunceda ukuba uchonge ngcono utshintsho olwenziweyo. Yazi ukuba ukusilela ukuthatha ubunini ngaphezulu kwempazamo zexesha elidlulileyo yindlela eqinisekileyo yokusetha ithuba lakho lesibini ngokutsha. Ke, wakube uchonge into engahambanga kakuhle, chitha ixesha ucinga ngento eninqwenela nobabini kubudlelwane kunye nokuzibekela iinjongo zokuphumelela.
2. Yamkela eyadlulayo
Kutheni usilwa nobunyani bexesha elidlulileyo? Akukho sixa sokunqwenela ukungathembeki, ukungxamiseka kwezezimali, ukungakhathali, ukungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo, okanye nantoni na eyenzekileyo, eya kuyilungisa. Kwenzekile nje; isiphelo sebali. Ukuba awukwazi ukubamkela ubunyani bento eyenzekileyo kwaye usondele kuxolelo, okanye ukuzixolela, unokuyeka ngoku. Ewe, kuthatha ixesha ukuphilisa ngokwasemphefumlweni, kodwa inxenye yento encedayo kukufunda ukwamkela endaweni yokugxeka okanye ukukhanyisa kwinto ebekufanele ukuba ibikhona. Sukuvumela ithuba lakho lesibini libune phantsi kobushushu beempazamo ezidlulileyo ezingenakulungiswa. Ukuba ubudlelwane bubalulekile kuwe, ke vuma ukuxolela kwaye ujonge amandla akho ekuvuseleleni ubudlelwane obunempilo.
3. Cinga ngeli thuba lakho lokugqibela (inokuba kunjalo!)
Ndiyazi ukuba ezo zandi zibaxekile, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ubunzima bemeko okuyo ngoku. Umlingane wakho uyivulile intliziyo yakhe kuwe kwakhona, kodwa ngeli xesha inokuba lelokugqibela ukuba izinto azitshintshi. Akukho kwanto ethi isabotage itshintshe indlela yokuziphatha njengokungabikho kwenkuthazo kunye nokungabikho kongxamiseko. Uya kudinga zombini inkuthazo kunye nemvakalelo yongxamiseko ukuze wenze utshintsho oluhlala luhleli. Ke, nxibelelana nenkuthazo yakho! Yintoni eyakukhuthaza ukuba uqhubeke nolwalamano ekuqaleni? Yintoni ekukhuthazayo ngoku nasemva kwabo bonke ubunzima okanye uxinzelelo? Nokuba yintoni, fumana iindlela zokugcina inkuthazo yakho iphambili engqondweni yakho ukukhuthaza utshintsho olunentsingiselo. Kuyanceda ukuhlala ezinzwaneni zakho (ngokuthetha njalo) kwaye ube nemvo yongxamiseko. Yazi ukuba kukho umda kumonde weqabane lakho kwaye kwangoko wenza utshintsho olunentsingiselo kokukhona baya kuba nakho ukuyekisa ukulinda kunye nokuzithemba iinjongo zakho.
Cwangcisa
1. Cacisa into oyixabisileyo
Ukuba nexabiso lokuhlangana kubaluleke kakhulu kwimpumelelo yabo nabuphi na ubudlelwane. Chonga amaxabiso obudlelwane bakho kwaye wabelane ngawo neqabane lakho.
Chonga apho amaxabiso akho ahambelana khona okanye unqamle. Ukuba unqamko lukwindawo ezingabalulekanga mababe njalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unqamko lukwimimandla ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, thatha ixesha lokufumana indlela yokuvala umsantsa okanye ulungelelwaniso. Amaxabiso olwalamano ekwabelwana ngalo anokusebenza njengesikhokelo sokuziphatha esihle, ngakumbi ngamaxesha obunzima, kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo okanye imizabalazo enokwenzeka.
2. Cwangcisa ingxelo
Cwangcisa amaxesha abekiweyo veki nganye okanye inyanga yokungena kunye nokwabelana ngeengcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho malunga nolwalamano. Yabelana ngento ocinga ukuba iyasebenza kwaye ifuna ukuphucula ntoni. Beka ingxelo ngokuziqhelanisa njengoko uqhubeka nokwenza ulwalamano lwakho kwinto ezalisekayo kuni nobabini.
3. Misela iinjongo ze-SMART
Ndiyazi ukuba loo nto iyavakala njengomsebenzi, kodwa iinjongo ze-SMART ziya kukumisela impumelelo kulwalamano lwakho. I-SMART imele into ethile, enokulinganiswa, ejolise ekusetyenzisweni, eyiyo, nexesha elilinganiselweyo. Ukuba neenjongo zekhonkrithi kunceda ukuzisa ukucaca, kukubamba uxanduva, kunye nokukubeka empumelelweni. Qiniseka ukuba ufumana ingxelo yeqabane lakho kunye nokuthenga ngaphakathi. Akukho ngqiqweni ukusebenzela ukufezekisa iimfuno zabo ngendlela abayibona ingeloncedo okanye ingeyomfuneko. Ukusebenzisana kubalulekile, ke hlalani phantsi kunye njengoko niqaphela kwaye nizalisekise iinjongo zenu.
Ukuthatha la manyathelo okuqala kunokumisela indlela eya kutshintsho lobudlelwane oluzinzileyo. Kude kube lixesha elizayo, khumbula, thanda womelele, kwaye uphile kakuhle!