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Abantu bahlala bedibanisa ukukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga nabo bangakhange bahambe ezantsi enqanaweni kodwa bejongana nokukhulelwa okungacetywanga yingxaki ekwajongwana nayo ngabantu abatshatileyo.
Impendulo yokuqala emva kokuva iindaba zokukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga emtshatweni, inokuba kukudibanisa ukothuka kunye nexhala elandelwa ngumbuzo, "Senze ntoni?"
Impendulo yalo mbuzo 'njani ukuphatha ukukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga?' eneenkcukacha exhomekeke kwimeko yakho.
Akuyi kubakho kunqongophala kwe iingcebiso zokukhulelwa okungalindelekanga okanye iingcebiso zokukhulelwa ezingafunekiyo, kodwa kufuneka ulinganise ukhetho lwakho kwaye unamathele kwezona zikunceda kakhulu xa ujongene nokukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga.
Ukuzisa umntwana emhlabeni ayisiyonto isibini esifuna ukujongana nayo ngesiquphe kodwa ukuba kuyenzeka, akukho khetho ngaphandle kokufunda indlela yokujongana nokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo.
Iqabane lakho likho nawe
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyikhumbule ngendlela yokujongana nokukhulelwa okungalindelekanga kukuba awuwedwa. Unethamsanqa lokuba neqabane elimangalisayo eliya kuba lapho onke amanyathelo endlela.
Ukwazi nje ukuba kukho umntu owabelana naye wonke umntu othukileyo kunye nenkxalabo kuyenza ingqondo ikhululeke. Inkxaso yiyo yonke into.
Ngeli nqanaba lokuqala le- ukujongana nokukhulelwa okungalindelekanga khumbula ukuba kulungile ukuziva ngayo nayiphi na indlela oziva ngayo.
Nokuba woyika ukuphuma engqondweni yakho, zehla iinyembezi, okanye unxunguphele okanye unomsindo, unelungelo lokufumana ezo mvakalelo kunye neqabane lakho.
Ukuzifihla kuya kuyenzakalisa imeko ekugqibeleni. Kwabaninzi, xa ezo mvakalelo zokuqala zivakaliswa, inyani yokuba iindaba ezingalindelekanga zinokuba nefuthe elinamandla kwinto ephuma emilonyeni yabo.
Qiniseka ukuba awenzi umgwebo kwinto ethethwa liqabane lakho kweli nqanaba kuba njengoko sonke sisazi; abanye basabela ngcono kwizinto ezingalindelekanga kunabanye.
Injongo yakho ephambili ukuqala kunye nokugcina ubumbano obumbeneyo kuba uya kufuna iqabane lakho kulo lonke uhambo lokukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga, kwaye baya kukudinga.
"Ungaziva ngaloo ndlela" yeyona mpendulo ilungileyo. Ithi, "Ndilapha" ngelixa ivumela ukukhutshwa kweemvakalelo zokuqala.
Yiba nothotho lweencoko zokuphuhlisa isicwangciso
Ukujongana nokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo emtshatweni ifuna ngaphezulu kokuhlala phantsi kwenye incoko. Emva kokuba wena neqabane lakho nizolile kwaye niza kukwamkela iindaba, nibe noluhlu lweencoko malunga namanyathelo alandelayo.
Elula, “Sthandwa sam, siza kwenza ntoni?” uyakuqengqeleka ibhola. Kuxhomekeka kwimeko yakho, izinto ezahlukeneyo zinokwenza ukuba ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kube noxinzelelo.
Wena neqabane lakho ninokuba nenabo abantwana ekhaya kwaye aniyiqondi ingcamango yokuxhasa omnye umntwana kungasathethwa ke ngokubonelela ngononophelo nengqwalaselo efunekayo.
Ezinye izinto ezixhalabisayo zibandakanya ukungakwazi ukuxhasa umntwana ngokwezezimali okanye ukungabikho kwendawo yokuhlala, ukubiza ngambalwa.
Imicimbi ephambili yokujongana nokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kufuneka ijongiwe kuqala. Ukwenza ngempumelelo leyo kwaye ube noluhlu lweencoko ezinemveliso, yenza indawo ekhuselekileyo kwezi ntetho.
Phambi kokuba uye phambili ngengxoxo umntu kufuneka athi, “Ndiyazi ukuba kuninzi ekufuneka sijongane nako okwangoku.
Masivumele omnye nomnye ukuba athethe ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka malunga nokuba ziphi iingqondo zethu ngalo mzuzu ukuze size nesicwangciso esisebenzela usapho lwethu. Sinemiceli mngeni engaphambili kodwa siza kuyiphumelela kunye. ”
Ukusuka apho, omabini amaqela anokwabelana ngezinto ezisezingqondweni zawo, azityand 'igila emva koko aqhubeke nesigqibo sokuba enze ntoni emva koko.
Kwabaninzi oku kuya kubandakanya ukonga imali, ukuguqukela kusapho ukuze uncede kwaye ujongane nomba wendawo ekhaya. Khumbula ukuba kuhlala kukho indlela.
Kuxhomekeke kwindlela eliqhutywa ngayo ikhaya, omnye okanye bobabini abalingane banokufumana omnye umsebenzi okanye basebenze iiyure ezongezelelweyo.
Ukuba iqabane lihlala ekhaya linokuqala ishishini elincinci lasekhaya ukuze lifumane imali eyongezelelweyo, lifumane abagcini bantwana (yile nto yosapho), kwaye ufunde ukusebenzisa indawo ekhayeni ngokufanelekileyo ukuba ukuhamba akuyiyo inketho.
Njengoko isicwangciso siqala ukukhula, gcinani engqondweni ukuba ngenxa yokuba into enzima ayithethi ukuba imbi. Ezona zipho zintle zingena zingahambi kangako kwiiphakheji.
Okukhona uthetha ngayo ukujamelana nokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, uya kuziva ngcono. Uloyiko luhlala nje ixesha elifutshane kwaye imincili kungekudala iza kuqala.
Ukuthetha malunga nokukhulelwa kuvumela amaqabane ukuba atshintshe ukusuka ekungakholelweni aye ekwamkelweni. Nangona abaninzi bekwazi ukwenza utshintsho ngokukhawuleza, abanye abayenzi.
Ukuba iimpendulo ezingalunganga zeemvakalelo zihlala, qala ukuphazamisana nobomi bemihla ngemihla, okanye omnye / omabini amaqabane avaliwe angathandabuzi ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha. Oku kunokuba ngohlobo lokucebisa okanye unyango.
Vavanya iimfuno
Emva kokuthetha nokwenza utshintsho olubalulekileyo ukusuka kukungakholelwa kunye nokothuka ukuya ekwamkelweni, vavanya iimfuno kwangoko. Okokuqala kolu luhlu kukubona ugqirha.
Ukugcina umama nomntwana besempilweni, kufuneka utyelelo rhoqo ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle. Emva kokufumanisa ukukhulelwa okungalindelekanga, izibini ezitshatileyo kufuneka zizame ukuya kwezi zivumelwano kunye.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba amadinga agcina indoda nomfazi benolwazi kodwa iyayenza imeko ibe yeyoqobo ngakumbi. Nangona ukuqeshwa koogqirha kubalulekile, izibini zihlala zikonwabela eli xesha kunye.
Umyeni nenkosikazi bayathetha ngokukhwela ukuya ngasemva nangasemva, bancokole kwigumbi lokulinda, mhlawumbi babelane ngokuhleka okumbalwa kwaye babe nethuba lokonwaba ngomntwana osendleleni.
Nje ukuba inkalo yezempilo yokukhulelwa Ugcinwe enye imfuno kwangoko kukugcina ubudlelwane busempilweni. Eli lixesha lokondla ubudlelwane.
Cinga ngomtshato, nithandane, kwaye ungasoloko ukhulelwa ngengozi kwingqondo. Nyathela kude kuloo nto. Yonke into izakulunga. Endaweni yokuba ujonge ukutshata.
Umzekelo, emva kokuya kwi-aphoyintimenti, bhekisa phambili kwindawo yokutya oyithandayo ukuze ube nesidlo sasemini sothando kunye nokuzenzekelayo, cwangcisa imihla ngenxa yokuba, kwaye wonyuse umdla (gcina ukukhulelwa ngokwesondo kukhuselekile).
Ukutshintsha uxinzelelo kunye nexhala ngokuzonwabisa kunye nothando kuyakutshintsha iindlela zokuba ngcono. Njengoko ubona, ukukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga emtshatweni akufuneki kube ngamava amabi.
Izimanga zobomi zizinto ozenzayo. Nje ukuba uneencoko malunga nokukhulelwa, phuhlisa isicwangciso sokwenza, kwaye uvavanye iimfuno. Iimbono zinokutshintsha kwaye ekugqibeleni, ulonwabo luya kufumaneka.