Umxholo
- 1. Zazi
- 2. Sebenza neengcali
- 3. Zeziphi iimpawu ezazinalo iqabane lakho lokugqibela,
- 4. Yiva uloyiko lokuba wedwa
Jonga kokukujikelezile. Wonke umntu unothando, ngaphandle kwethu.
Ngaba wakha wacinga njalo?
Ngaba ukhe waziva uwedwa kwihlabathi lothando, xa wonke umntu ebonakala enayo kodwa ungenayo?
Ukuba awutshatanga, kufuneka ulinde ixesha elingakanani ... Phambi kokuba ufumane ukuba "ubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo".
Ukuba nothando kuyamangalisa.
Ukuba sothandweni, ngokwabantu abaninzi, sesona sizathu sokuba sibe semhlabeni.
Kodwa ngaba ngokwenene?
Kwaye zeziphi iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo esizenzayo, yeyiphi eyona mpazamo iqhelekileyo siyenzayo emva kokuphela kobudlelwane, eya kuqinisekisa ukusilela ngakumbi kwixa elizayo?
Kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo ibhinqa eliselula landiqhagamshela laza landiqesha njengomcebisi wakhe nge-Skype evela kwelinye ilizwe, wayekhathazekile kuba indoda awayethandana nayo iminyaka eliqela yayisandula kumshiya kwiintsuku ezisixhenxe ezidlulileyo, ngokothuka, ngokutsho kwakhe ukusuka ngaphandle kohlaza okwesibhakabhaka.
Kwaye ngoku, wayefuna iingcebiso ezimbalwa kum ngexesha leseshoni, ukuze abuyele kumdlalo wothando.
Yima, ndimxelele.
"Ngubani ubude bexesha olithathileyo kwixa elidlulileyo, ndibuze, xa ubudlelwane buphela kwaye ubuqala obakho obutsha?"
Uye wanqikaza, emva koko wandixelela ukuba elona xesha elide wayehleli yedwa ziinyanga ezintandathu. Kodwa rhoqo kunoko, wayenolwalamano olutsha kwiinyanga ezintathu.
Kwaye oko kugcinwa. Kule minyaka ingama-30 idlulileyo kwihlabathi lokukhula komntu, ndibone abantu abaninzi bexhuma ukusuka kolunye ulwalamano ukuya kolunye, njengenyaniso, abantu abaninzi sele benesithandwa sabo esitsha abakhethayo phambi kokuba umtshato utyikityiwe okanye ukuthandana kwabo ngoku ubudlelwane bugqityiwe.
Njengoko sasisebenza kunye, ndamxelela ukuba ukuba uyaqhubeka nokuphinda iipatheni zokuhamba ukusuka kolunye ulwalamano ukuya kolunye ngaphandle kokwenza nawuphi na umsebenzi phakathi, inqanaba lakhe lokuphumelela liya kuba kanye kanye ngoku: zero.
Ke kufuneka silinde ixesha elingakanani phakathi kobudlelwane bothando? Kulula. Ubuncinci beentsuku ezingama-365. Ukuphela kwengxelo.
Kutheni kunjalo?
Ihlabathi lobudlelwane lisengxakini enkulu, amanani athi 41-50% okanye ngaphezulu kobudlelwane bokuqala buphela kuqhawulo-mtshato, i-60-67% yobudlelwane besibini iphelela kuqhawulo mtshato kwaye i-73-74% yobudlelwane besithathu iphelela kuqhawulo mtshato.
Unayo? Sinolu thando kunye nolwalamano into engalunganga.
Nazi izibonelelo zokuthabatha iintsuku ezingama-365 ukuphela kobudlelwane, ngaphambi kokuya kolandelayo:
1. Zazi
Amaxesha amaninzi sizilahlekela kubudlelwane, sisenza izinto ezininzi iqabane lethu lifuna ukuba sizenze, kwaye sityeshele iimfuno zethu. Yiyeke ngoku. Zazi. Ukuthandana nawe kwakhona.
2. Sebenza neengcali
Sebenza nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo, umqeqeshi wobomi, umphathiswa ukuze ubone indima yakho ekusebenzeni nasekufeni kobudlelwane bakho bokugqibela.
Ndiyazi, ndiyazi, awuzange ubenendima, yayilityala labo lonke?
Akunjalo kwaphela. Xa ubona indima oyidlalileyo, unokuzixolela kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokungaphindi uyenze lonto kwixesha elizayo.
Ngaba usele kakhulu? Ngaba ubuxhomekekile? Ngaba ubungenamandla? Ngaba uyehlula wedwa, kwaye wavala xa bekukho ungquzulwano?
Ezi zinto zifuna ukulungiswa, ngaphambi kokuba ungenise omnye umntu kwiwebhu yakho yobubi.
3. Zeziphi iimpawu ezazinalo iqabane lakho lokugqibela,
Bhala ezi mpawu. Nokuba yintoni na. Bhala phantsi. Zive ukhululekile kwinto yokuba iqabane lakho elilandelayo akufuneki libenazo ezi mpawu ... Kwaye uya kuzinika ithuba elingcono eluthandweni.
4. Yiva uloyiko lokuba wedwa
Xa usiya kwiintsuku ezingama-365 ngaphandle kobudlelwane, uyakuqonda ukuba kujongeka njani ukuswela ... Yintoni ukoyika ukuhlala wedwa kujongeka ngathi ... Kwaye unokuyazi le micimbi mibini ngaphambi kokuba ungene kolunye uthando
Ndihlala ndixelela abathengi bam abangatshatanga, ukuba xa behamba ngeeholide, imihla yokuzalwa, imibhiyozo, imitshato, imingcwabo kunye nabanye abangatshatanga. bond kunye.
Kodwa ukuba uswele, ulilolo, ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba uyakukhetha abo bantu babelishwa owabenza ngaphambili ... ngegama nje nobuso obahlukileyo.
Kwincwadi yethu yakutshanje ethengisa kakhulu “Angel on a surfboard: inoveli eyimfihlakalo yothando ehlola izitshixo zothando olunzulu“, umlinganiswa ophambili uSandy Tavish uhendwa ngulo mfazi mhle, kwaye ummemela endlwini yakhe kwisidlo sangokuhlwa.
Kwimizuzu nje engephi uhamba naye epasejini, ngqo kwigumbi lakhe lokulala ukuze abelane ngesondo.
Uxelela uSandy, ukuba ugqibile ubudlelwane obude kwaye ngoku ulungele eyona nto, kwaye wamkhetha uSandy njengexhoba lakhe elilandelayo.
USandy, ngelixa wayelingwa, wamxelela ukuba ufuna ixesha elingakumbi lokuphilisa, kwaye ethandabuza wavuma.
Ngelixa oku kunokuba ngathi yingcebiso erhabaxa, ndiyakuthembisa iyasebenza. Zazi kwakhona. Funda ngendlela yokubeka imida esempilweni kunye neziphumo ebomini.
Kwaye xa usenza ntoni? Uya kuzinika elona thuba lilungileyo lokuba nolwalamano lothando lwexesha elide onqwenela ngalo.