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- Ungawuchaza njani umtshato wakho?
- Ukucwangcisa umtshato wakho kunokuvakala kusisiyatha, kodwa kunokuba luncedo kakhulu
- Ukwakha nokomeleza umtshato wenu makuthathwe amanyathelo nobabini
Izizathu zokutshata ziyafana nezizathu zokwakha indlwane-ukhuseleko nenkxaso; kwaye njengendlwane, umtshato usebenza ngokukuko njengoko usenza wona. Ezinye iindlwane zizinto ezilula emhlabeni ngelixa ezinye ziyimisebenzi yobugcisa ecacileyo ekhusela kwaye ikhusela. Kwangokunjalo, eminye imitshato zizivumelwano ezilula ngelixa abanye bezibophelela kwintsebenziswano egcwele uthando, ubuhlobo kunye nentsebenziswano.
Ungawuchaza njani umtshato wakho?
Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ufuna umtshato onjani? Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, yintoni ozimisele ukuyenza ukuze ube nomtshato owufunayo? Ukuba umtshato wakho ungomnye onamasebe omeleleyo, ungqimba lwamagqabi kunye neentsiba; ukuba unomtshato owomeleleyo, onothando kunye nenkxaso, ke qhubeka wenze le uyenzayo.
Ukuba kwelinye icala, ufuna ukomeleza indlwane yakho yothando, qala ngokuyijonga. Ungawajonga amasebe njengezenzo kunye nezenzo- ukuthembeka kunye nenkxaso zezona zinto ziphambili zolu luhlu; ukugcina umvuzo ongaguquguqukiyo, ukukhathalela indlu, imoto, abantwana kunye nezilwanyana zasekhaya. Amagqabi anokujongwa njengosuku lwemihla ngemihla, ubuhlobo kunye nobubele — usithi nceda, enkosi, ndiyaxolisa, unyanisile, uze neqabane lakho isiselo okanye isiselo, nincume, nitye kwaye nilale kunye , ukuncoma nokukhuthazana, ukwanga okuncinci okanye ukubambana ngezandla. Kwaye iintsiba zinokubonwa njengoluhlu lokhuselo oluxhasayo olubeka umtshato wakho ngaphandle kolunye ulwalamano ebomini bakho, indawo yakho ekhuselekileyo nenqabileyo kwihlabathi liphela-ke ukwanga kuhlala ixesha elide kunemizuzwana eli-15, ukwangana okukubambayo xa uziva ngathi Uyaphuka, ulwabelana ngesondo, imihla, iiakhawunti zebhanki ekwabelwana ngazo, amaphupha ekwabelwana ngawo, amaxabiso ekwabelwana ngawo, iiholide ekwabelwana ngazo, iinkxalabo ekwabelwana ngazo, uvuyo ekwabelwana ngalo, iintlungu ekwabelwana ngazo, ilahleko ekwabelwana ngayo, imibhiyozo ekwabelwana ngayo kunye nokwabelana ngeziganeko ... Ixesha elininzi lichithwa ucwangcisa umtshato kwaye uhlala ungonelanga ixesha okanye ingcinga inikwa ekucwangciseni umtshato.
Ukucwangcisa umtshato wakho kunokuvakala kusisiyatha, kodwa kunokuba luncedo kakhulu
Cinga malunga nexesha elingakanani kunye nomzamo oya ekucwangcisweni komtshato. Ngoku khawucinge malunga nexesha elingakanani lokuya kuthethathethana ngeebhili, uzolala kangaphi, ngubani oza kukhathalela abantwana, ngubani oza kukhathalela izinja, sizakuphuma kangaphi ngeentsuku, sizakuhamba kangaphi iholide, siza kuhlala phi kwaye ixesha elingakanani, sifuna abantwana kwaye bangaphi, indlela yokubhatala isikolo, sibaphatha njani abasebukhweni, lingakanani ixesha esimele silichithe nabahlobo bethu, yintoni le hayi xa sisilwa ...? Yonke le mibuzo, nangaphezulu, kufuneka ihlolwe kwaye iphendulwe kuwo wonke umtshato njengoko wena kunye nezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ziguquka.
Umtshato wakho unjengendlwane kuba ufuna ulondolozo lwemihla ngemihla ukuxhasa nokukhusela wena kunye neqabane lakho koxinzelelo lobomi-umsebenzi, imisebenzi, abahlobo, usapho, abantwana kunye neebhola ezijikajikayo ngokuqinisekileyo eziza ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ukwakha nokomeleza umtshato wenu makuthathwe amanyathelo nobabini
Ukuthandana kubaluleke njengokuhlawula amatyala. Ukupeyinta indlu kubaluleke njengokuya kumhla. Ukubamba izandla, ukuncuma, ukudlala ngothando kunye nokuba ziintlobo zezona khefu zilula kunye neentsiba ezenza indawo ekhuselekileyo, ethambileyo, ekhululekile kunye neyondlayo yokuphumla. Yonke into oyenzayo inokuba lisebe, igqabi okanye intsiba eya kuphucula umtshato wakho. Isichasi siyinyani.
Ukuba ukhohlakele, uyacaphuka, uyadimazeka, okanye uyahoya uya kongeza ameva, amatye, umgquba okanye iglasi. Kwaye ngelixa ezinye izilwanyana zisebenzisa ezi zinto ukwakha iindlwane zazo, ndikulungele ukubheja ufuna into emnandi ngakumbi kwaye kamnandi. Ayisiyiyo ukuba sonke asinamaxesha acelomngeni, sinayo. Umbono apha kukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla ekwakheni umtshato ofuna ukubanawo ukuze xa ungaphantsi komelele, uxhase kwaye unothando, kukho ulwakhiwo olomeleleyo lokubuyela umva ngalo. Ke, ukuba ukhuthele kulondolozo lomtshato, ungquzulwano noxinzelelo ziya kuba ngaphezulu komoya ovuthuzayo okanye umoya ovuthuzayo, endaweni yesiphepho okanye itsunami. Umtshato olungileyo unokuba kuphela womelele, uxhase kwaye uthandane njengoko uza kuwenza. Ke ndibuza le mibuzo kwakhona. Ufuna umtshato onjani? Kwaye uzimisele ukwenza ntoni ukuze ube nayo?