Umxholo
- 1. Iphucula imeko yekhaya
- 2. Kwandisa ubudlelwane
- 3. Idilesi yomntu wonke
- 4. Ukuphucula izakhono zonxibelelwano
- 5. Ukhulisa ukuzithemba
- 6. Ulwabiwo lweendima
- 7. Ukuphelisa iimbambano
- 8. Jonga iindlela zokuziphatha
- 9. Kufaka uxolelo
Abantu abatshatileyo banokufuna ukubona umcebisi womtshato kunye nosapho. Rhoqo, iingxaki emtshatweni zingaphaya komtshato kuphela. Iingxaki ezibangelwa zizinto ezahlukeneyo ezinegalelo. Abacebisi ngomtshato kunye nosapho banokunceda ekuchongeni izinto ezinegalelo kwaye ngcono kodwa, basombulule ingxakis. Oku kwenziwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokutshintsha iipateni zokuziphatha.
Impixano emtshatweni ihlala ibangelwa ziimpembelelo zokuziphatha ezivela kwiintsapho eziguqukayo. Nokuba kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo okanye abasebukhweni, olunye ulwalamano luchaphazela umtshato. Ngenxa yoku, lonke ubudlelwane kufuneka buqwalaselwe kwaye buphuculwe ukuze ekugqibeleni bomeleze ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane nosapho xa lulonke.
Makhe sixoxe ngendlela umqeqeshi ongumKristu ongumcebisi ngomtshato onokuthi awuphucule ngayo umtshato kunye nosapho ngokwahlukileyo. Abacebisi ngezeentsapho kunye nakwimitshato benza lukhulu ekuncedeni ukusombulula nakuphi na ukungavisisani okanye uxinanise ubudlelwane besibini okanye ubudlelwane phakathi kosapho.
Apha ngezantsi kukho iindlela ezili-9 zokuba umtshato nocebiso losapho lunceda.
1. Iphucula imeko yekhaya
Kukho izinto eziguqukayo kwikhaya ngalinye kwaye ezo zichaphazela ngqo ubudlelwane. Eyona ndlela yokuphucula imeko yekhaya kukuyibuyisela kulungelelwaniso. Iingxaki zenzeka xa amalungu osapho eqala ukunyathela iinzwane zabo okanye xa kujongene namaxesha anzima.
Oku kungabandakanya nantoni na evela kwiingcebiso zomtshato ezingafunekiyo ngoozala, amalungu osapho angavani, ukuziva kungavakali, ukungqubana kwezakhono zobuzali, iingxaki zemali, ukusweleka kusapho, kunye nentaphane yezinye izinto. Oku kunokuba nefuthe elibi ekuziphatheni kwaye ubudlelwane bunokuba nzima.
Ngokucebisa, umtshato wamaKristu kunye nabacebisi bosapho bayakwazi ukunceda izibini kunye neentsapho zabo ekufumaneni isisombululo esingapheliyo ngokumisela iinjongo ezithile ezinokufikelelwa njengokuphucula unxibelelwano.
2. Kwandisa ubudlelwane
Umtshato wabantu abatshatileyo kunye nabacebisi bosapho bathetha ngokwandiswa kobudlelwane. Abantu bahlala becinga ngokucebisa kwaye iingqondo zabo ziye ekusombululeni iingxabano kodwa kugqitha ekusombululeni iingxaki.
Ngokusebenza nezibini neentsapho zabo, abacebisi bayakwazi ukubasondeza kwaye bomeleze iqhina labo. Ukuseka kwakhona umanyano ngexesha leseshoni yimvakalelo emnandi etsala ngokwenene iintliziyo. Kwabaninzi, ubunye sisiqwenga sokugqibela sephazili esifunekayo ukuze ufumane uninzi lweeseshoni zokucebisa.
3. Idilesi yomntu wonke
Ukucebisa ngomtshato kunye nosapho kubhekisa kuye wonke umntu osendlwini. Ukuze isisombululo sinamathele, wonke umntu kufuneka atshintshe. Abacebisi bakhuthaza olu tshintsho lubalulekileyo ngokucebisa abantu kunye nesibini / usapho xa lulonke.
4. Ukuphucula izakhono zonxibelelwano
Enye yeendlela eziphambili zokuqondana okanye ukwazi umntu kungonxibelelwano. Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo kubudlelwane yeyona nto ibalulekileyo, nangona kunjalo, ihlala ihoywa.
Abacebisi ngomtshato kunye nosapho basebenza njengabalamli kwaye bancede ekusombululeni iingxabano phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo okanye amanye amalungu osapho. Ngokuchazwa ngcono kweemvakalelo, uya kuba nakho ukusombulula amanqanaba ohlukeneyo onxibelelwano olungelulo ngokucebisa ngomtshato wosapho.
5. Ukhulisa ukuzithemba
Iimbambano ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kuvela kusapho.
Ke, ukucebisa ngomtshato kusebenza njani kule nkalo?
Iimpikiswano zinokususa ukuzithemba komntu, ngakumbi xa kusenzeka neqabane okanye usapho. Kulapho abacebisi bomtshato kunye nosapho bangenelela khona ukunceda kuqeqesho lwabo lwezakhono kunye nongenelelo lonyango.
Oku kusombulula umbuzo 'Ngaba ukucebisa ngomtshato kungawusindisa umtshato?'
Ewe umcebisi womtshato uzama ukuqonda ukuba ngubani ophethe amandla kubudlelwane kwaye uzama ukuwunciphisa, ngaloo ndlela kuvuselelwa ukuzithemba kweqela elithobelayo.
6. Ulwabiwo lweendima
Kunokubakho amaxesha apho elinye lamaqabane emtshatweni lisongela kakhulu kubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuphendula kwelinye iqabane. Ukubaluleka kwengcebiso kukuba abacebisi abatshatileyo kunye nosapho bayanceda ukuseka ubudlelwane obomeleleyo ngokuvumela ilungu ngalinye losapho ukuba libaluleke ngokulinganayo.
Abacebisi ngomtshato kunye nosapho bakwanceda ukuseta imida kunye nokuseka imbeko ngokubonisa igunya labazali kunye nembono neemfuno zabantwana.
7. Ukuphelisa iimbambano
Uyifumana nini ingcebiso ngomtshato?
Iingcebiso kusapho kunye nasemtshatweni kubalulekile ekusombululeni ungquzulwano emtshatweni. Indima yabacebisi ngomtshato kunye nosapho kukubonelela ngengcebiso zomtshato kwizibini ezitshatileyo.
Iimpikiswano zinokwenzeka nakwintsapho enokukhokelela kwiingxabano ezinkulu. Ke ngoko, izibonelelo zokucebisa ngomtshato kukuba zinciphisa naziphi na iimeko ezinjalo ezimbi kwi-bud ngu ukusonjululwa kwembambano kunye nendlela yokusombulula iingxaki kule meko.
8. Jonga iindlela zokuziphatha
Abacebisi ngomtshato kunye nosapho basebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha ekusombululeni indlela yokuziphatha engafanelekanga okanye eyonakalisayo ebantwini, ngakumbi abantwana. Injongo yokunikwa kwengcebiso kukuseka isibonelelo sexesha elide.
Yintoni injongo yokufumana iingcebiso?
Oku kusetyenziselwa ukunyanga inani elikhulu labantu elinemicimbi eyahlukeneyo. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zonyango lokuziphatha ezinje:
- Inkqubo yokungafuneki
- Unyango lokuthintela
- Unyango lokuziphatha okuqinisekileyo
- Ukunyanga kokuziphatha kokuziphatha
Olu nyango lunceda kwi:
- Ixhala
- Uxinzelelo
- Imiba yomsindo
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kwesiyobisi
- I-ADHD
- Ukuzenzakalisa
- IPhobias
9. Kufaka uxolelo
Kutheni le nto ingcebiso ibalulekile kusapho?
Ukucebisa ngomtshato kwi-Intanethi kuyanceda kuxolelwaniso phakathi kosapho.
Iingcebiso ziqinisekisa ukomeleza ubudlelwane. Inika iingxoxo ukuze ifayile ye- isibini okanye amanye amalungu osapho akagwebi kangako kwaye ayaxolelana.
Kwividiyo engezantsi, uLisa Nichols uthetha ngokuxolela usapho ngokudala ubuninzi ebomini. Amandla ethu amaninzi achithwa kulwalamano lwethu. Ke, akufuneki kubekho nayiphi na into ebangela isiphithiphithi kulwalamano kwaye ke ebomini. Yazi ngakumbi ngezantsi:
Ke, ukuba wena nosapho lwakho nijamelene noxinzelelo lwengqondo okanye ingxaki, yiya emtshatweni kunye nabacebisi bosapho ukusombulula ingxaki.