Umxholo
- 1. Akukho mtsalane
- 2. Ayizenzekeli
- 3. Uxinzelelo olungapheliyo
- 4. Iingxaki zempilo
- 5. Ukungaboni ngasonye
Yonke into ihamba kakuhle kwaye ngesiquphe umlilo awusekho. Kwakudala kwakukho ixesha, xa nina nobabini nivele nijongane kwaye kungafane kume umbane owawuza kuhamba ngemithambo yakho. Benivumelana ngayo yonke into. Nanini na xa ujikeleze abanye, ikhemistri yakho yayiza kukhanyisa igumbi. Benicinga omnye nomnye imini yonke. Kodwa sika okwangoku, uqhubeka ujonga ifowuni yakho kwaye ayikhali rhoqo. Kwenzekentoni?
Apha ngezantsi zizinto ezintlanu ezibangela ukuphulukana nokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo emadodeni.
1. Akukho mtsalane
Imizimba yethu iyatshintsha njengoko indlela yethu yokuphila itshintsha. Ukuba indlela yakho yokuphila iye yahlala phantsi, ke unokufumana iipawundi ezimbalwa. Abanye abatshatileyo abayiboni njengeyona nto inkulu apho abanye bacinga ukuba yinto yokwaphula isivumelwano. Thetha ngayo neqabane lakho ngaphandle kokuzikhusela. Unkosikazi wabuza umyeni wakhe, "Ukuqala kwethu ukudibana, yintoni oyifumanise inomtsalane kum, ubuntu bam okanye ubukrelekrele bam?" Umyeni uphendule wathi, “Ndikubonile uhamba ngaphesheya kolwandle. Ubushushu. Emva kokuba ndikwazile, emva koko ndathandana nengqondo yakho. Khange ndibubone ubuchopho bakho elwandle. ” Ndicinga ukuba kukhuselekile ukuthi, kufuneka kubekho inqanaba lomtsalane emzimbeni ukugcina ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo. Yimvakalelo esisiseko yohlobo lomntu.
2. Ayizenzekeli
Kubudlelwane, ukwamkelwa kudlala indima enkulu. Ukuba bhetyebhetye kushiya igumbi lenu nobabini ukuba nenze iimpazamo kwaye niziguqulele ekubeni zizenzekele, zixhase, zikhuthaze kwaye zibe mnandi. Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho liza lifutshane ngokuhombisa igumbi, endaweni yokukhalaza malunga nendlela ebukeka imbi ngayo. Ngena ngaphakathi kwaye ufefe ipeyinti, uyihlanze ngakumbi, ngemibala ephambeneyo emva koko ufafaze omnye komnye. Olu hlazo luzenzekelayo luvumela iqabane lakho lazi, ayisiyonto inkulu. Kunokubakho ukungcola ukucoca emva koko kodwa ezimbini zinokukwenza ngokukhawuleza kunenye. Dlala kunye. Ukuzenzekelayo kunokucoca izinto phezulu. Kufuneka kubekho igumbi kubudlelwane ukuze iqabane lakho lenze iimpazamo. Kufuneka kubekho ubhetyebhetye kuwo omabini amaqela ukuba enze iimpazamo. Xa kungekho bhetyebhetye okanye izinto ezizenzekelayo emtshatweni, kubakho ilahleko yokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni.
3. Uxinzelelo olungapheliyo
Umzimba womntu ukhupha i-hormone ye-cortisol ekuphenduleni kuxinzelelo. Uxinzelelo olungapheliyo lubangela ukudakumba kwaye ekugqibeleni sigule ngengqondo. Uxinzelelo lubenza abantu badinwe kwaye bangavumelani. Ukuba uxinezelekile awunakuziva ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba uxinzelelo luyalawuleka. Chonga into ebangela uxinzelelo kubomi bakho kwaye ujongane nayo ngqo. Ukuba luthotho lweziganeko, funda ukucamngca, wenze imithambo ngakumbi, umamele umculo olungileyo, okanye ufunde. Yenza into ekwenza uphumle. Uxinzelelo olungapheliyo lunokubangela ukulahleka kwesondo. Qiniseka ukuba uphumle ayikokuzixakekisa ngengqondo ngokutshintsha izinto ezinje ngotywala. Zingakhokelela kwiingxaki zempilo kwaye hayi kubudlelwane obusenyongweni.
4. Iingxaki zempilo
Wonke umntu uneentsuku zokungaziva mnandi ngoku kodwa kodwa xa kukho iingxaki zempilo ezinje ngesifo seswekile, ilupus, umhlaza, intliziyo okanye uxinzelelo lwegazi. Uxinzelelo lunokuthatha umthwalo emtshatweni wakho. Kunokubakho utyando, ukugcina ukutyunjwa kwabagqirha abaqhelekileyo, ukuthatha amayeza njengoko kuchaziwe kunye nokubeka iliso kwimpilo yakho kungathintela nabani na. Kunzima ukubukela iqabane lakho lisokola phantsi kwezi meko. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba abantu abaninzi bahlangabezana ngempumelelo nezifo zamaqabane abo kwaye bonwabile emtshatweni. Kuyacetyiswa phantsi kwezi meko uncedo lobuchwephesha luthathwe kuba iingxaki zempilo, ukuba ziye zingakhange zilungiswe, zinokubangela ukulahleka kobudlelwane obusenyongweni.
5. Ukungaboni ngasonye
Iimpikiswano ezininzi kunye nokungavumelani kuchasene nelungiselelo lomtshato. Funda "ukuyiyeka". Kuza kubakho amaxesha apho izibini zingenakho ukuvumelana kumcimbi othile. Vuma nje ukungavumelani kwaye uqhubele phambili kwinto elandelayo. Iyakuhlala ikhona into elandelayo ngoba nitshatile kwaye niyabelana ngobomi bakho kunye. Ngamanye amaxesha kubushushu bempikiswano, amagama anokuthethwa angaze abuyiselwe umva. Olu luhlobo lweempikiswano ezibangela ilahleko yokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo.
Kubonakala kukhuselekile ukuthi ukungabikho kothando olusondeleyo lwamadoda emtshatweni kunokubangelwa kukungabikho komtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, ukungonwabi okuzenzekelayo, uxinzelelo olungapheliyo, iingxaki zempilo, kunye nokungavisisani okuninzi kunye nokudana. Zonke ezi zinto zinokulungiswa ukubuyisela ulwalamano kubuye wanelise ngokwasemphefumlweni. Zininzi iingcali ezinelayisensi zokunceda kolu hlobo lweengxaki.