Umxholo
- Intlalontle njengesi sifo
- Uphele njani nomntu onje kwasekuqaleni?
- Unyango lwentlalontle
- Uqhubela phambili njani
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyazibuza ukuba uhlala nabantu, izinto azilunganga kangako!
Ukuba ucinga ukuba indlela oziphethe ngayo iqabane lakho inokuthi ibangelwe kukuziphatha kwabantu, ngekhe uphathwe njengoko kufanelekile, ukutsho nje okuncinci. Kodwa, njengoko siza kuxubusha kweli nqaku, kukho iimpendulo eziqhelekileyo kuxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba, emva koko kukho intlalontle njengokuphazamiseka kubuntu.
Kwimeko enye, unokulindela utshintsho. Kwelinye, kungcono ukuba uhlala ukhuseleko kunye neemfuno zakho.
Intlalontle njengesi sifo
Okokuqala, ewe, intlalontle sisifo sengqondo.
Kwaye ngelishwa, sisifo ekunzima ukuba sinyangwe, ukuba kunokwenzeka. Kungenxa yokuba iwela phantsi kodidi olubanzi lokuphazamiseka kubuntu kwaye kubonakala ngathi zingene kubume bengqondo bomntu.
I-etiology ngqo yesifo ayicacanga, kodwa kubonakala ngathi ukubeka nje, yindlela abakuyo.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: I-Sociopath vs Psychopath
Uhlelo lwesihlanu lweDiagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) lubonisa into esihlala siyibiza ngokuba yintlalontle njenge-Antisocial Personality Disorder. Ukufumanisa ukuba unale ngxaki umntu kufuneka abonakalise iimpawu ubuncinci ngaphambi kokuba abeneminyaka eli-15 (nangona bengenakufunyaniswa esesikweni ngaphambi kweminyaka eyi-18).
Kodwa, kwiimeko ezininzi, intlalontle iya kuba yintlalontle kwangoko nje xa bebancinci.
I-DSM-5 ichaza abantu abanale ngxaki njengokungazisoli ngezenzo zabo, ukungakhathali, ukungakhathali ngokucacileyo kunye nabanye.
Bayacaphuka, baba ndlongondlongo, kwaye badla ngokuxabana nabanye. Bakhohlisa abanye kwaye baxoke ngokuzonwabisa okanye inzuzo.
Kwaye bayasilela ukuthobela imithetho, ekhokelela ekubeni bajongane- ekugqibeleni.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Ngaba i-Sociopaths Uthando
Uphele njani nomntu onje kwasekuqaleni?
Uninzi, ngakumbi abo bangaphandle kolwalamano lwakho okanye umtshato, banokuzibuza ukuba kwenzeka njani ukuba uthandane nomntu onjalo.
Nangona kunjalo, ayothusi into yokuba akukho mntu uqaphele ukuba kukho intlalontle phakathi kwabo. Kungenxa yokuba batyhaphaza kwaye banobuqhetseba kangangokuba baya kuthi tyibilika kanye phantsi kwe-radar ukuba bafuna njalo.
Amathuba kukuba, babenomtsalane ngokumangalisayo, bethetha kamnandi, babe krelekrele, kwaye babonakala benomdla omkhulu kuwe nakuyo yonke into ekuchaphazelayo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kuba bengakhathali kwaphela kwaphela. Kwakulula ukukholelwa ukuba ufumene umntu olungileyo onokwabelana naye ngobomi bakho.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokuhamba kwexesha, into ebinokuba kukunxila, umtsalane wentlalontle kunye nokuphendula okukhulu kwihlabathi nakwabanye, kuya kuba namandla kakhulu.
Kwaye kuhlala kuguquka.
Oku kwahlukile kwindlela asabela ngayo umntu ekukhathazekeni, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuyilahla apha naphaya kodwa intlalontle zihlala zilawula kwaye zisebenzisa gadalala.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Uluhlu lokuHlola lwabafazi
Unyango lwentlalontle
Akukho naluphi na unyango olusemthethweni oluya kucetyiswa njengoko kuqinisekisiwe ukuba luyasebenza. Ukukubeka ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kukho isivumelwano phakathi kwabaqeqeshi ukuba akukho nto inokwenziwa.
Oku kunokuvakala kuyinto eyoyikisayo kuwe, kodwa yinyani ekufuneka uyazi.
Ngapha koko, ingxoxo phakathi kwabagula ngengqondo kunye noochwephesha bengqondo zijikeleza iindlela zokukhusela uluntu kwaba bantu.
Kukho izinto ezibonisa ukuba intlalontle, kwezinye iimeko, inokuziva inoluvelwano.
Oku kusenokwenzeka ukuba kungenxa yokuba intlalontle yinto eqhubekayo. Ayifani nokuba uyi-sociopath okanye awuyiyo. Ke, kwiimeko ezinobuzaza zesifo, umntu unokukwazi ukuziva enovelwano, kwaye kwezo meko, kunokubakho indlela eya kuhlobo oluthile lobomi obuqhelekileyo.
Kukho amatyala, nangona enqabile, ukuba intlalontle ifumana indlela eya ekukhokeleni ubomi ngaphakathi kwemilinganiselo yoluntu. Ngamanye amaxesha, inkolo yindlela yokuqonda kunye nokuhlonipha imigaqo-nkqubo ephezulu kwaye ujonge impilo yabanye.
Ngamanye amaxesha, intlalontle inokuphendula kunyango oluthile lwengqondo apho iindlela ezizezinye zokuziphatha kunye neendlela zonxibelelwano zamkelwe. Kodwa, kwiimeko ezininzi, bafunda nje ukufihla okungcono ukuphazamiseka kwabo.
Uqhubela phambili njani
Asinakukunika naluphi na uhlobo lweengcebiso ngokubanzi, njengoko kufanelekile ukuba uxoxe ngemeko yakho nganye kunye noochwephesha oqeqeshiweyo. Qiniseka ukuba unenkxaso eyaneleyo kwaye uhlala ukhuselekile ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ngelishwa, uninzi lwentlalontle luyaziphindezela. Nika ingqalelo ekhethekileyo kubuchule babo bokukhohlisa abantu.
Ukuba wanele ukuxhatshazwa, uyakufuna zonke izibonelelo zakho kunye nenkxaso ukuze uphumelele.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Ukwahlukanisa iSociopath
Zilungiselele impembelelo, kwaye uzilungiselele. Asifuni kukoyikisa, kodwa kungcono sizilungiselele okubi kwaye simangaliswe ziziphumo ezingcono kunokuba ungazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.