Umxholo
- Ngaba umtshato wakho wonakele ngenxa yokungabikho kolwalamano olusenyongweni?
- Luyintoni ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo?
- Akukho buhlobo emtshatweni?
- Cingani ngexesha lenu kunye
- Qaphela izinto ozenzileyo ngelixa bonwabile kunye
- Ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunokwenza umahluko
Ngaba umtshato wakho wonakele ngenxa yokungabikho kolwalamano olusenyongweni?
Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kunokuthetha izinto ezininzi, kwaye eli gama alinangcaciso inye.
Endaweni yokuba, ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo ngokubhekisele kwindlela esinxibelelana ngayo namaqabane ethu, inqanaba lokuhloniphana nokuthembana, iimvakalelo zobuhlobo nokusondelelana komzimba, indlela esithetha ngayo, indlela esiphatha ngayo ungquzulwano lweemvakalelo, ulawulo lweemvakalelo kunye nobukrelekrele, kwaye kunjalo , ukuthandana nothando.
Nangona kunjalo, ukunqongophala kokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukungabikho konxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kubudlelwane phakathi kwezibini kuphelisa ubumnyama emtshatweni.
Eli nqaku ligxile kubudlelwane kunye nothando njengezinto ezinxulumene nokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni kwaye uphendula umbuzo, indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo emtshatweni.
Luyintoni ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo?
Ukuba sijonga inkcazo yokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo ngokungqongqo, oko kuthetha ukusondelelana phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo apho banokwabelana ngokukhululekileyo ngeemvakalelo zabo, izinto abazilindeleyo, kunye nomboniso wokukhathala, ukuqonda, ukuvuma kunye nokuba sesichengeni.
Izibini ezitshatileyo zihlala zizibona ziphelelwe lithemba xa, ekuhambeni kwexesha, zivakalelwa ngokungathi azisadibani, ukuba umtshato uyadika okanye uyadika, okanye abanasondelelwano, uthando, okanye uthando abaziva ukuba kufanelekile babe namaqabane abo. Oku kunokubhekiswa kukungabikho kobuhlobo obusondeleyo emtshatweni.
Iingcali zomtshato zijongana nesihloko sokunqongophala kokuthandana ngokweemvakalelo yonke imihla; kwaye ngesiqhelo ziqinisekisa izibini ukuba uluvo oluchazwe apha ngasentla luqhelekile.
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba uthando lufanele lube njengentsomi; ukuba "lowo" sitshatayo senzelwe ukuba njalo, kwaye iimvakalelo zethu zokuncamathela kunye nokuqubuda ziya kuhlala ngonaphakade kananjalo ukuba zilungile.
Olu hlobo lokucinga lolunye lweempawu zokucinga eziphosakeleyo kwinkcubeko yethu. Nokuba abo bethu baziva ngathi "sazi ngcono" banokuba nento efihle nzulu kwi-subconscious yethu, besixelela ukuba ukuba sitshatile uthando lwethu lokwenyani, akufuneki sizive ngale ndlela.
Akukho buhlobo emtshatweni?
Lithini inyathelo lokuqala lokoyisa ukungabikho kolwalamano kubudlelwane?
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile ukulungisa ukungabikho kobuhlobo kukususa iingcinga ezinje ngale, kwaye uqale ukuthatha indlela esebenzayo kwingxaki.
Funda ngakumbi: Into ekufuneka uyenzile xa ungaziva ukuba akukho luQhagamshelo ngokweemvakalelo nomyeni wakho
Nangona kungabonakali njalo, usebenze nzima ngothando ngelixa uthandana neqabane lakho kunangaphambili.
Inkangeleko yakho ibingcono, ubeka amandla ngakumbi kumhla ogqibeleleyo, isidlo sangokuhlwa esifanelekileyo, ikeyiki efanelekileyo yokuzalwa- nantoni na eyenzekileyo ngelo xesha, ubeka amandla amakhulu. Ukusukela ngoko, wawutshatile kwaye izinto zazihamba kakuhle. Emva koko ubuhamba ngokuhamba okomzuzwana. Mhlawumbi awuzange ulale ngesondo rhoqo.
Okanye, mhlawumbi khange uthathe ixesha elininzi uzilungisa. Mhlawumbi ngoku uhleli esofeni utya i-bon-bons kwaye ubukele i-Oprah. Ngokukrakra nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uphinde usebenze nzima, njengoko wenzayo ngexesha lokuthandana, ukubuyisela ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo emfanekisweni.
Ngoku ukuba usazi ukuba ukunqongophala kobudlelwane obusondeleyo ayisosiphelo sehlabathi, ungaqala inkqubo yokwazisa- okanye ukuphinda wenze- izixhobo ezenza uthando lukhule.
Cingani ngexesha lenu kunye
Akukho thando emtshatweni? Ukuba ujonga impendulo eqinisekileyo kumbuzo, ubuyisa njani ukusondelelana emtshatweni, kuya kufuneka wenze ukoyisa ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kwindawo yakho ekugxilwe kuyo, endaweni yokuvumela ukuswela ulwalamano olusondeleyo emtshatweni kuphazamisa ulonwabo lwakho lomtshato.
Ukuqonda eyakhoUlwimi lothando lomlingane kwaye Uthando lokuqinisekisa izibini inokuba luncedo ukuba unqwenela ukusombulula ukungabikho kolwalamano olusondeleyo emtshatweni wakho.
Abanye oochwephesha kunyango lomtshato bancomela ukuba wenze oku yonke imihla ukulungisa ukuswela ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo; ukuyigcina intle, ukuphindaphinda ukungqinisisa, kunye nokucamngca nje ngombono wokuba ubeka amandla aza kuqala uthando.
Kubonakalisiwe ukuba into esiyikholelwa ngokwenyani, kwaye sibeka amandla kuyo, inokubonakaliswa. Okufanayo kuyinyani yokulungisa ukungabikho kolwalamano olusenyongweni.
Qaphela izinto ozenzileyo ngelixa bonwabile kunye
Ukoyisa ukungabikho kolwalamano olusondeleyo ngokweemvakalelo, phinda ujonge iinkumbulo ezindala, ezimnandi.
Yintoni akwenzele yona ekwenze wancuma? Umenzele ntoni? Ngawaphi amaxesha apho waziva wonwabile, udibene kakhulu, okanye uthandana kakhulu? Ngawaphi amaxesha ocinga ukuba nobabini niziva nithanda kakhulu, macala?
Bhala phantsi uninzi onokucinga ngalo. Cinga ngento eyenze ukuba la mathuba abaluleke; yintoni ekunike iimvakalelo ezifudumeleyo nezingavakaliyo?
Ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunokwenza umahluko
Akukho buhlobo basenyongweni emtshatweni? Kunzima ukusinda emtshatweni ngaphandle kokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo. Ukujika ukuswela ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo entlokweni yayo, yabela ixesha elizinikeleyo lokufumana ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye.
Ukujongana nokungabikho kobuhlobo obusondeleyo emtshatweni, eyona ndawo icacileyo ukuqala neqabane lakho iya kuba kukunikezela ixesha elizinikele kunye.
Ukuba ufuna ukubuyisa inkanuko, kufuneka uchithe ixesha kunye, njengoko benisenza njalo.
Ukuhlangabezana nokungabikho kothando emtshatweni, funda kwangaphambili ukuba uza kuyenza njani ekhethekileyo. Uyakwenza ntoni ezakubuyisa ubumnandi njengamaxesha akudala? Yintoni enifanele niyenze nobabini kuqala?
Nokuba uphuma uye kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya, ukhumbula iifoto ezindala kunye, okanye utya isidlo sangokuhlwa ngokukhanyisa ikhandlela, okanye nokuba uhlamba umqolo ngobu busuku, uya kuba sele uqalile ukongeza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ngenkqubo yokunxibelelana kwakhona.