Umxholo
- 1. Qhubeka usebenza ngenkangeleko yakho
- 2. Gcina umyeni wakho kwizwane zakhe- Menze abe nomona
- 3. Yiba nobomi obungaphandle komtshato wakho
- 4. Yiba selubala ukuba uzame ulawulo lwakho lwezesondo
- 5. Ukunyusa ukuzithemba kwakhe
- 6. Yonwaba kunye
Akukho mvakalelo ingcono kunokuba liziko lendalo yeqabane lakho! Ukwazi ukuba iqabane lakho alinakufumana ngokwaneleyo unokwenza nantoni na ukuba intombazana ibhabhe.
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, ukuzenza ubonakale ungenakuphikiswa kwiqabane lakho sisiqwenga sekhekhe. Kodwa, ngokuhamba kwexesha, xa kungasekho mfihlelo kubudlelwane ukugcina iqabane lakho lifuna okungakumbi kuwe kuba ngumceli mngeni. I-Mysticism ithathelwa indawo kukuqhelana, ulonwabo luthathelwa indawo yintuthuzelo. Ngelixa ayisiyiyo eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka kubudlelwane, iyabulala imincili.
Ke, ukuthintela njani ukuqhelana nokuzala indelelo kunye nokungakhathali kubudlelwane bakho? Wenza ntoni ukuqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho lisakufuna?
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokwenza umyeni wakho afune ngakumbi kuwe:
1. Qhubeka usebenza ngenkangeleko yakho
Le yeyona nto ilula inokwenziwa ngumfazi ukugcina iqabane lakhe linomdla kuye. Kodwa inkangeleko kunye nokuzikhathalela yinto yokuqala ethatha isihlalo sangasemva xa ezinye izibophelelo kunye noxanduva lusonyuka kubudlelwane.
Qiniseka nokuba kwenzeka ntoni utyala ubuncinci imizuzu embalwa ngosuku ukugcina ulusu kunye nomzimba wakho. Ukuzigcina sisitshixo sokugcina iqabane lakho linomdla kuwe.
2. Gcina umyeni wakho kwizwane zakhe- Menze abe nomona
Ingqondo yokhuseleko kunye nentuthuzelo zezona ndawo zibalaseleyo zokuba kubudlelwane bexesha elide. Nangona kunjalo, amaxesha ngamaxesha ukwenza iqabane lakho ukuba lizive iintlungu zekhwele kunokongeza isinongo esifunekayo kulwalamano lwakho.
Akukho nto inokwenza umyeni wakho abe nomona ngakumbi xa umxelela indlela ozithanda ngayo iimpawu ezithile zabahlobo bakhe kunye nabantu bexesha lakhe. Unokubanjwa ujonge amanye amadoda (ngabom!), Oku kunokwenza ukuba azive eshushu.
Nangona kunjalo, lumka, ungagqithi kwizinto ezihlekisayo. Oku kungabuyela umva ukuba uyithatha kakhulu.
3. Yiba nobomi obungaphandle komtshato wakho
Umtshato wakho unokuba yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho, kodwa ayichazi kuphela ukuba ungubani. Amadoda ngokubanzi afumana abo bafazi banomtsalane kakhulu abalandela iminqweno namaphupha abo kwaye bagcina ukuqonda kwabo bodwa bephila.
Ukugcina umyeni wakho ekutsalele kuwe, hlala ngale ndlela wawuyiyo xa wayeqala ukudibana nawe. Qhubeka uphile ngendlela owawuphila ngayo ngaphambi kokuba udibane naye, umfazi owomeleleyo ozimeleyo unomtsalane kunowesifazane othobelayo, ongenathemba efuna uthando.
4. Yiba selubala ukuba uzame ulawulo lwakho lwezesondo
Iiseshini ezishushu nezinzima zesini ziqhelekile ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Kodwa, ekuhambeni kwexesha, xa ulonwabo lokuqala luphela, amandla omabini amaqabane anciphile, ulutsha kunye nomtsalane luyancipha kwaye kunzima ukugcina isini sonwabile njengangaphambili.
Ukugcina umyeni wakho efuna okungakumbi kuwe, unokuza nezimvo zokutshintsha inkqubo yakho yesondo kancinci. Zama ukuvuleka kulingo. Xoxa neqabane lakho ngeminqweno yakho kunye neminqweno yakho kwaye uzame ukuyizalisekisa ukophula isoyolo kubomi bakho bobulili.
Inzondelelo onayo ekuvuseleleni ubomi bakho bezesondo iya kuphakama kwisini somtshato wakho kwaye ikwenze ubonakale unomtsalane kwiqabane lakho.
5. Ukunyusa ukuzithemba kwakhe
Amadoda, ngokungafaniyo nabasetyhini, kulula kakhulu ukumisela. Okukhona unamandla okwenza ukuba bazive, kokukhona baya kutsaleleka kuwe. Amaxesha ngamaxesha ubanike ukuncoma, ubenze bazive bebodwa, babethe i-ego yabo. Oku kubanika ukungxama kwaye baya kuhlala beza kuwe ukuze bafumane ukungxama.
Nangona kunjalo, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nantoni na oyithethayo kubo. Ukuncoma okungenanto kunye nokukhohlisa akuyi kubenza bazive bonwabile, hayi ixesha elide.
6. Yonwaba kunye
Ukuba sisithethi esigudileyo kunye nothixokazi wesini nako akonelanga ukugcina indoda yakho ifuna okungakumbi kuwe. Kuya kufuneka wonwabe kunye! Ngelixa ubudlelwane budinga umsebenzi onzima kodwa kukho izinto ezimnandi kuzo ngokunjalo.
Khetha into eniyithandayo nobabini, inokuba ngumdlalo we-adventure, inokuba iya kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya, inokuba ikukunyuka, nantoni na oyithandayo. Ukuchitha ixesha elimnandi kunye kuya kwenza iqabane lakho lifune ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nani.
Landela le ndlela kwaye uyakufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho linomdla kuwe. Ngelixa ukugcina ukuthandana kuphila kubudlelwane kufuna iinzame, ayisiyonto inzima kakhulu ukufezekisa. Amanyathelo alula kunye namancinci mihla le iya kugcina iqabane lakho lifuna ngakumbi kuwe.