Umxholo
- Iqabane lakho "lingumntu" kwaye linemikhwa eqhelekileyo ukuba:
- Iimpawu kunye neempawu zokuba uwele umgca
Malunga nabo bonke abantu endisebenza nabo bathetha nam malunga nobunzima kubudlelwane babo. Ubudlelwane ngokusemandleni abo bucela umngeni kubunzima obuzalwe kubo. Zifuna ukunakekelwa okuqhubekayo kunye nomsebenzi. Abasetyhini abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba ingaba abayeni babo "bangabantu nje" abaneentlobo zemizabalazo kunye nemikhwa okanye nokuba "bawela umda" ukuba benza ngeendlela ezithile.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda phakathi kwezi zibini njengesiqhelo kunye nemiceli mngeni yesiqhelo enokuthi isetyenzwe kunye ngelixa uwela umgca, ngakumbi ukuba wenziwe ngokungaguquguqukiyo, kufuneka uphakamise iiflegi ezibomvu eziqaqambileyo ezinokuba iingxaki zinzima. Kwezi meko umntu wasetyhini uya kuhanjiswa kakuhle ukuze aqonde ukuba akahlonitshwa okanye uphathwa kakubi, okanye mhlawumbi uyaphathwa gadalala. Kwezi meko kuncinci ekusebenzeni ngezinto kunye kwaye ngakumbi malunga nomntu wasetyhini odala ukhathalelo nokhuseleko yena kwaye amisele amanyathelo akhe alandelayo njengoko enolwalamano olungenampilo.
Iqabane lakho "lingumntu" kwaye linemikhwa eqhelekileyo ukuba:
- Unobunzima ekunxibelelaneni
- unamaxabiso ahlukileyo kuwe malunga nemali kunye nokwabelana ngesondo
- ubona izinto ngokwahlukileyo kuwe kuba eyindoda
- uyacaphuka kwaye ayiveze ngokugcina impilo egxile kuye
- ayenzi xesha lakho nolwalamano lwakho
- Ndiziva ndonganyelwe ngumsebenzi kunye noxanduva lwemihla ngemihla
- Uziva ebuhlungu okanye enenzondo kwaye uthetha ngayo ngentlonipho
- ngamanye amaxesha uyazilibala izinto omxelela zona okanye ngamanye amaxesha usilela ukulandela
- ufuna ukuchitha ixesha yedwa kwaye aye "kumqolomba wakhe"
Amanye amadoda aneengxaki ezinzulu ngakumbi kunemikhwa eqhelekileyo kunye neengxaki ezikhankanywe apha ngasentla kwaye emva koko "bawele umgca" kwaye baziphathe ngendlela ekhubekisayo, ekhohlakeleyo, eyoyikisayo okanye yokuhlukumeza. Usenokuba uzama ukusebenzisa amandla kunye nolawulo kuwe. Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zinokuwa kwizigaba zomzimba, ezesondo, ezemvakalelo okanye ezezimali.
Iimpawu kunye neempawu zokuba uwele umgca
1. Izenzo zomzimba ezinje ngokubetha ngamanqindi, ukubetha ngempama, ukukhaba, ukukrwitsha, ukusebenzisa isixhobo, ukutsala iinwele, ukuzibamba, ukungakuvumeli ukuba uhambe okanye uphume egumbini.
2. Izenzo zesondo ezifana nokukunyanzela ukuba wenze into ngokwesondo ongafuniyo ukuyenza, ekusebenzisa njengento yokwabelana ngesondo okanye ukukuchukumisa ngeendlela zesondo xa ungafuni ukuthintwa.
3. Iintshukumo zovakalelo ezifana:
- ukukujongela phantsi ngokuthi ungoyise okanye awusoze ube yinto
- ndikubiza ngamagama
- ndikuxelela ukuba uve ntoni (okanye ungaziva)
- ndikuxelela ukuba uyaphambana okanye wenza izinto entlokweni yakho
- Ukubeka ityala ngokuziva unomsindo, isenzo sakhe somsindo okanye isimilo esinyanzelekileyo
- kukugcina uhlukanisiwe nosapho kunye nabahlobo bakho, ulawula ukuba ngubani ombonayo, uthetha naye kwaye uphume nini
- usebenzisa ukugrogrisa ngenkangeleko okanye izimbo zomzimba ezisongelayo, ukubetha iitafile okanye iindonga okanye ngokutshabalalisa impahla yakho
- usebenzisa izoyikiso ngokusongela ukhuseleko lwakho, ngokugrogrisa ukuthatha abantwana bakho okanye usongele ngokwenza izityholo kusapho lwakho okanye emntwaneni
- Iinkonzo zokukhusela malunga nokuziphatha kwakho okanye ukusebenza kwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo
- ukukunika ukuthula emva kokungavumelani
- ukuhamba emva kokuba ucele uncedo okanye inkxaso
- Ukuyalela ukuba ungathetha ntoni (kwaye awunako) ukuthetha
- ndikuphatha njengesicaka kwaye wenza ngathi 'ngukumkani wenqaba'
- ukophula imfihlo kwakho ngokujonga iimeyile zakho zelizwi, izicatshulwa okanye iposi
- ukukugxeka nokuba wenza ntoni na okanye unxiba njani
- ukungcakaza nokusebenzisa iziyobisi nangona uthembisile ukuba ngekhe akwenze oko
- ukuba nemicimbi engaphandle komtshato
- ukuzihlaziya izivumelwano
- Ukungena kwigumbi emva kokuba ucele ukuba wedwa
3. Izenzo zemali njengokukuthintela ekusebenzeni, ekubambeni imali, ekuthatheni imali yakho, ekwenzeni ukuba ubuze imali okanye wenze izinto ngemali, ukwenza izigqibo ezinkulu zemali okanye ukuthenga okukhulu ngaphandle kokudibana nawe.
Isishwankathelo, abantu abavela kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi nakwabo bonke ubudala banemiceli mngeni kubudlelwane babo.Rhoqo ezi ziqhelekile kwaye ziqhelekile kwaye nezinto ekufuneka zenziwe kunye, ngethemba ngobubele, ngenkxaso, ngovelwano nothando. Ke kukho iintshukumo kunye neengxaki ezigqitha koko kubhekiswa kuko njengesiqhelo. Kulapho umntu wakho ewele umgca. Ukuba uyawubona umohluko uya kuba nakho ukuqonda ukuba ingaba ukw ubudlelwane obusempilweni okanye kubudlelwane ekunokuba ngcono ukuba ungabikho, ngakumbi ukuba indoda yakho ayithathi xanduva ngeengxaki zayo. Ukuba uzifumana ukwimeko efana nale funa uncedo ngendawo yokuhlala yobundlobongela basekhaya kunye / okanye ugqirha.