Umxholo
- Ukwazise kubahlobo bakhe nakusapho
- Ayilulo lonke uthando olukhokelela kwisini
- Wawashiya onke amanye amathemba
- Wenza izicwangciso ezibandakanya nawe
- Unomdla kwimidla yakho
Xa sele uqalile ukuthandana nomntu ubophekile ukuba ungazi njani ukuba uyakuthanda na okanye luyadlula uthando lwasehlotyeni.
Ingxaki kukuba banokubonakala befana kakhulu kwiintsuku zokuqala kunye neeveki kunye neenyanga. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuphela kwiliso elingafundiswanga.
Kukho imiqondiso ethile yokuba ulwalamano lwakho luthando hayi inkanuko nje yentabatheko emfutshane. Nazi izikhokelo ezintlanu ngokubanzi malunga nokuba ungaluqonda njani uthando lokwenyani xa lusenzeka kuwe kwaye uzive ukhuselekile xa ucinga ngeholide yakho yasemva komtshato.
Ukwazise kubahlobo bakhe nakusapho
Ayisiyontsomi, ukuba ukukhathalele kwaye ufuna ikamva kunye nawe, uya kukwazisa kubahlobo nakwintsapho yakhe.
Ewe, ayingawo onke amantombazana athi azi umama womntu kunye nomhlobo wakhe osenyongweni (nditsho nokuhlala nabo okwethutyana) abe ziimissis. Kodwa, inye into eqinisekileyo- akukho namnye intombazana eyaba ngumfazi ongazange ahlangane nabanye ababalulekileyo bomyeni wakhe.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba yeyiphi na le uyenzelweyo, into emalunga nokuba intshayelelo yenzeke njani. Ngaba ibikukungqubana okungenakuthinteleka omnye nomnye kusasa, ke kuye kwanyanzeleka ukuba akwazise? Okanye umenyiwe kwisidlo sangokuhlwa okanye kwimbutho yosapho?
Ngaba wadibana nabahlobo bakhe kwiklabhu apho wawudibene naye khona, kwaye ungazange ubabone kwakhona? Okanye ngaba waqinisekisa ukuba ukwazisa njengentombazana yakhe entsha?
Ayilulo lonke uthando olukhokelela kwisini
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba anizisusi izandla zenu omnye komnye.
Kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba wenze uthando naphina, ngalo lonke ixesha. Kodwa, kukho umahluko phakathi kwenkanuko nenkanuko nje. Lonke ulwalamano luqala ngemincili yesini ekunzima ukuyilawula.
Kubudlelwane obunothando, isini asikude nothando. Yimbonakaliso yothando.
Kungenxa yoko le nto, ukuba ekuthanda ngokwenyani njengokuthile okungaphezulu kokuphosa nje, uya kufuna uthando, kodwa ayizizo zonke ukwanga nokwanga okukhokelela kwisini. Amaqabane aziva unxibelelwano olunzulu awudingi ukwenza uvuthondaba ngesondo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukubamba izandla kunomdla ngakumbi, okanye ubuncinci ngokufezekisa ngokulinganayo.
Wawashiya onke amanye amathemba
Le inkulu. Kuqhelekile ukuba amaqabane aqhubeke nokukhetha kwabo kuvulekile kwiintsuku zokuqala zobudlelwane kuba banokungaqiniseki ukuba izakubakhokelela phi.
Kodwa, okwangoku umntu uzimisele ngomnye umntu, bayayitshintsha indlela abakujonga ngayo ngokupheleleyo kwaye bagxile kwelo qabane lodwa.
Oku kwenzeka kwinqanaba pa erception, njengoko izifundo zibonisile. Xa umntu onomtsalane ehamba, iqabane elizinikeleyo liya kuthintela ingqalelo yabo kwaye lingamqapheli umntu lowo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba isithandwa sakho esitsha asikazilahli ezinye izinto ezinokwenzeka, kunokwenzeka ukuba, uyinto yokudlula nje. Ukuphosa okunokuhlala iinyanga okanye iminyaka, kodwa ayiloqabane elizinikeleyo ekufuneka ulilandele.
Wenza izicwangciso ezibandakanya nawe
Xa indoda imthanda ngokwenene umntu obhinqileyo, izicwangciso zayo ziya kuba phantse kwangoko zimbandakanye. Uya kuqala ukuthetha ngeekonsathi zomculo abanokundwendwela kunye, benze uhlengahlengiso kwizicwangciso zakhe zokuhamba, okanye acele isimemo esongezelelweyo kumtshato womhlobo wakhe.
Unokufumana neyakho idrowa. Okanye, ukuba unethamsanqa lokwenyani, usenokumva ethetha ngekamva lakho ekwabelwana ngalo ngokuthe ngqo.
Kwelinye icala, unokufumana imvakalelo yokuba umntu akangomntu uzimisele ngawe xa esenza amalungiselelo amaninzi njengoko wayeqhelekile xa wayengatshatanga.
Kusempilweni kuye ukwenza ixesha nabahlobo bakhe, kodwa ukuba ufumana kuphela into efana ncam nomnxeba ophangiweyo, lixesha lokuba uqwalasele ezinye iindlela onokukhetha kuzo.
Unomdla kwimidla yakho
Xa ekuthanda, ufuna ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakhe nawe, ufuna ukukwazi, kwaye ufuna ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ekwenza wonwabe.
Ke, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nomdla kwinto onomdla kuyo. Ayikuko ukuba kufuneka umtsalele kwikhosi yakho yobugcisa, kodwa, ungabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho ngayo.
Xa umntu engekho kuwe, uya kufuna ukwazi kuphela xa ufumanekile ukudibana. Uya kuqaphela ukuba uyadikwa xa uqala ukuthetha malunga nezinto onomdla kuzo. Usenokukuphazamisa, okanye azame ukujika incoko iye kwizinto zakhe ezixhalabisayo.
Ngayiphi na imeko, akukho luthando lukhulu ngaphandle komdla wokwenene kuyo yonke into oyaziyo ngomnye umntu.