Umxholo
- 1. Mnike indawo
- 2. Wuxhathise umnqweno wokulwa
- 3. Mamela ngokungathi awuzange umamele ngaphambili
- 4. Uxolo (nokuba sele unalo)
- 5. Ukucebisa ngomtshato
- 6. Ungaze, unikezele
Wena nomfazi wakho nihlukene. Nobabini benisazi ukuba lixesha lokuphumla, kodwa kube lula ukutsho kunokwenza. Uyamkhumbula. Uyakhumbula ukulala ecaleni kwakhe, umenze ahleke, kwaye ujonge yonke imihla naye ecaleni kwakho. Nilungile nje kunye kwaye into onokuzibuza yona kukuba ndingambuyisa njani umfazi wam emva kokwahlukana.
Eyona nto niyiphosileyo ziintsuku zokuba nivane kwaye kungabikho zimvo zinzima phakathi kwenu. Kodwa ngelishwa, umtshato wakho khange ube njalo okwexeshana. Nobabini nadinwa kukulwa nokungakhathali. Kungenxa yoko le nto nizahlule kwasekuqaleni.
Ngexesha lamanqanaba okuqala okwahlukana kwakho, uhlala uzixelela ukuba 'ndiyamkhumbula umfazi wam' kwaye uhlala ucinga ngeendlela zokumzuza umfazi wakho kwaye akuthande kwakhona.
Ucinga ukuba uza kuthini ukuze ubuyise umfazi wakho kunye nendlela yokwenza umfazi wakho athande nawe kwakhona emva kokwahlukana.
Ukuba wohlukene okwethutyana, ngethemba, izinto ziye zaphola kancinci. Nobabini nibe nakho ukucacisa uloyiko lwenu kwaye nivavanye ukuba ziphi izinto. Ixesha liyaphilisa amanxeba, kodwa hayi onke. Yintoni enye ekufuneka uyenzile ukubuyisa umfazi wakho emva kokwahlukana?
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezinokuza nendlela yokubuyisela umfazi wakho emva kokuba ekushiyile kunye nendlela yokwenza umfazi wakho akuthande kwakhona emva kokwahlukana:
1. Mnike indawo
Ungawuphumelela njani umfazi wakho emva kokwahlukana kuqala ngokuqonda ukuba kutheni nahlukene kwasekuqaleni. Ungangafuni ukuvumela okwahlukana ukuba kuqhubeke, kodwa ukuba yile nto ayifunayo, mnike yona. Izinto ezingxamisekileyo zinokulimaza amathuba akho okuba afune ukubuyela kunye.
Usenokukhumbula kwaye afune ukuba kunye nawe kwakhona, kodwa angafuna ixesha elingakumbi lokuzilungisa izinto. Yihloniphe loo nto kwaye ungamcinezeli okanye umnike imigaqo okanye amaxesha.
2. Wuxhathise umnqweno wokulwa
Sukuwela kwiindlela zakho ezindala zokulwa, nokuba uyazikhusela okanye ufuna ukulwa nawe. Oku akuyi kumenza afune ukuba kunye nawe yonke imihla-yile nto nina nobabini nisuke kuyo.
Ngaphezulu, umsindo wakhe ayinguye uqobo umsindo, lusizi okanye uloyiko. Uye woyika. Ukoyikwa kukuphulukana nawe, ukuba ubomi bakhe buya kuba njani ngaphandle kwakho, bokujongana nayo wedwa. Ukuba uyakhwaza kuwe, mamela nje ngokuzimisela.
Musa ukulinda ithuba lakho lokuba uthethe, mnike ingqalelo epheleleyo, kwaye uqinisekise iimvakalelo zakhe.
3. Mamela ngokungathi awuzange umamele ngaphambili
Abafazi bafuna ukuviwa. Kodwa hayi ukuva nje amagama-ngenisa ukuqonda kwaye uqonde iimvakalelo zala magama. Qhagamshela, ufumane omnye komnye - yile nto ayifunayo.
Inxalenye yesizathu sokwahlukana kwakho ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuba ebengaziva ngathi uve. Yinto enkulu ekufuneka itshintshe ukuba uyamfuna.
Xa ethetha nawe, sukuzama ukulungisa iingxaki zakhe — mamela nje. Unengqondo ngokwaneleyo yokuqonda izinto, into ayifunayo kuwe yindlebe emameleyo kunye nenkuthazo.
"Uxolo sithandwa sam," kwaye "ndiyayiqonda," kwaye, "Ungayenza," kufuneka ibe ngamabinzana owankqayeyo ngoku kwaye uwasebenzise rhoqo. Musa ukumamela ukuphendula, mamela, kwaye umve ngokwenene. Iyakwenza wonke umahluko.
Umbono kukungazi kuphela indlela yokubuyisela inkosikazi yakho emva kokwahlukana kodwa ufumane indlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba nihlala kunye.
4. Uxolo (nokuba sele unalo)
Uthethile uxolile, uzisolisile-iyokuze ibe nini eyoneleyo? Into kukuba, eyona nto ayifunayo kukuva iimvakalelo zakho emva kokuxolisa. Ukuthi uxolo okanye ukwenza uxolo akusichazi kuye indlela oziva ngayo. Kwaye masijongane nayo-awungomntu onokuthi ngenene indlela oziva ngayo rhoqo. Ewe, eli lelinye lala maxesha anqabileyo.
Nokuba uyafuna okanye awufuni, kuya kufuneka uchithe amathumbu akho. Yithi uxolile kuba awuzange ufune ukumenza buhlungu, uyamkhumbula, unombono wobomi bakho kunye naye.
Yandisa loo nto, kodwa ufumana umbono.Ukuthi uxolile kulungile, kodwa ukucacisa iimvakalelo zakho ngasemva kuko oko kuya kunceda uzuze intliziyo yomfazi wakho kwakhona.
5. Ukucebisa ngomtshato
Uninzi lwabasetyhini bakwibhodi enengcebiso, kwaye ukuba ucebisa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba kwicala lakhe elilungileyo. Kodwa inye into ukuvuma ukuya, kunye nenye into ukubeka yonke imizamo yakho kwinkqubo.
Unyango akukho lula, ngakumbi kumadoda amaninzi. Ukuthetha kakhulu ngeemvakalelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo le yesuti yomeleleyo kwaye ayiyondoda eyomeleleyo. Kulungile.
Isixa somzamo owubekayo kuwo sisitshixo apha.
Ke bonisa kwiseshoni nganye, mamela ugqirha, mamela umfazi wakho, kwaye wabelane ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ngale nkqubo, uya kufunda ngakumbi malunga nenkosikazi yakho kwaye mhlawumbi nangakumbi malunga nawe, nawe.
6. Ungaze, unikezele
Nokuba izinto zikhangeleka zimfiliba, ungaze ulahle ithemba lokuba nobabini niyakwazi ukubuyela kunye. Konke malunga nesimo sakho sengqondo kunye nengqondo. Ukuba sele uncamile entliziyweni nasengqondweni yakho, uya kuyazi.
Abasetyhini banoluvo oluvakalayo lokuziva abanye abantu-ngakumbi indoda ayithandayo.
Ithemba lukhetho olwenza yonke imihla. Vuka yonke imihla kwaye uthethe izinto ezikhuthazayo kuwe, kwaye ucinge iingcinga ezikhuthazayo. Musa ukuvumela nabani na okanye nantoni na ikuthintele.
Ungumfazi wakho, uyamthanda, kwaye ukuba ubeka ixesha kunye nomzamo ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kumbuyisela esiphelweni sebali.