Umxholo
- Gxila kwindlela oziphethe ngayo
- Ukunyamezela, ukuxabise nokwamkela iyantlukwano
- Yeka ukuzama ukutshintsha iqabane lakho
- Yise kude
Uthando nembeko emtshatweni zibaluleke kakhulu. Ukuze uthande umntu, kufuneka umhloniphe njengoko kungenakwenzeka ukuba umxabise ngokwenyani umntu okuthandayo ukuba awumhloniphi. Into kukuba, singabantu, kwaye eli candelo libalulekileyo kubudlelwane obusempilweni kufuneka lusekwe.
Intlonipho ilahleka emtshatweni xa iqabane lakho lisilela ukuxabisa ngokungafaniyo kwaye liqwalasele iimvakalelo zakho. Oku kudala iingxaki, kwaye elinye okanye omabini amaqabane anokushiyeka eziva engahlonitshwanga kwaye engathandwa. Umtshato ngaphandle kwentlonipho unokuluqhwalelisa uthando kubudlelwane onabo omnye komnye.
Akukho ntlonipho kubudlelwane okanye ukuphulukana nembeko kubudlelwane yenye yeendlela ezikhawulezayo zokuyonakalisa. Esinye sezizathu ezibangela ukuba izibini zahlukane kukungabi nantlonelo. Ichaphazela uthando kunye nokusondelelana abanako, ekugqibeleni ukudala unxibelelwano ekunzima ukubuyela kulo.
Ubungakanani bentlonipho abatshatileyo abatshatileyo buchaza ulwaneliseko abanalo emtshatweni wabo.
Intlonipho emtshatweni ibaluleke kakhulu ekusebenzeni komtshato. Ke, ukuyigcina okanye ukuyivuselela kubalulekile.
Kungabonakala kunzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukubuyisela imbeko emtshatweni. Kuyenzeka ukuba ubuyele kwindawo apho wena neqabane lakho nibonane kuqala kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba uhlala uziva uswele uthando kunye nentlonipho, kufuneka ukhawuleze uthathe amanyathelo.
Ngethamsanqa, ukuphinda umisele imbeko kunye nothando emtshatweni kunokwenziwa. Nantsi indlela yokubonisa intlonipho kwaye uyifumane kwiqabane lakho:
Gxila kwindlela oziphethe ngayo
Ingcebiso enkulu ku yiza nothando kunye nentlonipho emtshatweni wakho Kukugxila kuphela ekutshintsheni isimilo sakho. Xa kufikwa ekubeni ngumntu ohloniphayo kwaye uliphatha ngembeko iqabane lakho, uwedwa. Gxila kutshintsho ekufuneka ulwenzile.
Umlingane wakho unokungabi nantlonelo kwaye abe mandundu. Nangona kunjalo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba awuchanekanga ngalo lonke ixesha. Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo kubalulekile ekubuyiseni uthando nentlonipho emtshatweni.
Kwelinye icala, ukwakha igridlock yeemvakalelo kwaye hayi ukunxibelelana iimvakalelo zakho neqabane lakho kuphela zakha ityhefu ngokweemvakalelo.
Njengokuba ubudlelwane bakho buba noxinzelelo ngokwasemphefumlweni, ulahlekelwa kukugxila kwixabiso unxibelelwano lwakho olunalo. Uxinzelelo ngakumbi kwiimpazamo kunye nokudana kokuziphatha kweqabane lakho kunokuba uzame ukufumana indlela yokuzilungisa.
Cinga ngendlela othetha ngayo neqabane lakho, izinto ozithethayo, nendlela ozithetha ngayo. Ukuba omabini amaqabane enza loo nto, imbeko inokuphinda isekwe. Liphathe nje iqabane lakho ngendlela obungathanda ukuphathwa ngayo.
Zola, hlala uthe cwaka, uvulele iqabane lakho intliziyo yakho, ubamamele, kwaye xhuma kwakhona kunye neemvakalelo zothando, ububele, ukuxabisa, kunye nombulelo. Vumela ukuba yiyeke lento yakho kwaye nijolise ekulungiseni uthando nentlonipho emtshatweni.
Ukunyamezela, ukuxabise nokwamkela iyantlukwano
Enye indlela entle yokufaka uthando kunye nentlonipho emtshatweni kukufunda ukunyamezelana, ukuxabisa, nokwamkela iyantlukwano. Amaqabane azokungavumelani, kwaye aya kuba neembono ezingqubanayo.
Ukwamkela, ukunyamezela, kunye nokuhlonipha izimvo zeqabane lakho kwaye izimvo ziya kukhokelela ekwamkelweni, kwaye ukwamkelwa kukhuthaza uthando.
Ukungaboni ngasonye kuyinxalenye yawo nawuphi na umtshato, kodwa indlela osombulula ngayo ukungavisisani ngumahluko ophambili phakathi komtshato osempilweni kunye nongenampilo.
Umlingane wakho unelungelo kwimbono yakhe kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Ukungabikho kwemvumelwano akufuneki kukhokelele ekubeni ulijongele phantsi okanye ulimaze iqabane lakho.
Yiba novelwano xa udibana neqabane lakho. Bajonge emehlweni abo, gcina intliziyo evulekile, kwaye ukhumbule izinto ozithandayo ngeqabane lakho. Khumbula ukuba wena neqabane lakho nenza konke okusemandleni enu kwaye nangaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi nisokola njengani.
Kuthatha umzamo omkhulu kunye nomonde ukugcina imbeko ngalo lonke ixesha lobudlelwane. Ukuphatha iqabane lakho ngokungenantlonelo, ngokungakhathali, kwaye ngokungalunganga kubangela isimilo esifanayo kubo.
Yamkela iimbono zakho ezahlukeneyo, baxabise igalelo labo, gcina incoko ivulekile ukwenza izigqibo kunye, kwaye ulalanise xa kufuneka njalo.
Yeka ukuzama ukutshintsha iqabane lakho
Intlonipho nothando emtshatweni zihlala zilahleka xa amaqabane ezama ukutshintsha amaqabane. Ukuzama ukutshintsha umntu kubangela ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumbono womfanekiso omkhulu.
Endaweni yokwenza into yokuba ubize iqabane lakho xa ungavumelani nokuziphatha kwabo okanye ubaxelele indlela amabenze ngayo, yenza eyakho indima, kwaye wenze umzamo woku yenza indawo enembeko nenothando.
Le ndlela iyasebenza kuba ukhokela ngomzekelo. Intlonipho idla ngokubuyiselwa xa inikiwe. Ukuzama ukutshintsha iqabane lakho, kwelinye icala, kudala uxinzelelo.
Jonga le vidiyo ingezantsi apho uHeather Lindsey axoxa khona ngokuthelekisa iqabane lakho kwabanye kunye nokuzama ukutshintsha akulunganga kwaye kufuneka ubathembe ukuba bangobani:
Yise kude
Okokugqibela, njengesibini esitshatileyo, niyazibandakanya kwindima ezithile enivumelene ngazo ngokungazi okanye ngokungazi. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukhumbule ukuba nokuba iqabane lakho lidlala eyiphi indima soloko uyihlonipha imizamo yabo.
Kwabo banengxaki yokudala imeko enembeko ngakumbi, cinga unyango. Unyango lunceda izibini ukuba zixoxe ngemiba enzima, ziyisombulule, kwaye zibuyise indlela yokuziphatha engenambeko.