Umxholo
- 1. Ungaze ulale unomsindo
- 2. Sukuzama ukutshintsha iqabane lakho
- 3. Umtshato wenziwe ngabantu ababini. Akusekho, akukho ngaphantsi
- 4. Gcina umlilo uvutha
- 5. Qhubeka uthandana
- 6. Funda “iintshukumo” ezintsha
Ukutshata indoda okanye umfazi wamaphupha akho uziva ngathi sesona sigqibo sihle owakha wasenza, de kube kuphambene iimali kwaye inyani yokuba ukukhulisa abantwana akukho lula njengokuba ucinga ukuba kuyaqala ukutshona. Xa izinto ziba nzima kakhulu iintsuku, usenokucinga ukuba esi sesona sigqibo sibi ukhe wasenza. Kodwa musa ukwenza impazamo yokupakisha iibhegi zakho kwaye ushiye yonke into ngasemva. Yehlisa umoya. Zonke izibini ezitshatileyo zijongana neengxaki onokucinga ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho ninazo kuphela.
Ngenxa yothando, sinolu luhlu lweengcebiso zomtshato zokukunceda ufezekise ulonwabo emtshatweni.
1. Ungaze ulale unomsindo
Ukhe weva malunga noku ngaphambili kwaye kungenxa yokuba le yingcebiso elungileyo yomtshato, ngakumbi kwabo baqala nje ngobomi babo abatshatileyo. Nje ukuba ungene kumkhwa wokuthetha ngokuphandle ngemicimbi yakho kwaye ujongane nayo endaweni yokuba uyiyeke iqhubeke, ubudlelwane obulungileyo buya kulandela. Sukulala, vuka ngemini elandelayo kwaye wenze ngathi umyeni okanye umfazi wakho akakho. Ngumlingane wakho wobomi bakho bonke, hayi umntu ohlala naye ekholejini.
2. Sukuzama ukutshintsha iqabane lakho
Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokutshata kwaye utshate, ndiqinisekile ukuba uyazi uninzi, ukuba ayingabo bonke, ngemikhwa yeqabane lakho kunye neempawu zobuntu bakho. Ke akawuvali umnyango wegumbi lokuhlala xa echama. Akazihlambi iinwele zakhe kwaye unxiba ukubila iintsuku xa ekwi-PMS. Ubuzazi zonke ezi zinto, wamkele kwaye wamthanda umlingane wakho ukuba ungubani na. Ke kutheni uzama ukumtshintsha? Ngaphandle kokuba abe liqabane elinxila kunye nelokuxhaphaza, akukho sizathu sakucinezela kwezinye zeendlela zakhe zokucaphukisa.
3. Umtshato wenziwe ngabantu ababini. Akusekho, akukho ngaphantsi
Andithethi ngomntu wesithathu. Oku akuthethi ngokungathembeki. Lixesha lokuba uthethe ngabantu abanjengabazala, abona bahlobo bakhe basenyongweni, nabazala bakho. Emuva xa wawuthandana, aba bantu babeyinxalenye yobudlelwane bakho. Babeqhele ukunika iingcebiso kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho ngendlela yokujongana. Kodwa izinto zahlukile ngoku. Kukho imiba ethile ekufuneka ihlale phakathi kwenu nobabini. Ukuthatha abanye abantu bathathe inxaxheba kwimicimbi yakho yobuqu kuyingozi. Banotyekelo lokukhetha amacala, banike izigwebo ezingakhethiyo, kwaye endaweni yokuzisa isisombululo kwingxaki, banokuyenza mbi ngakumbi.
4. Gcina umlilo uvutha
Iinyanga okanye iminyaka emtshatweni, ngakumbi xa ixesha lokutshata liphelile, ungaqala ukuba nesithukuthezi. Ngezinye iintsuku uya kuziva ngathi uyaphazamiseka kwaye uqale ukucinga ukuba akasenamdla kuwe. Mhlawumbi wayeka ukuzama ukujonga okuhle kuwe okanye kukwenza uzive ungakhathalelwanga, ngokungathi akanamdla ebomini bakho. Ngezinye iintsuku, uya kuziva ulusizi malunga notshintsho kwaye uyophela ulila kuba engasakuphindi iintyatyambo okanye eyeke ukukubhalela amanqaku amnandi rhoqo nge-12 yenyanga. Uyayazi into endiza kuyenza? Jongana naye! Mxelele ukuba ufuna ukuphuma ngomhla. Mxelele ukuba ufuna ukubona umcebisi ngezikhokelo. Mbuze nje ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Sukuvumela umlilo ucime. Ukuba uziva ngathi izinto zijongise emazantsi, yenza ngokuchasene noko ngaphambi kokuba ube selide kakhulu ukuzama.
5. Qhubeka uthandana
Akunabanye abantu, kulungile? Nguhayi omkhulu hayi. Into endiyithethayo yile, qhubeka uthandana neqabane lakho. Umtshato kufuneka ube kukuqhubeka kokuthandana. Mkhuphe. Zama iivenkile ezintsha. Ndwendwela iindawo ezintsha. Fumana izinto zokuzonwabisa ezintsha kunye. Umlingane wakho ngoku ungumhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Ke hamba uyokuzonwabisa amaxesha ngamaxesha.
6. Funda “iintshukumo” ezintsha
Ewe. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuya kuba ngcono. Nyusa umdlalo wakho! Fumanisa umlingo kamasutra. Heck, jonga iphonografi kwaye ufunde ukuhamba! Ungaze unamathele kwisikhundla esinye sobuvangeli busuku ngabunye. Awufuni ukugungqisa umntwana wakho ukuba alale embindini wecoitus! Ukwabelana ngesondo kubaluleke kakhulu emtshatweni kwaye andinakukuxinzelela ngokwaneleyo. Fumana ixesha "lexesha elinomtsalane" kwaye xa usenza njalo, mnike eyona ntsebenzo intle ebomini bakho.
Umtshato awunguye wonke umntu. Ngethamsanqa ngabo bafumana uthando kwaye zange baphinde balahle kwakhona. Ke yibani nomonde, ukuqonda kunye nothando omnye komnye kuba kukho abantu abachitha ubomi babo bodwa, besela bodwa kwiindawo zentselo, kodwa beze ekhaya kwindlu egcwele izilwanyana zasekhaya ukunika intsingiselo kubomi babo. Kodwa nina nobabini ninomnye. Yixabise loo nto. Umtshato sesona sigqibo sihle owakha wasenza. Ungaze uyithandabuze.