Umxholo
- Jongane ne
- Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho
- Uncedo ngonyango
- Musa ukohlwaya ngenxa yexesha elidlulileyo
- Abahlobo kunye nepati
- Ukuzithanda
- Nguwe kwakhona
- Uthando lokwenene lukhona
- Zilolonge
- Zama ukuxolela ulibale
Ukuqhathwa yinto enokukuphambanisa, inokwenza uzive usizi kwaye ulusizi ngawe. Kunzima ngamanye amaxesha ukwamkela inyani kuba wonke umntu uyazi inyani ikrakra. Ngamanye amaxesha ayinyamezeleki, kwaye asifumani ndlela yakubaleka oko.
Masibone ukuba ungakuphelisa njani ukuqhathwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha isehlo esikrakra sokwenyani sinokubangelwa sisiphoso sethu, okanye sinokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba sikulungele ukuhlangabezana neziganeko ezinjalo, ukuze sifunde izifundo ezitsha, ezithile nezibalulekileyo zobomi. Kodwa kulungile kuba yonke into ekugqibeleni ivela ilungile, kukutsha, nokuba kukushiya uloyisile okanye uqinisekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungoyisa.
Ubunzima bobethutyana, abantu bayeza bahambe ebomini, kwaye mhlawumbi i-ex yakho ibingomnye wabo bantu, kwaye iimvakalelo zakho zinokukhathaza ngalo mzuzu. Kodwa nguwe kuphela onokoyisa le mvakalelo kunye nemeko ebuhlungu yeemvakalelo.
Ekugqibeleni, uyakuqonda ukuba nguwe, kwaye oko kubalulekile. Kufuneka nje uzithembe.
Ungaphumelela njani ekuqhatheni? Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokufumana ngaphezulu kokuqhathwa
Jongane ne
Musa ukubaleka kuloo meko. Jongane ne.
Ukuba ufuna ukulila, vele ulile. Ukuba ufuna ukukhwaza, khwaza okanye ulahle okanye uphule izinto, yenza nje oku. Vumela ukukhathazeka kuphume kuwe. Yiva intlungu ngelo xesha. Lila iinyembezi. Oku kuyakukunceda ufumane uxolo kunye nokuzola kwaye kukuncede ukhuphe uxinzelelo kuwe.
Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho
Yabelana ngoko uziva nabathandekayo bakho, abazali bakho okanye umhlobo wakho osenyongweni; nabani na ofuna ukwabelana naye naye. Oku kuya kunciphisa ubunzima besiganeko entliziyweni yakho.
Kukho amathuba okuba unokunikwa ezinye iingcebiso eziluncedo ngokwabelana malunga nendlela yokufumana ngaphezulu kokukhohliswa. Kodwa eyona nto ibonakalayo kukuba nabani na owabelana naye ngeemvakalelo zakho kufuneka athembeke kwaye abe nobulumko ngokwaneleyo ukuba akuncede uphume esihogweni.
Uncedo ngonyango
Iingcali zonyango zezona zinokunceda kakhulu ukujongana noxinzelelo lwengqondo okanye uxinzelelo. Banokukunceda uhambe emanzini angcolileyo xa ushiywe uzibuza ukuba ungadlula njani ekuqhatheni kwaye uhlale kunye neqabane lakho okanye ulibize ngokuba liyekile, ukuba kunjalo.
Dibana nonyango olulungileyo. Fumana unyango. Buza imibuzo eyahlukeneyo enxulumene nengxaki yakho. Landela imiyalelo kwaye uthathe amayeza akho ngexesha. Unyango lunokukunceda uchache kwimeko embi kwaye luncede uthathe amanyathelo aqhubekekayo xa ufuna impendulo kumbuzo othi, "ungaphumelela njani ekuqhatheni kwaye uqhubeke."
Musa ukohlwaya ngenxa yexesha elidlulileyo
Nantoni na oyenzileyo ibiyidlulileyo lakho, nantoni na oyenzayo yeyangoku, kwaye into oza kuyenza likamva lakho.
Ixesha lakho elidlulileyo yinto ongenakuyitshintsha. Into onokuyilawula ikwangoku kunye nekamva lakho. Ke, musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo ucinga ngengxabano oyenzileyo okanye eyenzeke kuwe kwixa elidlulileyo. Yeka ukohlwaya ngokuqhathwa. Thatha nje ipilisi ebandayo, kwaye ungonakalisi imihla yakho ezayo.
Abahlobo kunye nepati
Nanini na xa uziva ugula ziingcinga, yeka ukuzisola ngezinto kwaye uhambe uyokukhetha abahlobo bakho ukubiza ipati. Abahlobo ngokwenene ngabantu abenziwe ukuba bahlekise kwaye bakuthande ukuba ungubani. Ukuhamba, iipatijama kunye nokuchitha ixesha uhleka nabahlobo zezona zinto zifunekayo ebomini.
Ukuzithanda
Ukuzithanda yeyona nto ibalulekileyo xa kufikwa ekufumaneni impendulo ngendlela yokufumana ukukopela.
Qiniseka ukuba ungubani; zijonge esipilini.
Hlalutya nzulu, uzilungise kwaye uqale ukuzithanda. Akukho mntu kweli hlabathi ufanelekile ukuba akwenze uzive uzisola ngobukho bakho. Umhle, uyamangalisa kwaye uyathandeka. Akuyi kubakho mvakalelo yokuqhathwa ngelo xesha.
Nguwe kwakhona
Nje ukuba ulandele la manyathelo ngendlela yokufumana ukukopelwa, uya kuziva ngathi nguwe kwakhona, laa mntu uzimeleyo owawunaye ngaphambi kokuba umntu wakho wangaphambili angene ebomini bakho. Olona tshintsho uluvayo kukuba womelele kunakuqala, ulalanise ngakumbi neemeko kwaye ulumke ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
Uthando lokwenene lukhona
Kholelwa ukuba uyakufumana uthando lokwenyani ngenye imini.
Uthando yimvakalelo ethatha ukuzala ngaphakathi kuwe xa udibana nomntu oyena mntu uhlukile, okhathalelayo, osebenzisanayo kunye nokuqonda ngokoluvo lwakho. Chaza imida yakho yothando. Qiniseka ukuba umntu omtsha ongena ebomini bakho uyahlangabezana nenkcazo yothando oluchazwe nguwe.
Zilolonge
Qalisa ukuzilolonga kwemihla ngemihla kunye nokuzilolonga okunempilo.
Oku kuyakunceda ukuba uphinde kwakhona kwimeko ebuhlungu. Ukuzilolonga kunye nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla iya kukugcina ekucingeni ukuba uqhathiwe. Okukhona uzigcina uxakekile, kokukhona uya kuhlala kude neengcinga ezibulalayo kwaye ufumana impilo esempilweni. Sukulijongela phantsi igunya lokujuluka xa kufikwa ekufumaneni impendulo ekhonkrithi kwingxaki yakho yendlela yokuphelisa ukuqhathwa.
Zama ukuxolela ulibale
Uxolela njani umntu okopelayo kuwe? Ngaba kulula ukuyithetha kunokwenza? Ewe, akunakuphikwa ukuba ngumsebenzi wokunyuka. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile kwimpilo-ntle yakho.
Zama ukuxolela umntu wakho wakudala kwaye ulibale ngayo yonke into eyenzekileyo kuwe.
Sukuzama ngamandla ukulibala ngezinto ezikukhathazayo. Imemori iya kuphela kunye nexesha, kwaye intlungu iya kuncipha. Ukuxolela linyathelo eliya ekukhuleni kuwe. Oku kuyakukunceda uqonde ukuba oyena mntu ubalulekileyo emhlabeni nguwe kwaye akekho omnye umntu.
Ke, yeka ukuzibhaka ngokuqhathwa ngumntu ongakufanelanga kwaphela.
Lo mntu akakufanelanga iinyembezi zakho nothando lwakho. Qiniseka ngawe nangobudlelwane obuza kubakha kwikamva, kunye nomntu okhathalayo, onothando ngakumbi nokuqonda ngakumbi.