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Umtshato yinxalenye yobomi. Uninzi lwabantu luceba ngayo, kwaye kwabanye, iyenzeka nje. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, yakuba yenzekile, kufuneka wenze utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila.
Kubantu abaninzi, umtshato awenzeki nje. Yinkqubo ende yokuthandana, ukuthandana, ukuzibandakanya, kude kube ngumtshato ophelileyo.
Kusekho iinkcubeko ezinabazali abalungiselela imitshato, kodwa ubukhulu becala, eyangaphambili iyinyani kuninzi lwabantu.
Umtshato yinkqubo yenguqu ukusuka kubomi bokungatshati ukuya ekubeni sisibini. Kodwa abantu abaninzi bakufumanisa kunzima ukuyiqonda abantu abasandul 'ukutshata banokuyeka njani ukungatshati.
Eli nqaku linethemba lokukunceda uqonde umahluko phakathi kobomi obungatshatanga nobomtshato.
Ubomi obungatshatanga xa kuthelekiswa nobomi bomtshato
Okona kuninzi, ukutshata ayingomahluko xa kuthelekiswa nexesha owawuthandana ngalo ngokungathandabuzekiyo, oko kukuthi ude ube nabantwana. Kufuneka uthembeke omnye komnye, nichithe ixesha kunye nekamva lakho omnye komnye, nipha izipho kwaye nichithe iintsuku ezizodwa kunye, uyazi, izinto zothando.
Abanye abantu abatshatileyo bahlala kunye ngaphambi komtshato, ukuba uyatshata, kunyanzelekile. Akukho sizathu sokutshata ngaphandle kokuba niza kuhlala kunye kwaye nibe nabantwana.
Ungahlala ungatshatanga ngelixa usenza zombini. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba kukho izibonelelo ezisemthethweni nezemali zendlu kunye nabantwana xa isibini sitshatile.
Esi sithuba asikho malunga nephepha elixelela urhulumente kunye nomzi mveliso wezezimali ukuba baniphathe njani njengabantu abatshatileyo. Imalunga nendlela ophila ngayo njengomntu ongatshatanga kunye nomntu otshatileyo. Uninzi lwabantu abangatshatanga abazinikeleyo abanesoka okanye intombi abayenzi into engatshatanga, nokuba isemthethweni.
Kodwa abanye abayenzi. Bayigcina imali yabo kubo, basabeka izinto zokuzonwabisa kwindawo yokuqala kwaye bathathe izigqibo ngaphandle kokubonisana neqabane labo. Siza kuthatha ukuba ngaphambi kokuba nabani na atshate iqabane lakhe, bangabantu abathandanayo abathandanayo abangenatyala. Ukuba omnye okanye omabini amaqabane ajikeleza, umtshato awuzukutshintsha lonto.
Kukho utshintsho oluninzi olubalulekileyo (ukungathembeki kufuneka kunikwe) umntu kufuneka athathele ingqalelo xa ehamba engatshatanga ukuya emtshatweni. Linyathelo elibalulekileyo ekufuneka ulikhumbule abantu abasandul 'ukutshata banokuyeka njani ukungatshati.
Imali - Ukuhlalisana kunye nomtshato kuthetha ukuba uninzi lweeasethi zakho ngoku zezabanini bobabini ngokudibeneyo. Awungekhe uyisebenzise ngaphandle kwemvume kwiqabane lakho, nokuba uyifumene ngokwakho le mali.
Tshintsha izinto eziphambili -Ipoker yasebusuku, iklabhu, kunye nayo yonke eminye imisebenzi engonwabisi iqabane lakho kufuneka ihambile. Ukuba unokwenza i-turkey ebandayo, kungcono. Impumelelo ebomini, umtshato ubandakanyiwe, umalunga nokukhetha-> izenzo-> imikhwa-> indlela yokuphila.
Yenza ukhetho lokuphepha imisebenzi eya kukhokelela kwizilingo. Qala ngokwakha ubomi bakho kunye neqabane lakho. Ukuba ufuna ukuzikhulula kuxinzelelo, yenze neqabane lakho. Ukuba ufuna ixesha wedwa, zama ukulinganisela kwiiyure ezimbalwa ngeveki.
Izigqibo ezinkulu - Inkqubo ye- ingcebiso yomtshato ebalaseleyo kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata kukubuzana ngemvume. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba incinci kangakanani, yenze. Ixesha elingaphezulu, uyakufunda ukulala kwangethuba akunakukhathaza iqabane lakho kakhulu, kodwa ukutya ipudding yokugqibela okanye ukusela ibhiya yokugqibela kuyenza.
Xa kufikwa kwizigqibo ezinkulu, ungaze uthathe nantoni na. Imicimbi enjengokuthiya umntwana wakho igama, ukufumana isilwanyana sasekhaya, ukuyeka umsebenzi wakho, ukuqala ishishini, ukuthenga imoto, kunye nayo nayiphi na enye into engathathwa njengenamsebenzi kufuneka ixoxwe neqabane lakho ngaphambi kokuba uhambe.
Abantu abatshatileyo bazinikele ngokubambisana kwimicimbi emininzi ngaphandle kolwaphulo-mthetho olunobundlobongela. Ke ayisiyiyo malunga nentlonipho, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuxoxa neqabane lakho malunga nokujoyina inkolo yecawe enkulu ngaphambi kokujoyina.
Jonga ukuphuma Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bazisa abanye ukuba baphi, benzani, kwaye ukuba kukho utshintsho olubalulekileyo kwimihla yabo.
Isibini esinzulu siyathembana, kodwa akukho monakalo ekuthumeleni iSMS emfutshane ekwazisa iqabane lakho ukuba uphi, wenzani, kwaye uya kuba seliphi ixesha ekhaya.
Ithatha imizuzwana embalwa. Thatha umkhwa wokuba neqabane lakho lokuqala ukwazi ngalo naluphi na utshintsho kwindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla.
Lungiselela ikamva -Umzuzu uqala ukuhlala kunye, kuya kufuneka uqale ngokucinga ngeendleko ezinkulu eziza kujongana nazo naziphi na izibini ezitshatileyo kwixa elizayo. Oko kukuthi, abantwana kunye nendlu.
Ukuqala kwakho wena neqabane lakho nibeke bucala ipesenti ethile yomvuzo ukuze nizigcinele zombini, kokukhona buya kuba bhetele ubomi bakho ekugqibeleni.
Nikezela ngenkcitho ethile ekhethiweyo kwaye wandise ukonga kwakho. Awusoze wazi xa unosana olungenayo kwaye ngokukhawuleza uhlawula imali mboleko kunokurenta, kuya kuba lula ukuba nemali yakho yexesha elizayo.
Iya kuthintela ukungqubana okukhulu kwemali kwixa elizayo.
Shiya indawo engwevu - Phambi komtshato, abanye abantu basathetha nabantu ababekade bethandana nabo, badlale ngothando nabanye abantu, kwaye babe nabahlobo ngezibonelelo.
Zilahle. Ukuba awukwazi ukubashiya ngokupheleleyo, umzekelo, ngabantu osebenza nabo okanye omnye umzali womntwana wakho, gcina iincoko zikarhulumente zisekuhleni.
Bazise ngesigqibo sakho sokuthintela nakuphi na ukubhideka nokungavisisani. Nantoni na enokuthi ichazwe njengokungathembeki okanye ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kuye kuye.
Ezininzi Utshatile kodwa ufuna ukungatshati abantu bagcina oovimba ukuzonwabisa. Ukuba ufuna umtshato wakho usebenze, ungayenzi. Ukuba awukwazi ukuyenza, bekungafanelekanga ukuba utshate nomntu kwasekuqaleni. Kuba wenze izifungo zakho, bambelela kuzo.
Jonga njengolwandle, uzive ngathi ulwandle, yenza njengolwandle - Eli lizwi kwinkampu yeebhutsi. Inokusebenza kwimitshato. Nxiba umsesane wakho, utshintshe inqanaba lakho kwimidiya yoluntu, ukuba ungowasetyhini, ke qala ukucela abantu ukuba bakubize Nksk .-.
Ukuba uqala ukuziva kwaye wenza ngathi utshatile, iya kutshona kungekudala kuba uthathe i-plunge kwaye uyiqhela.
Ilula kakhulu abantu abasandul 'ukutshata banokuyeka njani ukungatshati. Yenza iqabane lakho ukuba lisayine kuyo yonke into, ngokoqobo yonke into. Njengoko ixesha lihamba, kuya kuba lula. Baninzi abantu abakholelwa ukuba umntu ongatshatanga utshatile.
Banokukhetha ukuhlala kunye benze yonke enye into eyenziwa ngabantu abatshatileyo ngaphandle kokusayina amaphepha. Akukho nto igwenxa kuloo nto, kodwa ukuba utyikitye amaphepha, zalisekisa izifungo zakho.