Umxholo
- Ukuba nomntwana kungawusindisa njani umtshato wam?
- Ndimkhetha njani umongikazi ogqibeleleyo?
- Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokufumana umdlalo ofanelekileyo.
Ukuqala usapho kunye nokukhulisa umntwana ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima. Ubusuku obuninzi bokungalali bunokukwenza uzibuze ukuba umtshato wakho uqala ukuphulukana nomtsalane wawo.
Ukugcina izinto phezulu kuyadina kangangokuba uziva ngathi akukho xesha laneleyo laye nabani na ongomnye, kubandakanya neqabane lakho. Ukuqesha i-nanny kunokukunceda ufumane kwakhona oko kubuhlobo bakho kwakhona.
Ukuba nomntwana kungawusindisa njani umtshato wam?
Zininzi izibonelelo zokuba nomntwana. Banikezela ngononophelo lwabucala kwaye lujolise emntwaneni wakho, oko kuthetha ukuba awuzukucela izihlobo zakho ukuba zijonge abantwana bakho.
Ngaphandle komkhathaleli, unokuzibona ubaleka ujikeleze indlu uzama ukondla, ukunxiba kunye nokudlala nabantwana bakho bonke ngaxeshanye.
Unokuziva udiniwe emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Ukuba awuphelelanga, iqabane lakho mhlawumbi kunjalo.
Ukudinwa kunokwenza ukuba kubenzima kuwe ukukhulisa umnqweno.
Oku kulandelayo kuchazwe izibonelelo ezimbalwa zokuba nomntwana.
- Ixesha elininzi
Ukuqesha umongikazi kunokukunika ikhefu ekubeni ngumzali. Ixesha elongezelelekileyo likuvumela ukuba usebenze, wenze imithambo, okanye ukonwabele usuku lomdlalo bhanyabhanya neqabane lakho.
Iiyure ezimbalwa zokuzikhathalela zinokukunceda unxibelelane kwakhona nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo kwaye ujonge iindlela kulwalamano lwakho.
Xa unendawo ethe xhaxhe yokuphumla, unokuba nomnqweno ongaphezulu wokuthatha inxaxheba kwincoko enzulu kunye neqabane lakho.
- Ukuguquguquka ngakumbi
Ukucwangciswa nokucwangciswa kobusuku bomhla kwaye ixesha elithile kum liba lula ngokuqesha umongikazi.
Kubalulekile ukuhlala phantsi nomongi kwaye nixoxe ngendlela eniza kulusingatha ngayo utshintsho kwimizuzu yokugqibela.
Le nkqubo iya kuninika nobabini uluvo lokuba umongikazi angazamkela njani izigqibo ngequbuliso kwishedyuli yakhe. Ukongeza, umongikazi unokuxoxa ngenqanaba lokuhlawula ixesha elongezelelweyo.
- Ithuba elingakumbi lokuthetha
Ngamanye amaxesha, unokukhalaza ukuba iqabane lakho alilawuli umzi njengokuba usenza. Oku kunokujika kube yinzondo.
Usenokungazi ukuba iqabane lakho licinga ukuba awunxibi iminqwazi emininzi njengoko isenza.
Ubudlelwane buyindlela-mbini. Uxanduva kufuneka kwabelwane ngalo nobabini kunye nomnye wakho obalulekileyo.
Ukuqesha i-nanny kunokuthatha imisebenzi kuwe nakwigxalaba leqabane lakho. Ngezinto ezincinci zokukhathazeka, ungathatha ithuba lokuthetha ngendlela oziva ngayo.
Ukuvulela iqabane lakho kunokukwenza uzive ungacaphuki omnye komnye.
- Inceda ukususa ityala
Ukusonga iimpahla nokudala uluhlu lwezinto ezinokuthengwa ngengqondo kusenokuthabatha ingqalelo yakho kweyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu — usapho lwakho.
Xa uxakeke kakhulu, uphoswa ngamathuba okubukela umntwana wakho ethatha inyathelo lokuqala okanye umamele iqabane lakho lithetha ngento ehlekisayo emsebenzini.
Ukupakisha usuku lwakho ngemisebenzi engapheliyo akuyi kulahla ityala. Ukwenza okungaphezulu kunokukuqhawula kusapho lwakho.
Ukucela uncedo akuyi kukwenza ube ngaphantsi komzali. Umongikazi unokubonelela ngenkxaso oyifunayo ukuze unikezele ixesha elingakumbi lokujonga umntwana wakho kunye neqabane lakho.
Ndimkhetha njani umongikazi ogqibeleleyo?
AmaNannies eza nolwazi oluninzi kunye nembono eyahlukileyo.
Abanye baya kuba namava aqokelelweyo kule minyaka idlulileyo, ngelixa abanye bephethe iziqinisekiso ezincedisayo ekuboneleleni ngononophelo olukhulu kumntwana wakho.
Abakhathaleli banoxanduva lokuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lwabantwana bakho nokubakhulisa.
Banokuncedisa kwimisebenzi enxulumene nenkulisa njengokucoca iindawo zabantwana kunye nokuhlamba iimpahla zabo. Abanye oonesi babonelela ngezifundo zemfundo kwiirhafu zabo.
Ukukhetha umntu oza kukugcina ukhathalele usapho lwakho kungabonakala kungumsebenzi otyhafisayo. Akukho arhente yaseburhulumenteni inokukuxelela ukuba ngubani ohlangabezana nezona mfuno zisisiseko zokukhathalela abantwana.
Yiyo loo nto abazali kufuneka benze inyameko yabo xa beqesha umntu oza kubagcina. Ke, yintoni omele uyiqwalasele xa uqesha umntwana?
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokufumana umdlalo ofanelekileyo.
- Cinga ngezinto ezifunwa lusapho lwakho
Chonga inani leeyure kunye neentsuku oza kulufuna uncedo lomongikazi. Oku kubandakanya ukubanakho ukusebenza iiyure ezongezelelweyo, ngakumbi ngexesha leeholide okanye ngeempelaveki.
Ukujonga iirhafu zangoku zeyure zabantwana abakufutshane nommandla wakho kunokukunceda uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali ukuba uza kuhlawula malini.
Emva kokugqitywa kohlahlo-lwabiwo mali, kuya kufuneka ukuba umisele inani lamava ononophelo lwabantwana ongathanda ukuwafuna kubagqatswa.
Oku kunokubandakanya isiqinisekiso seCPR / uNcedo lokuQala, ugonyo lweMMR, kunye nelayisensi yokuqhuba esebenzayo, phakathi kwabanye.
- Beka uxanduva lomongikazi
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale inkqubo yokuqesha, kuya kufuneka ukuba kubekho iseti ecacileyo yezikhokelo kunye noxanduva olunika abaviwa uluvo lweemfuno zosapho lwakho.
Iishedyuli kunye neenkqubo kufuneka zichazwe, kunye nemisebenzi "engavumelekanga."
- Khetha okanye wenze inkqubo yokuqesha
Bhala inkcazo yomsebenzi ecacileyo ebandakanya ishedyuli, uxanduva, amabanga emfundo, kunye noluhlu lwemivuzo yengqesho. Unokukhetha ukufumana igama kubahlobo bakho nakwindawo ohlala kuyo.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuhamba ngale ndlela, kuya kufuneka uhlolisise abaviwa.
Ukuphonononga ukuqala kwabo kwakhona, thetha kwizalathiso zabo, kwaye uqokelele amaxwebhu anje ngokuqinisekiswa, ukususwa, kunye nokugonywa.
Unokukhetha nokuqesha iarhente yokhathalelo lwabantwana ukuba ikwenzele uhlolo. Sebenzisa iarhente kunokuvula iingcango zabantwana abavela kwezinye iinkcubeko.
Iintsapho ezininzi ziqesha abantu abathetha iilwimi ezimbini okanye abathetha iilwimi ezininzi besebenzisa iiarhente zokukhathalela abantwana zamanye amazwe.
Kumgqatswa omkhethileyo, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ugqibe ixesha lokulingwa ukuze ubone ukuba usapho lwakho kunye nomongikazi bangabuphucula na ubudlelwane obunempilo nobungcali.
- Misela iseti yemigaqo
Yenza imigaqo-nkqubo kukhuseleko nonxibelelwano, ukuze abaviwa bazi ukuba yintoni olindeleyo yona. Qiniseka ukuba umongikazi wakho uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho akufuneki ashiywe engahoywanga okanye aziswe naphina ngaphandle kwemvume yakho.
Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba bayayazi ukuba ulungile na kubo ngokuthumela iifoto okanye iividiyo zosapho lwakho kwiiakhawunti zabo zemidiya.
Kukwabalulekile ukubaxelela ukuba ufuna uphathwe njani na ngokungxamisekileyo kwezonyango. Oku kunokubandakanya ukuqhuba umntwana wakho kugqirha wabantwana, kwiklinikhi yasemva kweofisi, okanye kwigumbi likaxakeka esibhedlele kufutshane nekhaya lakho.
Ukulungiselela iseti yemithetho kwangaphambi kwexesha kunokunika umntwana wakho umbono ocacileyo wokuba kufuneka bazisingathe njani iimeko ezithile kwaye ukuba kukho izinto zokutya, iimveliso, okanye izinto ezithile ekufuneka beziphephe.
Kuya kukhuthaza ubudlelwane bokusebenzisana nomzali ongumncedisi ekuncedeni ekuqinisekiseni ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana olona nyango lufanelekileyo.
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