Umxholo
- Musa ukumlandela ngezizathu ezingalunganga
- Musa ukuzilahlela
- Qalisa ukuhamba phambili
- Musa ukumvalela ngaphandle ngokupheleleyo
Ngaba ungumfana ongafuni kwamkela ukuba intombi yakho yangaphambili ihambile ngonaphakade? Ngaba uzifumana uphinda-phinda amaxesha amaninzi ngemini, "Ndingabuyela njani kunye nentombi yam?" okanye "Ndikhumbula intombi yam yangaphambili".
Ngaba uyafuna ukubuyela kunye naye kwaye nibe nobudlelwane obuya kuma uvavanyo lwexesha lokujikeleza? Ngaba uyazibuza "Ndingabuyela njani kunye nentombi yam yangaphambili ngaphandle kokuphazamisa ubudlelwane kwakhona?" Ukuba nguwe lo kungcono ube nohlobo oluthile lwesicwangciso esibekiweyo ukuze uzalisekise iziphumo zakho ezinqwenelekayo. Ke, loo nto ibuza umbuzo, uyibuyisa njani intombi yakudala?
Kukho amanyathelo ahlukeneyo onokuwathatha xa uzama ukubuyela kunye nentombi yakho yangaphambili. Ukuba awunaso isicwangciso esibekiweyo emva koko unokwenza izinto ezingenangqondo ezinokuphelisa ukutyhalela intombi yakho yangaphambili kude kunokuba uyibuyisele kuwe. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokukunceda uze nesicwangciso sokubuyela kunye nentombi yakho yangaphambili.
Funda ngokukhula okungama-101 malunga nendlela yokubuyisela intombi yakho yangaphambili
Musa ukumlandela ngezizathu ezingalunganga
Ukubuyela ne-ex-girlfriend akulula kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba ubuyise intombi yakho yangaphambili ngaphandle kokuba wenze into angenakuyixolela.
Kodwa kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba umlandela ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo. Ngaba uyafuna ukuba intombi yakho yangaphambili ibuye okanye ulilolo? Usamthanda okanye ngumntu nje ohleli kamnandi kuwe? Ngaba uzama ukumbuyisa ngenxa yokuba wenzakele ukuba akulahle okanye kuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuba abuyele ebomini bakho? Nyaniseka ngale mibuzo!
Ukuba izizathu ezifana "nentombi yam yangaphambili iyatshata kwaye kufuneka ndimbuyise ebomini bam ngaphambi kokuba omnye umntu afumane amanqaku" sisizathu sakho sokubuyela kunye nentombi yangaphambili, ngokuqinisekileyo ungaphezu kwentloko yakho.
Ayilunganga kuye okanye kuwe ukuba uyambuyisela kubuqhinga bobuxoki. Isizathu sokuba ufune ukuba abuye kukuba uyamthanda. Ke, lonto icela umbuzo wokuba uzibuze, "ngaba kufuneka ndibuyelene kunye nentombi yam?"
Musa ukuzilahlela
Ukuphelelwa lithemba kunokubangela ukuba wenze izinto ezingafani kwaphela nawe, kwaye ziya kumthumela ukuba apakishe konke okuhle. Ezi ntlobo zezinto zibandakanya ukulandela, ukungqiba, ukulila, ukufuna ukuziphindezela kunye nokuthetha izinto ongazithethiyo.
Ukubuyela kunye nentombi yakho yangaphambili kuthetha ukuyeka ukuphelelwa lithemba kuqala kwaye wenze kwindawo yokuqonda. Kuya kufuneka ulawule indlela oziva ngayo kwaye uqaphele ukuba ukuphelelwa lithemba ayisiyonto ilungileyo onayo xa uzama ukubuyisa intombi yakho yangaphambili.
Nje ukuba ukuqonde ngokucacileyo oku, uya kuziqonda ngokuzenzekelayo xa uziva unxunguphele kunye neziphumo ezinokubakho.
Ukubuyela kunye ne-ex-girlfriend kufuna ukuba ulawule iingcinga kunye nezenzo zakho.
Qalisa ukuhamba phambili
Oku akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka ushiye kuye ngokupheleleyo. Kuthetha nje ukuba awuyikhathaleli ngaye, kodwa endaweni yoko uqale usebenze ngokwakho njengomntu omtsha. Awunakuze ungene kubudlelwane njengalaa mfo mdala, njengoko loo nto ingakhange isebenze kwindawo yokuqala. Kuya kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho kwaye ekugqibeleni uye kuye njengomfana omtsha kunye ophuculweyo.
Ukuphinda ubuye kunye nentombi-yakho akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka wenze yonke into ebomini bakho, ziindawo ezibangele imicimbi kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba ulawula kakhulu, uswele, okanye uyakhohlisa ke ezi ziindawo ekufanele ukuba usebenze kuzo ukuze ungaze ube nexhala ngazo ezichaphazela ulwalamano lwakho kwakhona. Ukubuyela kunye nentombazana eyayihamba nayo kunokuba nzima kakhulu xa uqhubeka nolawulo okanye u-Thomas othandabuzayo.
Musa ukumvalela ngaphandle ngokupheleleyo
Unokufuna ukuthatha ixesha kuye, kodwa mxelele ukuba ixesha lelakho lokuba uqokelele iingcinga zakho kwaye uqhubeke ngobomi bakho.
Uya kuwuhlonipha loo mnqweno kwaye ngelo xesha angaqala ukukukhumbula kwaye ajonge phambili xa uqala ukuthetha naye kwakhona. Esi inokuba sisiqalo sentsha, ubudlelwane obuphilileyo. Ukuba ufikelela kuwe ke ungamhoyi. Phendula kuye ngokufutshane ngendlela othanda ngayo, emva koko uqhubeke nohambo lwakho lokuba liqabane elingcono kunye nokuqonda into oyifunayo kwiqabane.
Ekugqibeleni, kuya kubakho umzuzu apho nina nobabini ninokuhlala phantsi nithethe ngobudlelwane kunye nalapho ihambe khona ngendlela eqolileyo. Kwaye ukuba usebenzile ngokwakho ukuba ngumntu ongcono, uya kubona ukuba uyindoda eyahlukileyo kwaye ithuba lesibini linokumxabisa! Uya kuba sendleleni yokubuyela kunye nentombi yakho yangaphambili ngaphandle kwale ndlela!
UAlex Wise
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