Umxholo
- Yintoni ebangela ukungabikho kolwalamano olusondeleyo emtshatweni?
- Ukungabikho kokwabelana ngesondo kungawonakalisa njani umtshato?
- Iimpawu ezintlanu zokungasondeli kubudlelwane
- 1. Awuchukumisi kakhulu
- 2. Uziva ukude
- 3. Ukuxabana kuyanda
- 4. Ukungabikho kokudlala nokuhlekisa
- 5. Akukho namnye kuni okhuthaza ukusondela emzimbeni
- Yintoni enokwenziwa ukuphucula ulwalamano lomzimba?
Ngaba uyazi malunga neepesenti ezingama-20 zabantu abatshatileyo abawela phantsi kodidi lomtshato ongabelani ngesondo?
Ewe! Ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusenyongweni kuyinyani, kwaye ezinye izibini ziyasokola ukubuyisa inkanuko elahlekileyo ebomini babo.
Ukusondelelana ngokomzimba Kunje nje kubalulekile kubudlelwane, utshatile okanye ngenye indlela, njengokwabelana ngamazwi nothando.
Iingcali zithi uthando lomzimba okanye ukusondelelana ngokwangana, ukuncamisana nokuphathaphatha kubalulekile ekwakheni amaqhina obudlelwane kunye nonxibelelwano. Esi sizathu sokuba uninzi lwezibini zitsala nzima ukuba zivakalelwa kukuba kukho ukuswela ulwalamano lomzimba emtshatweni wazo.
A ubudlelwane budinga ukusondelelana ukusinda, kodwa ukungabikho kothando kunye nokusondelelana kubudlelwane kungaphula ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane kwaye kutyhale unxibelelwano ukuya kwindawo yokungabuyi.
Ukuba uyasilela misela lonto unxibelelwano neqabane lakho, nokuba ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, awunakulindela ukonwabela ubudlelwane obungapheliyo neqabane lakho. Oku kungenxa yokungabikho kobuhlobo obusenyameni.
Yintoni ebangela ukungabikho kolwalamano olusondeleyo emtshatweni?
Bambalwa abanokuphikisana ngelithi Ukwabelana ngesondo akuyiyo intliziyo kunye nomphefumlo we umtshato okanye a ubudlelwane bezothando. Kodwa, ukulahleka kobudlelwane obusondeleyo okanye ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusenyameni kungangunobangela weengxaki ezininzi ezizayo ukuba kushiywe kungalungiswa.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuqhubela phambili ekuqondeni ukuba yintoni ebangela ukungabikho kolwalamano olusondeleyo, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba luyintoni uthando lomzimba kubudlelwane kunye nokuba yintoni esondeleyo.
Uqonda ntoni ngegama elithi 'uthando lomzimba'?
Uthando lomzimba lwahlukile kancinane kulwalamano olusenyameni. Ngokwabaphandi beYunivesithi yaseBrigham Young, eUtah, uthando lomzimba luchazwa ngcono njengalo "nakuphi na ukubamba okujolise ekuvuseleleni iimvakalelo zothando kulowo unikezayo kunye / okanye kulowo wamkelayo". Ibandakanya izijekulo zomzimba zilandelayo:
- Ukubuya umva okanye ukuthambisa
- Ukuphulula okanye ukuphulula
- Ukukhwela
- Ukubambana ngezandla
- Ukuwola
- Ukwanga ebusweni
- Ukuncamisa imilebe
Ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, kwelinye icala, kukusondelana ngokwasenyameni okanye ukuchukumisa kwaye kananjalo kubandakanya igama elinobumba abathathu elibizwa ngokuthi 'Ukwabelana ngesondo.'
Kukho ezahlukileyo iintlobo zobudlelwane bomzimba, ezinokubandakanya izijekulo zomzimba zothando ezingaphezulu komzimba omncinci.
Umzekelo, ukwangana, ukuncamisana, ukubambana ngezandla, ukuphulula, ukuthamba kancinci egxalabeni, okanye ukuphulula ingalo zizinto ezimbalwa ezinje ngokusondeza umtshato.
Ezi zimbo zomzimba zinokuhlelwa ngokwamava, amava, ubukrelekrele kunye neentlobo zesondo.
Esinye sezizathu zokuba neengcali zisokoliswa kukujongana nemicimbi yokusondelelana ngokomzimba kulwalamano kukuba wonke umntu Unazo inqanaba lokuthuthuzela, kunye nezinto ozithandayo kunye nongazithandiyo xa kufikwa kubudlelwane obusenyameni.
Umzekelo, abanye abantu banokuziva bekhululekile ukwanga esidlangalaleni, ngelixa abanye banokukujonga kungathandeki kwaye kuhlazisa.
Kule meko, iqabane elifuna ukwanga esidlangalaleni linokuziva ngathi ukusilela ukwanga kwiindawo zikawonkewonke kungangumba ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, ngelixa iqabane elikugqala kuyinto engathandekiyo kungavumi.
Uninzi lweengcali zonxibelelwano ziyavuma ukuba ukungabikho kobuhlobo obusondeleyo bomzimba kwenzeka xa ubuncinci iqabane elinye livakalelwa kukuba iinzame zabo zothando lomzimba kunye nokuziphatha okusondeleyo akubuyiswa. Ixesha lihamba, oku kusilela kobudlelwane obusenyameni okanye ukungakhathalelwa okusuka kwiqabane elingathandiyo kubangela uqhekeko kulwalamano.
Ukubhekisa kulo mzekelo ungasentla, ukuba iqabane lesibini alifuni ukuzibandakanya nakwizenzo zokwabelana ngesondo, nokuba zangasese, kuya kuthathwa njengokuswela okwenyani kobudlelwane bomzimba.
Kodwa, umbuzo apha kukuba ukungabikho kothando lomzimba kuyonakalisa ubudlelwane okanye akunjalo?
Ukungabikho kokwabelana ngesondo kungawonakalisa njani umtshato?
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ukusondelelana ngokomzimba kubalulekile ekwakheni nasekomelezeni ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ababini.
Abantu bafuna uthando lomzimba.
Ukusondelelana emtshatweni kulindeleke ukuba kusondele kwaye kube rhoqo ngakumbi kunokwakheka phambi komtshato ukusukela oko ukuzibophelela emtshatweni unayo izisiwe i amaqabane amabini kunye kwintambo yomtshato kunye nezomthetho.
Ke ngoko, uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo banolindelo lwemisebenzi efana nokuwolana, ukuwolana, ukuphuza, njalo njalo.
Xa kukho ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusenyongweni emtshatweni, kulula ukuziva ngathi uthando lungaphuma kubudlelwane bakho, okanye awutsali ngokwasemzimbeni kwiqabane lakho, okanye ukuba iqabane lakho alisakhathali ngawe indlela ababesenza ngayo ngaphambili.
Ukusondelelana ngokomzimba kuyenye yeendlela zokuba iqabane linxibelelane ngeemvakalelo, ukungabikho kwayo kunokubangela isithuba esinokudala umqobo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ixesha elingaphezulu, linokwenza amaqabane abe namava okulahla. Oku kungaqala umjikelo apho iqabane elilahliweyo linokuqalisa ukuzidibanisa ngokulandelelana. Iminqweno yesondo kunye nesidingo sothando kunye nokusondelelana kunokuqala ukunciphisa, okungalunganga kulwalamano.
Zininzi izibonelelo zezempilo zesondo kunye nokusondelelana kunye nokungabikho kwemisebenzi enjalo kunokuchaphazela i-libido, impilo yentliziyo kunye nempilo yengqondo. Ngapha koko, uphononongo lubonisa ukuba ii-frequency ejaculation frequency zinxulumene nomngcipheko ophakamileyo womhlaza webele. Abasetyhini banamava amaninzi ezesondo, njengokusebenza okungcono kwesinyi kunye namanqanaba asezantsi oxinzelelo.
Kwangelo xesha, isini asikuphela kwento ebangela ukuba abantu basondelelane. Logama nje ubudlelwane bomtshato bunamaqabane asondeleleneyo, athandanayo, kwaye asondelelene namanye amanqanaba ahlukeneyo, ubudlelwane abuphelanga.
Iimpawu ezintlanu zokungasondeli kubudlelwane
Ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusenyameni kubudlelwane ayisiyonto uyifundayo okanye uyibone kwiifilimu; ziyinyani. Kodwa ezinye izibini zithande ukungahoyi i iiflegi ezibomvu.
Bahlala kwaye baqhubeke nobomi babo bengaqondi ukuba umtshato wabo uyawohloka kude kube semva kwexesha.
Makhe sihlolisise le miqondiso ilandelayo ukuqonda ukuba ngaba ungomnye wabo bachaphazeleka kukungabikho kothando emtshatweni.
1. Awuchukumisi kakhulu
Ingcali kwezolwalamano uRori Sassoon uthi, "Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo sisiseko sokwabelana ngokwasemzimbeni,
Ukuba oko ukuchukumisa okusisiseko akukho, emva koko ubudlelwane bakho abukho kuphela kukungabikho kobuhlobo obusenyameni, kodwa awuxhunyiwe kwinqanaba leemvakalelo ngokunjalo.
Yiflegi ebomvu leyo! Kuya kufuneka uvule ngakumbi njengesibini.
2. Uziva ukude
Ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kuyinto eqhelekileyo kule mihla. Kodwa ukuba amaqabane asilele ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo, kukho ingxaki enkulu efuna ingqalelo yakho, ASAP!
Iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo zokuba wedwa okanye unqanyulwe kumlingane wakho are imiqondiso ye ukungabikho kolwalamano olusenyongweni. Kwaye, xa iimvakalelo zingekho, abatshatileyo abanakufumana amava okunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni.
Xa kungekho thando emtshatweni, alikho ikamva lolo lwalamano konke konke.
3. Ukuxabana kuyanda
Yintoni ukuxabana? Kulungile! Ayisiyonto ngaphandle komqondiso obonisa abantu ababini abangaqolanga besabela omnye komnye. Ngokwesiqhelo, ezi ngxabano ziphela kungquzulwano olukhulu ukuba omabini amaqabane akazimisele ukuqonda uluvo lomnye.
Ukuba amaqabane ayahluleka ukunxibelelana, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, oku kuxabana kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo ebomini bakho. Ukungabikho kolwalamano olusenyongweni emtshatweni luxanduva lokugcina amaqabane ahlukene ngokwasemoyeni.
Ukuphikisana kuyenzeka Xa u Zombini azidibananga ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ubonise umdla omncinci ekuqondeni iqabane lakho.
4. Ukungabikho kokudlala nokuhlekisa
Ngaba ubudlelwane bakho buswele yonke intlantsi, uthando, ukudlala, kunye noburharha njengoko kwakukade kunjalo? Ukuba impendulo ithi 'Ewe,' ke umi kumda wentlekele.
Omnye wenu uza kuphulukana nomonde kungekudala, kwaye indlala engonelisekanga yokulangazelela kunye nokuphila iya kuqhuba ubudlelwane bakho buye kwinqanaba lobunzima.
5. Akukho namnye kuni okhuthaza ukusondela emzimbeni
Kukho amaxesha apho isondo sithatha isihlalo sangasemva, ngakumbi ngexesha lokukhulelwa okanye xa kukho iintsana ekufuneka zibanyamekele. Njenge yomile yomtshato unokuba neziphumo ezibini ezahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo.
Nokuba yeyiphi isibini unako ziqhele kule nto ukupela okomzuzwana okanye zive ngokupheleleyo inqanyuliwe, nto leyo ekhokelela ekungathembekini nasekuhlukaneni emtshatweni ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Yintoni enokwenziwa ukuphucula ulwalamano lomzimba?
Yi akusoloko kulula ukuya lungisa umba yokungabikho kobudlelwane obusenyameni- kodwa inokwenziwa kwiimeko ezininzi.
Isitshixo sokusombulula imiba yokusondelana kukuthatha izinto kancinci kwaye ungangxami ekunyanzeleni iqabane lakho ukuba liqonde yonke into ngesantya ofuna ukusenza.
Enye into emnandi ukuyenza kukuba novelwano neqabane kunye nokuvuleleka kwimbono yabo yokuthandana kunye nothando. Fumana into ethandwa liqabane lakho kwaye engayithandiyo ngokwasenyameni, kunye nokukhuthaza ukusondelelana ngokomzimba ngeendlela ezingezizo ezothando, ezinje ngokubambana ngezandla, ukuhlala ecaleni komnye nomnye ngelixa ubukele iifilimu, ukuhamba kunye, njalo njalo.
Ukuba akukho nto ibonakala isebenza kwaye ungaziva ukuba ubudlelwane buyabandezeleka ngenxa yoku, musa ukuthandabuza ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha ngokuthetha nomcebisi womtshato okanye ingcali yezesondo enokuphakamisa ukuqonda kwakho kwemeko kwaye ikukhokele ngendlela yokusebenza kwiilwimi zakho zothando ukuphucula ukusondelelana.
Yintoni ebalulekileyo ekupheleni kosuku kukuba umtshato wakho kufuneka uphile kwaye wonwabe. Nokuba nobabini niyenza ukuba nisebenze ngokwenu okanye nifumane uncedo ekuphuculeni ukusondelelana emtshatweni wenu akunamsebenzi ukuba niyaqonda ukuba ubudlelwane benu budinga ukhathalelo olongezelelweyo ukwenza izinto zisebenze.