Umxholo
- Amadoda nabasetyhini bajonga imiba ngokwahlukileyo
- Umahluko ngokwesini
- Umahluko kwindlela amadoda nabafazi abaguqula ngayo ukugxeka
Nangona amadoda nabafazi befana ngakumbi kunokuba behlukile, iindlela ezahlukileyo zinokwenza ubudlelwane obunothando bube nzima ukuhamba.
USarah wabelana ngokucebisa ngomtshato ukuba umyeni wakhe uDave akamxhasi okanye ammamele.
“Ndibuya ekhaya ndineentsuku zoxinzelelo emsebenzini kwaye ndifuna ukukhupha umoya. Into endiyifumana kuye kukuba bekufanele ukuba ndiyisingathe ingxaki ngokwahlukileyo okanye ndiyeke umsebenzi wam. Ndiyazisola ngokumxelela nantoni na. ”
Ufikelele kumyeni wakhe ngethemba lokuba, ngokubuyisela, afumane uvelwano kunye nokuqinisekiswa; wayefuna ukuziva. Ngokubanzi, abantu basetyhini ngokwendalo banokuba nolwalamano ngakumbi kwaye bafumane ukukhululeka ngakumbi kwiincoko apho kwabelwana ngeemvakalelo. Kuba isiza ngokwendalo kubo, banokuthatha oku ngokungakhathali kwaye baziva ngathi kufanelekile emadodeni. Kwelinye icala, amadoda, ubukhulu becala, afuna ukusombulula ingxaki.
Amadoda nabasetyhini bajonga imiba ngokwahlukileyo
Isenokungabi yinto ephazamisayo ukuba uSarah kunye nabanye abantu basetyhini abaneengxabano ezifanayo baqonde kodwa kukho umahluko kubhayiloji, ophenjelelwa kukuzivelela kwezinto, phakathi kwabesini abanceda ukucacisa lo mahluko kwaye kunokuba kungangumbandela wokukhetha.
Amadoda nabasetyhini bajongana nemicimbi ngokwahlukileyo kwaye bezama ukufumana impendulo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kumaqabane abo kunokuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo okanye kuphela kwendlela indoda eyaziyo ukuzama ukunika inkxaso kwaye yazise iqabane layo ukuba liyakhathala. Abasetyhini kungafuneka bancede iqabane labo eliyindoda ngokubazisa ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwenkxaso abayifunayo.
Umntu unokuchaza inkxalabo yabo ngento enje:
"Ndifuna ukukhupha umoya kwaye ndingavuya kakhulu ukuba nje unokundimamela"
okanye
“Olu lusuku olunzima ngokukodwa; Ndifuna ihagi".
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu obhinqileyo unokufuna ingcebiso; ukuba kunjalo, banokumazisa.
Umahluko ngokwesini
Omnye umba oqhelekileyo ekuhlangatyezwana nawo ngexesha lokucebisa izibini ngamantombazana / amakhosikazi evakalisa inkxalabo yokuba bazisa into ebaphazamisayo, amasoka abo / amadoda abo ayamkela ngokwaneleyo ukuba ingatshintsha, kodwa utshintsho lolwexeshana. Inxalenye yengxaki efunyanisiweyo kukuba abantu ababhinqileyo ababonakalisi uxabiso lwabo, ngokunokwenzeka benembono yokuba akufuneki bancome oko baziva ngathi amaqabane abo sele eyenzile. Ukwamkelwa komgudu kunokuba sisiqinisekiso esikhulu. Umntu unokunceda ukubakhuthaza ukuba bafune ukuqhubeka nokuziphatha ngokuqiniseka ukuba bayazi ukuba bayabona kwaye banombulelo.
Umahluko wesini onokuba yingxaki kubudlelwane yindlela ekusombululwa ngayo ukungavisisani kunye nezitayile zokusombulula ungquzulwano.
USteve wabelana ukuba xa izinto zishushu;
"Ndifuna nje umgama kwaye ndifuna ixesha ndedwa ukuze intloko yam iqonde". Uxela umfazi wakhe, uLori, kubonakala ngathi ufuna ukuhlala ebandakanyekile kwimbambano kwaye uyikhuphe. "Nokuba izinto ziye zaphola, usafuna ukuthetha ngezinto kodwa ndifuna ukuqhubekeka".
Amadoda ngokwesiqhelo kunokwenzeka ukuba avale xa kukho ungquzulwano ngenxa yokonganyelwa lula yimvakalelo. Abasetyhini xa bephendula banokuziva befuna ukonyusa umdlalo wabo ngokukhwaza ngakumbi okanye ngokubonisa ukuzama ukuphendula, ukongeza umbane emlilweni. Olu lwazi lunokumnceda aqonde isidingo sakhe sendawo ngalo maxesha. Kumava am, abesilisa banobunzima bokubona ixabiso lokufumana isisombululo kulo mbandela emva kokuqina kokudibana. Mhlawumbi boyika ukubuya kwemvakalelo ukuba umba uyaqwalaselwa kwakhona. Njengowasetyhini kubudlelwane, omnye unokufuna ukunceda iqabane lakhe ukuba libone ixabiso ekusebenzeni ngokuzolileyo komcimbi ukuze kuthintelwe umba ofanayo okanye ofanayo ekuqhubekeni negalelo kwimilo.
Umahluko kwindlela amadoda nabafazi abaguqula ngayo ukugxeka
Nangona bobabini banokuzikhusela, amadoda abonakala esenza njalo ngokuthe rhoqo okanye ngamandla. Ukugcina oku engqondweni, umntu obhinqileyo unokufuna ukukhumbula ngakumbi ukuba nokuthantamisa kwindlela yabo kunye nokuzama ukugcina ukugxeka ubuncinci.
Umahluko njengoko kuchaziwe kweli nqaku uzakubakho ngokwamanqanaba ahlukeneyo kubudlelwane. Kuyenzeka ukuba boyiswe, ngakumbi ukuba umntu uzama ukubamkela kwaye abaqonde. (Nceda uqaphele, ukuba kukho ukuxhatshazwa kubudlelwane, kufuneka kufunwe olunye uncedo). Ukucebisa izibini kunokunceda amaqabane ahlole kwaye anciphise ifuthe lomahluko.
Amagama kunye namabali akweli nqaku akameli bantu bokwenyani. Umahluko owahlukileyo okhankanyiweyo zizinto ngokubanzi kwaye usekwe ikakhulu kukudibana kweklinikhi kokuhlangana kunye nezibini.