Umxholo
- 1. Yamkela ukuba impatho-gadalala ibingelo tyala lakho
- 2. Zibekele imida
- 3. Thatha ixesha lokuphinda uqhagamshele
- 4. Yenza izinto ezikonwabisa
- 5. Yenza uluhlu
- 6. Funa uncedo
- 7. Zinike ixesha
Emva kokuba uphumile kubudlelwane ne-narcissist, inokuziva ngathi awuyazi indlela yokubeka unyawo olunye phambi kolunye usuku ngalunye.
AbakwaNarcissist basebenzisa ukukhanya kwegesi kunye nezinye iindlela zokuphathwa gadalala ukwenza amaxhoba abo abuze ubunyani babo kunye nokuba sempilweni kwabo, kunye nokubaphelisa amandla nokuzithemba.
Kungathatha ixesha ukuphilisa kwi-narcissistic gadalala, kwaye umntu ngamnye uya kuba nendlela eyahlukileyo yokuphilisa. Kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuze uzincede uphilise kwaye uqhubeke ngobomi bakho.
Funda ngendlela ye-7 yokuphilisa kwi-narcissistic gadalala
1. Yamkela ukuba impatho-gadalala ibingelo tyala lakho
Ukuphathwa gadalala kwakho kwe ex narcissistic wayenjalo ayilotyala lakho.
Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwamaxhoba e-narcissists akhanyiselwa igesi ukuba akholelwe ukuba azizisele uxinzelelo kubo. Amanye amaxhoba azibeka ityala ngokungaboni mpatho gadalala ngento eyayiyiyo, ngokungayiboni kwakamsinya, okanye ngokungashiyi kwakamsinya.
Ngelixa ukwinkqubo yokuphilisa kwi-narcissistic gadalala, zixolele kwaye uyazi ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho, kwaye uphume ngokukhawuleza. Nabani na onokuba lixhoba le-narcissist, ungazigxeki.
2. Zibekele imida
Olunye lweempawu eziphambili ze-narcissist kukuba abanangqondo yemida kwaye baya kugqitha eyakho.
Ukubeka imida, kungekuphela nje nge-ex-narcissistic ex yakho kodwa nakwabanye, kuya kukunceda njengoko ubona indlela yokuphilisa kwi-narcissistic gadalala. Funda ukuba ungathi hayi kwaye ubambelele uhayi wakho.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ungayi kunxibelelana nesidala sakho. Vimba inombolo yabo yefowuni, indlela ye-imeyile yabo yogaxekile, kwaye ungabinabahlobo kwaye ubathintele kwimidiya yoluntu. Ukuba kufuneka uhlale unxibelelana kuba unabantwana ngokufanayo, ziqhelise ukuhlala phantsi xa kufuneka unxibelelane ukuze ungabaniki nto yokutya.
Misela imida eqinileyo kwinqanaba kunye nohlobo lonxibelelwano oya kuba nalo kunye ne-ex yakho.
Ukukhumbula iimemorabilia kunye nezinye izikhumbuzo zesidala sakho kunokukunceda uphilise ekuphathweni gadalala.
3. Thatha ixesha lokuphinda uqhagamshele
Enye yeendlela eziphambili zolawulo lwe-narcissist kukwahlula ixhoba labo kubahlobo, kusapho, kwanakwabo ngokwabo. Oku kwenza ukuphiliswa kukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi.
Ukuthatha ixesha lokunxibelelana nabanye kunye nawe kuya kuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuphilisa kwi-narcissistic gadalala. Fikelela kubahlobo onokuthi ungabikho ngaphandle kokunxibelelana nabo. Cwangcisa ixesha nabo bakwenza uzive wonwabile. Zinike ixesha lokuzifumanisa kwakhona.
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwesini kuhlala kulishiya ixhoba linombono ocekethekileyo okanye ongachanekanga wokuba bangobani, bakholelwa kwintoni, kwaye bafuna ntoni ebomini.
Ukubhala ngokwasemagqabini, ukuzibonakalisa ngokwakho, kunye nokunye ukuzilolonga ekucamngceni kunokunceda njengoko uphilisa.
4. Yenza izinto ezikonwabisa
Amaxesha amaninzi amaxhoba e-narcissist ayayeka ukulandela iimfuno zawo ukuze alondoloze imvisiswano kubudlelwane. Njengoko ufumanisa ukuba ungaphola njani ekuphathweni gadalala, ukuthatha ixesha lokwenza izinto onomdla kuzo kuyanceda.
Zibandakanya kwinto oyithandayo ongayishiya ngexesha lobudlelwane bakho ne ex yakho. Hlaziya, okanye ufumane into entsha, yokomoya. Yitya ukutya okuthandayo. Nokuba izinto ezincinci njengokutshintsha i-makeup yakho okanye ukubeka umzobo owawuthandayo kunye ne-ex yakho eyayithiyileyo inokuba ngamanyathelo okuphilisa.
5. Yenza uluhlu
Kuya kubakho iintsuku oya kulingeka ukuba ufikelele kwi-ex yakho okanye ubuze ukuba ukushiya kwakuyinto efanelekileyo. Yenza uluhlu lwazo zonke izizathu oshiye ngazo. Unokwenza oku ngokuhlala ngxi okanye ushiye kwindawo apho ungongeza kuyo njengoko izinto zisenzeka kuwe.
Ukuba nolu luhlu luncedo kuya kukunceda uphazamise iipateni zakho zokucinga xa usiya kulahleka umntu wakho wakudala, okwenzekayo okanye ukubuza ukuba ingaba izinto "bezimbi nyani na" okanye ukuba uthathe isigqibo esifanelekileyo.
6. Funa uncedo
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwesondo kukuxhatshazwa, nokuba umntu wakho wakudala akazange abe nogonyamelo ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ukufuna i-Therapist okanye enye ingcali ejongene nabasindileyo ekuxhatshazweni kwe-narcissistic inokuba linyathelo elixabisekileyo njengoko uphulukana nokuphathwa gadalala.
Nokuba ukhetha iiseshoni ezimbalwa kunye nonyango, iqela labasindileyo beveki nganye, okanye enye yeenkonzo zokunyanga kwintetho ekwi-intanethi, inokukunceda ukuthetha nomntu ongaphandle kwemeko onamava ngokunceda abasindileyo ukuba baphilise kwaye babuyise ubomi babo.
7. Zinike ixesha
Umonakalo ovela ekuphatheni gadalala awenzekanga ngobusuku obunye, kwaye awuyi kufumana ndlela yokuphilisa kuwo ubusuku bonke, nokuba.
Yazi ukuba ukwi rollercoaster yeemvakalelo kulo lonke ubudlelwane, kwaye kuyakuthatha ixesha ukuba ingqondo yakho, intliziyo kunye nenkqubo yovalo ibuye izole. Ezinye iintsuku ziya kuba nzima kunezinye.
Sebenzisa ubuchule kolu luhlu kunokukunceda ungene kwiintsuku ezinzima.
Ngaphezulu, njengoko uneentsuku ezininzi ngakumbi nangakumbi, uya kuba ukulungele ngakumbi ukushiya okudlulileyo ngasemva kwaye ungene kubomi obutsha.