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Umxholo

• Yomeleza ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho
• Uqeqesho lwempembelelo ekhaya
• Ukulwa noxinzelelo lwakho ngokulula
• Ukubaluleka kokulala
• Ukubhiyozela inkululeko

Ngaba wakhe wazibuza ukuba sikhona na isikolo okanye iyunivesithi kwenye indawo onokuthi uthathe kuyo izifundo zeMasters kubuzali kunye ne-ace izakhono zakho zokuba ngumzali? Ubomi buya kuba lula kakhulu xa uxhotyiswe ngezakhono ezifanelekileyo zokuba ngumzali, akunjalo? Ukuhamba ngenkcazo elungileyo yokuba ngumzali, unoxanduva lokuxhasa ukukhula nokukhula komntwana ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni ukusuka kwinqanaba lobusana ukuya ebudaleni.

Uninzi lwethu lunqwenela ukuba ngowona mzali ubalaseleyo phaya - opholileyo, umcebisi, umhlobo, kunye nomzekelo kubantwana abanobubele nabanomdla. Abazali bethu khange kufuneke bathathe ikhosi enjalo bafunde ngezakhono ezilungileyo zokuba ngabazali kwaye siyazi ukuba benze konke okusemandleni abo. Oko, ngokuyintloko, ngumxholo wokuba ngumzali-ukwenza konke okusemandleni ethu.

Ewe, kweli xesha lolwazi kunye ne-intanethi, sichanekile kwiindlela ezininzi zokuba ngumzali kunye nezakhono ezahlukeneyo zokuba ngumzali.

Ngophando oluncinci, sizifumana singqongwe lwazi ngakumbi nangakumbi ekuphuhliseni izakhono zokuba ngumzali. Ke sazi njani ukuba yeyiphi eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba ngumzali womntwana? Ngamafutshane, asiyenzi. Logama nje umntwana wakho esempilweni, onwabile kwaye ephefumlelwe ukuba abe lolona hlobo lubalaseleyo kubo, uyifumene. Nangona kunjalo, sifuna ukuqaqambisa izakhono ezihlanu ezilungileyo zokuba ngumzali onokufuna ukomeleza.

Yomeleza ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho

Impixano iphazamisa ingqondo yomntwana. Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana bonwabile kwaye baphumelela ngakumbi ekuhambeni kwexesha xa bevela kwikhaya elinengxabano.

Uqhawulo-mtshato kunye nengxabano zinokuzibonakalisa ebantwaneni bakho ngeendlela ezininzi ezimbi, ngakumbi ngoxinzelelo, umsindo, ukothuka nokungakholelwa.

Omnye wabantu abathandwa kakhulu kwiTV, uGqirha Phil, uthetha ngabantwana abasokolayo kwikhaya elinengxabano enkulu.Uthi, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kumboniso wakhe ukuba unemithetho emibini ekukhuliseni abantwana. Inye, sukubaxakekisa ngeemeko abangakwaziyo ukuzilawula kwaye ezimbini, musa ukubacela ukuba bajongane nemicimbi yabantu abadala. Utsho oku kubazali abasoloko bebandakanya abantwana babo kwiingxabano zabo. Olunye lweempawu zabazali abalungileyo kukugcina abantwana babo kwindawo efanelekileyo kwaye bonwabile.

Iingqondo zabantwana bethu zibuthathaka kwaye zihlala zibunjwe ngabantu ababangqongileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba njengabazali, nenze konke okusemandleni enu ukudala imeko enothando nenenkathalo.

Izimbo zomusa, isimilo, ukuxhasana ngokweemvakalelo ayisiyongozi nje kubudlelwane bakho, umntwana wakho ufunda kuwe. Olunye lweempawu zezakhono ezilungileyo zokuba ngumzali kukwandisa uthando, ukufudumala kunye nobubele kwiqabane lakho, ukuze abantwana bakho babenokubonisa indlela abaziphethe ngayo ngokubukela abazali babo.

Uqeqesho lwempembelelo ekhaya

Imisebenzi elula ekhaya ekugqibeleni inceda abantwana bakho ukuba benze ngcono kwimisebenzi yeqela elidityanisiweyo njengomntu omdala.

Ukubanomfundi wokwenza imisebenzi emakhayeni abo kungaguqula abantwana abakhutheleyo babe ngabantu abadala abaphumelelayo nabonwabileyo. Ilungu ngalinye losapho kufuneka lithathe uxanduva lwemisebenzi endlwini kwaye liqinisekise ukuba wonke umntu uyayilandela ukuyigqiba.

Oku akupheleli nje ekomelezeni iqhina lakho njengentsapho kodwa ukhulisa abantwana bakho ukuba babe noxanduva, abantu abazimeleyo.

UJulie Lythcott-Haims, umbhali we Ungamphakamisa njani uMdala, "Ukuba abantwana abazihlambi izitya, oko kuthetha ukuba omnye umntu ubenzela oko. Kwaye ke abaxolelwanga kungekuphela ngumsebenzi, kodwa kukufunda ukuba umsebenzi kufuneka wenziwe kwaye umntu ngamnye kuthi kufuneka afake isandla kuphuculo lwento yonke.

Inokuba yinto enzima ukubukela umntwana wakho ehlamba iipleyiti zakhe okanye asete itafile kwisidlo sangokuhlwa. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana wakho akayintyatyambo ethe-ethe kodwa sisipunu esomeleleyo esilinde ukukhula abe ngumthi. Ukubafundisa ukuphendula ngoxanduva kunye noxanduva besebancinci kubalungiselela ubomi njengomntu omdala.

Ukulwa noxinzelelo lwakho ngokulula

Ubomi buya kuhlala bukuphosa kuwe.

Njengomzali, luxanduva lwakho ukubaphatha ngqo nokwenza umzekelo kumntwana wakho. Uxinzelelo lunokwahluka kwezempilo, umsebenzi wakho, imfundo yabantwana, ezemali, okanye iingxabano ezingasonjululwanga ekhaya. Ukuba ngumzali kukodwa luxinzelelo. Ukuba uxinzelelo aluphethwe ngononophelo, aluchaphazeli kuphela ukuzinza kwengqondo kodwa nolwabantwana bakho.

Kubalulekile ukuba sizinike isakhelo esicacileyo seengqondo ngokuthatha amanyathelo asebenzayo okucoca uxinzelelo.

Enye indlela yokwenza oko kukukhupha izinto ezingathandekiyo okwethutyana. Oku kunokuba ziindaba, abantu abakrwada, iindawo ezinengxolo, ungcoliseko njalo njalo. Ikwathetha ukuzisika kancinci. Rhoqo ungoyena mntu ugxekayo.

Ngokusebenza kwimihla emfutshane kwaye uthathe okungaphezulu kunokuba unakho ukusingatha, uzibekela ukungaphumeleli. Ezi ntlobo zokuziphatha zonyusa amanqanaba oxinzelelo kunye nefuthe hayi kuwe kuphela kodwa nakumntwana wakho.

Ukubaluleka kokulala

Ukuthetha ngokubamba uqeqesho ngemisebenzi kunye nokulwa noxinzelelo, umntu akanakukuthintela ukuthetha ngokubaluleka kokulala ebomini bakhe.

Njengabantu abadala, siyawazi umahluko wokulala olungileyo onokuwenza kwimveliso yakho ngosuku olulandelayo. Kodwa phakathi kwalo lonke uxinzelelo, ixesha elibekiweyo, iiprojekthi zesikolo, ukungcola ekhaya, ingaba sithatha ixesha lakho ukumisela ubunyulu bokulala ebomini bethu, ngakumbi abantwana? Ukulala ubuthongo kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu, hayi kwimpilo yomzimba kuphela kodwa nakwimpilo yengqondo yabantwana.

Ukungalali ngokwaneleyo kunokubangelwa zizinto ezahlukeneyo kwaye ke, kubalulekile njengabazali ukuba bathathe inxaxheba ebonakalayo ekubekeni iliso kwindlela aziphethe ngayo umntwana wakho. Abanye oonobangela bokungalali kakuhle ziingxaki zokulala, uxinzelelo, umatrasi ongonwabisiyo, ixesha elininzi lesikrini, uxinzelelo njalo njalo.

Isenokuba yimicimbi emincinci enje ngeshedyuli yokungalali kakuhle. Abazali banokusebenzisa izixhobo ezinje ngeNectar's Sleep Calculator ukwenza iishedyuli zokulala ezingaguquguqukiyo kubo nakubantwana babo.

Ukubhiyozela inkululeko

Njengabazali, kuyindalo ukujonga esweni imisebenzi yomntwana wakho. Ukuba kufanelekile, ngekhe ube nengcinga yokubenzela yonke into ukuze nje benze ubomi bube lula. Le ngcamango ibizwa ngokuba ngumzali we-helicopter.

Kuxa abazali bengapheleli nje ekunyanzeleni kodwa umqamelo omkhulu, apho abantwana baye babambeke ngakumbi nangakumbi kwindawo yokuthuthuzela eyenziwe nguwe.

Ukuba ngumzali ngehelikopta kunokuthintela oku kukhula emntwaneni, kubenze bangaphazamiseki kwintlalo yabo. Ukuvumela abantwana bakho benze ukhetho olufanelekileyo ngokobudala, ukubavumela ukuba basilele, ukubayeka bajongane neziphumo zokhetho lwabo kuphela kukwenza ube ngumzali ongcono kwaye babe noxanduva kwaye bazimele.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuyeka ukuhamba zizakhono ezingcono zokuba ngumzali kunokutshiza.