Umxholo
- 1. Thatha uxanduva
- 2. Zibophelele kwinkqubo
- 3. Nikela umzamo okhethekileyo wokuchitha ixesha elininzi neqabane lakho
- 4. Buyisela ubuhlobo kunye nokubonisa uthando
Yonke imitshato ihlasela indawo erhabaxa, kodwa ukuba usebenza nzima inokulungiswa. Okanye sixelelwe.
Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba wenza ntoni, awungekhe usebenze. Kwelinye icala, ngamanye amaxesha, xa usenza into ekufanele ukuba uyenze, utyala lonke uthando lwakho namandla akho kulwalamano lwakho, ufumana umvuzo ngomzamo wakho.
Ke, ungawulungisa njani umtshato wakho xa uthe waxinga okanye wabetha isaqhwithi esifanelekileyo? Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezinokutshintsha ubomi bakho
1. Thatha uxanduva
Uninzi lwethu luyayicaphukela le nxalenye, ngakumbi ukuba usecaleni lokwahlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato. Sikhetha ukugxeka elinye iqela ngayo nayiphi na into enokuthi ihambe kakubi kubudlelwane bethu.
Asitsho ukuba khange wenzakaliswe okanye awenzakaliswanga. Kukho konke ukunyaniseka, azikho iimeko ezininzi apho kuphela iqabane elinye elibi, ngelixa elinye lingcwele.
Ke ngoko, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni owenze umtshato wakho waba sengxakini, izingqinisiso zikhona izinto ozenzileyo okanye obuzenza ezinegalelo kubunzima kulwalamano.
Kwaye yile nto kufuneka ujolise kuyo njengenyathelo lokuqala kwindlela yakho yokulungisa umtshato wakho. Enkulu okanye encinci, kuya kufuneka uthathe uxanduva kwinxalenye yakho yengxaki.
Zibuze imibuzo malunga nomlingiswa wakho, isimo sakho, kunye nezenzo zakho. Ubunyanisile? Ngaba ubuhlonipha? Ngaba ukrokrela ngaphezulu kokuba bekuyimfuneko? Ngaba uyazi ukuba unxibelelana njani nezidingo zakho kunye nezikhalazo? Ngaba ubonakalisile uthando nenkathalo? Ngaba ulawule umsindo wakho okanye wayenomkhwa wokugqabhuka kwisithuko nanini na xa ungonelisekanga?
Zonke ezi kunye nezinye ezininzi, ezininzi ngakumbi, yimibuzo ekufanele ukuba uyazibuza yona yonke imihla kwindlela yakho eya kumtshato wakho omtsha ophilileyo. Into yokuqala kukwamkela nokwamkela iimpazamo kunye neempazamo zakho. Nje ukuba wenze njalo, thatha uxanduva ngezenzo zakho. Kwaye emva koko wabelane ngokuqonda kunye nezigqibo neqabane lakho kwincoko ephilileyo kodwa enobubele.
2. Zibophelele kwinkqubo
Nje ukuba ujongane nemicimbi ebekufanele ukuba uyisingathe, kwaye xa ubufungile ukuba uzokutshintsha iindlela zakho zokwenza izinto zisebenze, kufuneka uzibophelele kwinkqubo ngokwayo.
Iya kuba yindlela ende ngaphambili, ungakhohliswa zizithembiso zokulungiswa ngokulula. Uphando lubonakalisile ukuba abantu abatshatileyo abazimiseleyo ukuzinikela ekwenzeni utshintsho olufunekayo banamathuba aphezulu okuphumelela ukugcina umtshato wabo.
Iguqula njani le nto ukuba yenziwe?
Kukulungele ukutshintsha imikhwa yakho yemihla ngemihla, kwaye ukhethe ixesha elaneleyo lokuchitha usebenza emtshatweni wakho. Oku kuthetha izinto ezimbalwa. Uya kudinga ixesha elithile lokusebenza kuphuhliso lwakho kunye nezakhono zakho zonxibelelwano, mhlawumbi ufunde ezinye iincwadi zokuziphucula. Kuya kufuneka utyelele nonyango lwezibini ukukukhokela kwinkqubo.
3. Nikela umzamo okhethekileyo wokuchitha ixesha elininzi neqabane lakho
Okokugqibela, yeyona nto imnandi kakhulu kweli nqanaba- kuya kufuneka unikezele umgudu okhethekileyo wokuchitha ixesha elininzi, kunye nexesha elisemgangathweni ngakumbi, kunye neqabane lakho. Jonga ukuba ungafumana umdla omtsha ekwabelwana ngawo. Chitha ngokuhlwa ngaphandle kweekhompyuter okanye iifowuni, nobabini kuphela. Thatha uhambo, uye kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya, kwaye nihendane.
Qiniseka ukuba ubeke uninzi lwezinto ezingafunekiyo ecaleni kude ubudlelwane bakho buhambe kakuhle kwaye buqhubeke kwakhona.
4. Buyisela ubuhlobo kunye nokubonisa uthando
Enye yezinto zokuqala emtshatweni eziya kubandezeleka xa kukho iingxaki zomtshato kukuthandana. Oku kuhamba kokubini okwenzekayo kwigumbi lokulala, kunye notshintshiselwano losuku ngalunye lothando, ukukhumbana, ukwanga, kunye nokwangana. Oku kuyaqondakala, ngakumbi kubafazi abakufumanisa kunzima ukwahlulahlulahlula ulwalamano olusenyongweni ekusebenzeni ngokubanzi kobudlelwane.
Ukubuyisela ukusondelelana emtshatweni wakho yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kwesi sicwangciso. Njengangaphambili, kuya kufuna ukuthembeka okukhulu, ukungafihli nto kunye nokuzimisela. Kwaye, kufanele ukuba kube lula kakhulu emva kokuba amanyathelo angaphambili ethathelwe ingqalelo. Akukho xinzelelo, yithathe kancinci kancinci njengoko kufuneka njalo kwaye uqale ngengxoxo evulekileyo malunga nayiphi na imiba enokubakho kweli sebe.
Veza ukhetho lwakho ebhedini, vula malunga nento oyithandayo nongayithandiyo, into oyifunayo kunye nento oyifunayo. Thatha eli thuba ungabuyiseli ulwalamano lwakho lomzimba kuphela kodwa uyilahle ngokutsha ukuze nobabini nibe phezulu kwihlabathi. Yenze ibe ngumsebenzi wakho wemihla ngemihla ukutshintshiselana ngothando ngohlobo oluthile lomzimba, nokuba kukumanga ngobumnene kwindlela eya emsebenzini, okanye isini esibuhlungu ngaphambi kokuba ulale. Kwaye umtshato wakho unokuchazwa njengecala eligciniweyo!