Umxholo
- Izinto zokuqala kuqala. Nguwuphi lo mthetho wokunxibelelana?
- Sithini isizathu sokuba kungabikho mthetho wokudibana?
- Zeziphi izinto zokugcina zibekekile ngeli xesha kungekho mthetho wokunxibelelana?
- Ukuhlola umntu wakudala
- Ukuzibandakanya kulo naluphi na uhlobo lweziyobisi
- Ngaba akukho qhagamshelo lisebenza ngexesha nasemva kokwahlukana komtshato?
- Xa ungawusebenzisi umgaqo woqhakamshelwano?
Ukuba ubukhangela ulwazi kubudlelwane emva koqhawulo-mtshato kwaye ubuyelana ne-ex emva kokuba nahlukene, ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe waliva igama elithi "Akukho mthetho wokunxibelelana." Uzibuza ukuba yintoni leyo? Ewe, kulula. Awunxibelelani ne ex yakho okungenani inyanga. Ukuba ucinga kulula ke mandikuxelele, ayisiyonto ilula njengoko ibonakala. Ngapha koko, akukho mgaqo woqhakamshelwano yenye yezona zinto zinzima oya kuze uzenze ngelixa ukwimowudi yokwahlukana kwaye nawe ukuba ubunobudlelwane ne-ex yakho ixesha elide. Ukucinga ukuba kutheni kufuneka uzifake kwizinto ezinzima kangaka, ngakumbi xa usazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani? Kuba inesiqhamo ngokwenene ukuba ulandela umgaqo wokunxibelelana ngendlela eyiyo.
Sukuba nexhala. Ngokukhawuleza uza kufumanisa ukuba kutheni, kutheni, kwaye nini kweli nqaku. Siza kuthetha ngayo yonke imibuzo yakho kwaye sikuncede ubone ukuba ukuphumeza umgaqo woqhakamshelwano kulungile kuwe okanye hayi.
Izinto zokuqala kuqala. Nguwuphi lo mthetho wokunxibelelana?
Njengoko igama libonisa, akukho mgaqo woqhakamshelwano omalunga nokunganxibelelani ne-ex yakho emva koqhawulo-mtshato. Masicinge ukuba unamathiselwe kwintombi yakho yangaphambili okanye kwisoka lakho kwaye ekuphela kwendlela enokukuthintela ekufumaneni umlutha ngakumbi ukuyeka ukucinga ngaye. Nantsi into oya kuyenza kulo mgaqo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu abakhobokisayo kwabo babethandana nabo okanye amakhwenkwe athandana nabo bafuna isicwangciso esinjengokubanda okubandayo ukuze balahle iziyobisi zabo. Akukho mgaqo woqhakamshelwano uthetha ngokuchanekileyo:
- Akukho miyalezo ikhawulezileyo
- Akukho fowuni
- Akukho kusebenza kubo
- Akukho miyalezo ye-Facebook okanye naluphi na uhlobo lweqonga lemidiya yoluntu
- Akukho kuya kwindawo yabo okanye abahlobo babo
Ikwabandakanya ukungayibeki imiyalezo yobume kuWhatsApp nakuFacebook ngokucacileyo eyenzelwe bona. Usenokuthi akukho mntu waziyo ngaphandle kokuba i-ex yakho yanele. Nokuba umyalezo omncinci wenqanaba unokuwonakalisa wonke umthetho wakho wokunxibelelana.
Kodwa, ngaba akukho msebenzi woqhakamshelwano ukubuyisa intombi-yangaphambili okanye isoka langaphambili? Ukufumana impendulo kulo mbuzo, kubalulekile ukuba uqale uqonde ukuba kutheni kungekho nxibelelwano lusebenzayo?
Sithini isizathu sokuba kungabikho mthetho wokudibana?
Njengoko besenditshilo ngaphambilana, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuhlala ngaphandle kwesidala sakho. Kwaye ukwenza oko, akukho mgaqo wonxibelelwano uyindlela egqibeleleyo. Kodwa usenokubuza ukuba kutheni kufuneka ufunde ukuhlala ngaphandle kwabo xa isicwangciso sonke sibuyela kubo. Ewe, kungenxa yokuba ungaswele nto kwaye ungxamile, uya kubuyela kwakamsinya nge-ex yakho. Ukuba uqhubeka nokuthetha ngabo, umntu wakho wakudala unokucinga ukuba uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo kwaye unqwenela ukubuyela. Kwaye konke oku kukwenza ubonakale ungathandeki kwisidala sakho. I-ex yakho ayizukuthanda ukuba kunye nomntu onxanelweyo kwaye yiyo loo nto ufuna ixesha lokuphumla ngaphandle kwabo.
Zeziphi izinto zokugcina zibekekile ngeli xesha kungekho mthetho wokunxibelelana?
Yintoni omele uyenze emva kokunganxibelelani nesithandwa sakho sangaphambili okanye isoka?
Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka ulumke ngeli xesha lokungabikho komgaqo wonxibelelwano. Kuqwalasele oku njengophawu lwesilumkiso kuba kulula kakhulu ukuwela kulo mngxunya kwaye uchithe yonke into ngaphandle koqhakamshelwano ngaphandle kokwenza nayiphi na inkqubela phambili kubudlelwane bakho nakubomi bakho.
Akukho nxibelelwano ngexesha lokwahlukana kuthetha ukuba 'AKUKHO NXIBELELWANO' neqabane lakho.
Ukuhlola umntu wakudala
Kuqheleke kakhulu kubantu abasandula ukwahlukana ne-ex yabo ukuya kuhlola ii-ex zabo ezingama-24/7. Kanye ukusuka apho baya khona kwaye badibana nabani kwinto ebebenayo kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, abantu bafuna ukwazi yonke into encinci malunga nomntu wabo wakudala. Kodwa mandikuxelele, esi sisimo sengqondo esibi kakhulu. Izinto, njengokujonga imo yabo ye-Facebook kunye nokugcina unxibelelana nabahlobo babo ukuze bazi ukuba baphi, kuya kukwenza ube nomdla ngakumbi kwaye ube likhoboka labo. Ukuba ukhe uzifumane ukwimeko ezinjalo, kuya kufuneka uthathe inyathelo ubuye umva.
Banike ixesha kwaye babazise ukuba baphulukana nantoni ebomini babo ngokungabi nawe ebomini babo. Le yeyona njongo iphambili yomgaqo wokunxibelelana. Ukuba uhlala ushiya isithuba kwi-ex yakho emva koko banokuqonda ukuba bayakukhumbula kangakanani kwaye ekugqibeleni banokufuna ukubuya.
Usenokuzibuza ukuba ucinga ntoni ngexesha lokunxibelelana? Okanye ngaba intombi yakho icinga ngawe okanye akunjalo?
Le yinto enye ekufuneka uyiqonde kwaye ngeli xesha akukho xesha lokunxibelelana, inguwe wedwa, kodwa nesidala sakho siyakukhumbula. Ukulahleka kakhulu ungakhokelela ekubeni bakubize okanye ekugqibeleni babuyele kuwe. Kodwa konke oku kunokwenzeka kuphela xa uyeka ukuhlola kubo.
Ukuzibandakanya kulo naluphi na uhlobo lweziyobisi
Ngeli xesha, abantu baya kutsala ngokulula kwiziyobisi, utywala, njl. Ngapha koko, iya kukwenza ubonakale ubuthathaka. Kufana nokubeka i-band-aid kwisandla esaphukileyo. Musa ukwenza naluphi na ulawulo lweziyobisi kuwe.
Umongo wokungabikho komgaqo wonxibelelwano kukuwusebenzisa njengenkqubo ye-detox ukuze icace nakweyiphi na imimandla engwevu kubudlelwane bakho ne-ex yakho. Ekuqaleni, kuya kuba nzima ukuhlala kude ne-ex yakho kodwa ekugqibeleni, kuya kunika amathuba akho okubuyela kwi-ex yakho. Umzuzu ocinga ukuba uyeke ukunxibelelana ne-ex yakho, uya kufumana imvakalelo engalawulekiyo yokubabiza kwangoko. Kuqhelekile oko. Kodwa into ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba olovakalelo luza kuphuma kukungazithembi kwaye ayingoba uyabathanda. Ke kuya kufuneka uhlale womelele ngeli xesha lokunxibelelana kwaye yazisa umntu wakho wakudala ukuba awubuthathaka ngokwasemphefumlweni. Kwaye yile ndlela unokuzama ngayo ukuba akukho mgaqo woqhakamshelwano ukuze ubuyele ebomini bakho.
Ngaba akukho qhagamshelo lisebenza ngexesha nasemva kokwahlukana komtshato?
Umgaqo wokunxibelelana emtshatweni uhlala unceda abantu abatshatileyo ukulungisa umtshato wabo osilelayo. Oku kungqineke kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokubuyela kumfazi wangaphambili okanye umyeni wangaphambili ngokulula. Kodwa, akukho mthetho wokunxibelelana ngexesha lokwahlukana komtshato okanye akukho mgaqo wonxibelelwano ngexesha loqhawulo mtshato okanye emva kokwahlukana kwahluke ngokupheleleyo. Apha, esi sibini sizama ukuziphilisa, sisuse isidala ebomini baso, kwaye siqhubeke ngeendlela zaso emva koqhawulo-mtshato. Oku kuluncedo xa umtshato waphela kungquzulwano kunye nokuzisola, inkumbulo yayo ibuhlungu ngokufanayo kwaye ingathandekiyo ukuyikhumbula. Ukudibana nendoda okanye umfazi emva koqhawulo mtshato akuthethi ukuba uzama ukubabuyisela ebomini bakho. Endaweni yoko, uzama ukususa ubomi bakho emntwini obangele iintlungu kwaye wazalisa ubomi bakho ngobukrakra.
Kodwa, ukuba unomntwana emtshatweni, ke lo mthetho ungaqhakamshelani emva koqhawulo-mtshato unokubangela iingxaki. Unokuzibuza ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba 'asilandeli mgaqo wonxibelelwano, kodwa sinomntwana?' Kulungile! Impendulo, nokuba ingavakala ingenangqondo kangakanani, kunokwenzeka ukuba ulandele umgaqo woqhakamshelwano kwaye wabelana ngokugcinwa kwabantwana ngaxeshanye.
Xa ungawusebenzisi umgaqo woqhakamshelwano?
Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba akukho Mthetho woQhakamshelwano uvelisa iziphumo ezahlukileyo ngokuxhomekeke ekubeni isetyenziswe kubani - umfana / umyeni okanye intombi / umfazi. Rhoqo, akukho nxibelelwano lubonakalise ukuba sisicwangciso esingasebenziyo xa kuzanywa kwabasetyhini.
Abafazi abazimeleyo abanamava amaninzi ngokwaphuka, kwaye banekratshi lokuzingca kakhulu akunakulindeleka ukuba bachatshazelwe ngumgaqo wokunxibelelana olandelwa ngamakhwenkwe / amadoda abo. Amadoda ngokucacileyo, aya kusabela ngokwahlukileyo kumgaqo wokungafowunelwa. Ke, kuya kufuneka uqonde iqabane lakho kwaye emva koko uthathe isigqibo sokuba uza kuwulandela okanye ungawulandeli lo mthetho ukubabuyisela ebomini bakho.