Umxholo
- Kukuthini ukuxolela ukusondelelana?
- Izifundo esizifundileyo kwizigulana
- Ukuchazwa ngokuchanekileyo kweembali ezintsha zikaTamara
- Isisombululo kule ngxaki ngokubanzi -khulisa ukondla uxolelo
- Izibonelelo ezintathu ezibalulekileyo zokondla uxolelo olusondeleyo
- Zeziphi izakhelo ojonge imeko kuzo?
Amaqabane athambekele ekugxileni kwimvakalelo nangokomzimba xa kufikwa ekukhuthazeni nasekukhuthazeni ukusondelelana. Kubalulekile ukwamkela ububanzi obusondeleyo kunye nokuphonononga iifom ezahlukeneyo ezifaka isandla ekugcineni ubudlelwane obunempilo. Uxolelo nokusondelelana zizinto nje ezimbini. Ukuxolela ukusondelelana kunzulu kakhulu kunokuxolisa komnye nomnye kwaye uthembise ukuba awuyi kuyenza "loo nto" kwakhona.
Kukuthini ukuxolela ukusondelelana?
Ichazwe ngcono njengesibini esiqonda inxeba kubudlelwane, ukuqonda ifuthe lokwenzakala, kunye nokuchonga ukuthatha okuhle kumava okuya kubanceda ukuba bakhule beqhubela phambili.
Ukuba ezo zinto azihloliswanga, into elula ethi “Ndiyaxolisa” inokungabinaziqhamo kwaye inokukuthintela ekubeni ukwazi ukuyeka ingqumbo nokuhlala unomsindo ngenxa yesono esadlulayo.
Izifundo esizifundileyo kwizigulana
NjengeNtsapho yoNyango lweeNtsapho, ndisebenze nezibini ezininzi ezikhethe ukuxolela kwaye zifuna ngokunyanisekileyo ukushiya ixesha elidlulileyo ngaphambili. Bayikhuphile intlungu ebangelwe lulwalamano, bathatha ubunini, baxolisa. Nangona kunjalo, ngumzabalazo wemihla ngemihla ukuba banxulumene namaqabane abo ngokusebenzisa iilensi zangaphambili, nokuba nenkqubela ebonakalayo kunye notshintsho oluqinisekileyo.
Umzekelo -
UMike wayehleli emva kwexesha rhoqo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakhe noTamara. Uya kuba nemizuzu eli-15 ukuya kwengama-20 emva kwexesha ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kunye nezicwangciso, ezibangela ukungqubana okukhulu kunye noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kuTamara.
Ukuqwalasele ukulibaziseka kwakhe njengomzekelo wokungabikho kwembeko kuye kwaye ixhala lakhe liza kuhamba ngomzuzu ngamnye wokulinda. UMike noTamara beza kuchonga ukuba ukufika emva kwexesha kukaMike kunefuthe kwezinye iimeko zobomi bakhe kwaye wayefuna ngokwenene ukusebenza kulawulo lwexesha xa lulonke.
Kubalulekile ukuba ucaciswe malunga neentsingiselo ezindala kunye neentsingiselo ezintsha (ezichanekileyo) eziqhotyoshelwe kwiqabane lakho kunye nolwalamano.
Amabali amadala eza kuTamara ayinto enje, "Akakhathali nokuba ndimlinde ixesha elingakanani," okanye, "Akalihloniphi ixesha lam. Akacingeli kwaye uzicingela yedwa ”, njalo njalo.
Ukuchazwa ngokuchanekileyo kweembali ezintsha zikaTamara
Amabali amatsha athathwe kuTamara ahamba ngathi, "UMike kufuneka aphucule ukulawulwa kwexesha lakhe ngokubanzi kwaye ungumnini wakhe," okanye, "Sobabini siyayiqonda impembelelo yoku kubudlelwane kwaye uMike usebenza ngokukuko ekujonganeni noku, kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo iyaphucuka. ”
Kunokubakho inkqubela phambili ebonakalayo eyenziwa nguMike njengokufika ngexesha lokuba ube yinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa rhoqo, ukuba ufike emva kwemizuzu emi-5, uTamara angaqala ukunxibelelana naye ngeliso lexesha elidlulileyo: “Akalihloniphi ixesha lam. Akakhathali ngam ”ebaleka engqondweni yakhe esandisa ixhala lakhe.
Ukuba uTamara angazibamba ezi ngcinga, kwaye angazenzeli ngokuzenzekelayo njenge "nyaniso," sisiqingatha semfazwe. Injongo ayikukuba "ungaze ube nazo ezi ngcinga okanye ezi mvakalelo." Injongo kukuba nomdla kwaye wazi xa kuvela.
Isisombululo kule ngxaki ngokubanzi -khulisa ukondla uxolelo
Ngokwamkela ukuphindwaphindwa kweengcinga zakudala kunye nokuphonononga ukuba zinokubekwa kwindawo engeyiyo okwangoku, uxolelo olusondeleyo lunokondla kwaye luqiniswe. Ezi "zikhumbuzi" zebali elibi elidlulileyo zinokuzisa iimvakalelo eziluhlaza ezifanelekileyo ngakumbi kwixesha elidlulileyo kodwa ziziva zichanekile ngokupheleleyo ngalo mzuzu.
Ukwabelana ngomngcipheko wakho kunokuba luncedo olukhulu kwaye kukuvumele wena neqabane lakho ukuba nidibanise ngalo mzuzu. Endaweni yokukhwaza nokugxeka uMike xa efika emva kwemizuzu eli-10, uTamara angathi, “Ndiziva ndixhalabile ngendlela ebendiziva ngayo xa ubufike kade. Ndizama ukungathathi buqu okanye ndikuhlasele, kodwa ndinobunzima nangona ubusebenza nzima ngexesha elifanelekileyo. ”
Izibonelelo ezintathu ezibalulekileyo zokondla uxolelo olusondeleyo
- Inika uMike ithuba lokuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zikaTamara (ngaphandle kokuba abe "netyala")
- Inika uMike indawo ekhuselekileyo yokumnika inkxaso ngokwasemoyeni (ngaphandle kokuba abe "lixhoba")
- Ikwavuma ukuba inkqubela phambili yenziwe kwaye ivumela isibini ukuba sinxibelelane ngomzuzu onzima kunye.
Oku kunika isibini ithuba elikhulu lokushiya ityala kunye nokuhlaselwa ngasemva apho kufanelekileyo. Elona candelo lililo kukuba ukuxolela ukusondelelana ayisiyonto ekufuneka ulwe wedwa okanye ewela emagxeni omntu omnye.
Ukubeka ixesha elidlulileyo ngendlela efanelekileyo njengeqela ngumba ophambili.
Zeziphi izakhelo ojonge imeko kuzo?
Ncedanani ngaphandle ukuba kubonakala ngathi nizibeke endaweni engalunganga iiglasi ezinceda ukuba nikwazi ukubona, ukuthandana nokunxibelelana okwangoku. Ukusebenza kunye ukwazisa la maxesha kwaye uqaphele isipho soxolelo kubudlelwane bakho kuya kuphola amanxeba amadala kwaye kukuvumela ukuba udlule ngaphaya kwe-hiccups ngesandla-ngesandla.