Umxholo
- 1. Lwamkele utshintsho
- 2. Sukuziva ukonganyelwa
- 3. Khathalela impilo yakho
- 4. Nxibelelana nabanye oomama abatsha
- 5. Ukuzinza kwisiqhelo esiqhelekileyo
- 6. Veza kubuzali
- 7. Ungalibali iqabane lakho
Ayinamsebenzi into yokuba iincwadi zokuba ngumzali zixelela ntoni okanye uve ntoni kwabanye abazali, unyaka wakho wokuqala njengomzali unokuvula amehlo ngokwenene.
Ubomi bakho buya kutshintsha ngokupheleleyo-umzimba wakho, izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka, ubudlelwane bakho buvele, nto leyo eyenza unyaka wakho wokuqala njengomzali ungonwabi nje kuphela kodwa uyadinisa.
Ukongezwa kwelungu elitsha losapho ngumnyhadala wolonwabo, kodwa kunokuba noxinzelelo kubazali bobabini. Unyaka wakho wokuqala njengomzali ukuvumela ukuba ufezekise uninzi lweempawu zakho zophuhliso ngelixa ulungelelanisa imiba yomtshato, uxinzelelo lomsebenzi, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu kukulala.
Ekupheleni konyaka wokuqala, uyakuqonda ukuba nokuba bekunzima kangakanani na kulo nyaka, ukoneliseka kokufezekisa into ebaluleke kakhulu kwenza ukuba konke kulunge.
1. Lwamkele utshintsho
Iinyanga zokuqala zonyaka wokuqala wokuba ngumzali ziya kuba zezona zinzima. Ishedyuli yakho ngokucacileyo ayizukuhlala injalo kwaye isiphithiphithi siya koyisa.
Iya kuba nzima ukwenza izinto ezininzi obukade uzenza ngaphambili kodwa ziya kubakho izinto ezininzi ezinokwenzeka kuwe. Lwamkela olu tshintsho lutsha kwaye ungalibali ukuzixabisa wena neqabane lakho ngokulawula olu tshintsho kunye nomqulu wakho omncinci wovuyo.
2. Sukuziva ukonganyelwa
Sukuba nexhala ukuba indlu yakho imdaka okanye awunawo amandla okupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa. Kufuneka uphumle kwaye uzame ukuba ungenzi yonke into ngokwakho.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuzikhathalela wena nosana lwakho.
Ezinye izinto ezinokukunceda uhlale usempilweni kwiinyanga ezintathu zokuqala - lala xa umntwana wakho elele. Kubalulekile ukuba uphumle ngokwaneleyo ukuze unakekele umntwana kwaye wenze yonke imisebenzi ejongene nendlu.
3. Khathalela impilo yakho
Ngexesha lonyaka wokuqala wokuba ngumzali, khathalela ukutya okutyayo kuba ufuna amandla wokwenza wonke umsebenzi owongezelelweyo. Kananjalo, boomama, niyayifuna yonke loo nto yesondlo sokuncancisa.
Musa ukuhlala uvalekile endlwini. Yiya epakini okanye kwivenkile njengoko utshintsho lwendawo luyakwenza imimangaliso kuwe.
Lwamkele uncedo kwizalamane, kubahlobo, okanye kubamelwane. Ukuba bafuna ukugcina umntwana, ukunceda ukucoca indlu, okanye ukunika ukutya, soloko uthi ewe.
4. Nxibelelana nabanye oomama abatsha
Ngexesha lonyaka wokuqala wokuba ngumzali, kuya kuba luncedo ukuba unxibelelana nabanye oomama abatsha okanye ootata njengoko kunokuthuthuzela kakhulu ukuthetha nabazali abakwimeko efanayo. Kuyanceda ukufumanisa ukuba awuwedwa.
La maqhinga aya kunceda ukulwa nokutshintsha kwemozulu oza kuba nayo. Nangona eli lelona xesha lonwabisayo nolwanelisayo kubomi babazali abatsha, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nexhala, ukulila nokudakumba.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba 'i-baby blues,' ebangelwa kukuhla kwamanqanaba e-estrogen, inokuchaphazela ama-50% abasetyhini kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva kokuba bezele.
Nangona kunjalo, ezi blues zihlala zinyamalala emva kwenyanga emva kokubeleka xa uncelisa. Ukuncancisa kunceda ukunciphisa iziphumo zokutshintsha kwehomoni.
5. Ukuzinza kwisiqhelo esiqhelekileyo
Ngexesha umntwana eneenyanga ezintandathu ubudala, uninzi lwabasetyhini lubuyile emisebenzini yabo okanye ubuncinci besiya kwilizwe lokwenyani kwakhona ngokuya ejimini kunye nokufezekisa ezinye izibophelelo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ufumane ukhathalelo olunesidima ingakumbi ukuba usebenza ngokusisigxina. Nje ukuba waneliswe ngumgcini-mntwana wakho, unokulula emsebenzini wakho ngokuqala kwishedyuli eguqukayo okanye elula. Cacisa wonke umntu ukuba nangona uzimisele ukutsala ubunzima bakho, uya kufumaneka kuphela ngaphakathi kweeyure ezisetiweyo.
Ngeli xesha awunyanzelekanga ukuba usebenze ixesha elide okanye uthathe izabelo ezongezelelweyo ukuze ixesha lakho lokuba kude nosana lwakho lubonakale ngathi alunasiphelo.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, zikhathalele njengoko uninzi lwee-moms ezisebenzayo zihlala zingazihoyi. Bahlala besitya xa behamba, balale kancinci, kwaye abafane benze umthambo. Olu xinzelelo lunokuthatha umthwalo.
Into efanayo iyasebenza kootata abatsha.
6. Veza kubuzali
Umntwana wakho ngoku uneenyanga ezintandathu ubudala.
Nangona isiqingatha sesibini sonyaka wakho wokuqala njengomzali sinokuthula kakhulu kunesiqingatha sokuqala, usenokufumana intloko yakho ijikeleza ngalo lonke utshintsho lwamva nje ebomini bakho. Lixesha lokuba ubuyele ekujikeni kwezinto ngoku.
Zama ukuphinda uqhagamshele kunye nabahlobo ongakhange uve kubo mva nje kuba ukugcina olu lwalamano lukhethekileyo lunokunceda ukutyebisa ubomi bakho.
Yenza ixesha lemisebenzi oyithandayo ngaphambi kokuba ube nosana lwakho. Hlamba, yima kwivenkile yakho oyithandayo yekofu, ndwendwela imyuziyam, okanye ufunde incwadi. Oku kuya kukunceda uphumle kwaye uzive uhlaziyekile.
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7. Ungalibali iqabane lakho
Ukuba ngabazali kunokubangela iinguqu ezithile zenyikima kubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba ukhathazekile malunga nokondla ixesha kunye nokutshintsha amanabukeni endaweni yokuphuma uye kufumana isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi, kodwa unokungazifumani kwimo yencoko enentsingiselo, kungasathethwa ke ngokwenza uthando kunye neqabane lakho.
Ukuze uzive usabelana ngesondo nangokwasemoyeni kunye neqabane lakho, veza "ixesha elithile". Phuma ngemihla kwaye ucwangcise ngesondo ngokunjalo. Sukuba nexhala lokuphulukana nokuzithemba. Unokuzifumana ulindele ixesha elimnandi eniza kulichitha kunye.