Umxholo
- Ngaba uyazi ukuba ndithetha ukuthini ngomphefumlo?
- Ukufumanisa ubudlelwane bakho nesiqu sakho
- Ukophula ukungunda kwenkqubo yakho edlulileyo
- Ukufuna ubungangamsha bakho nokulunga kwakho
- Ukukrwela okulele phantsi kwesithunzi sakho
- Yiba ngumyili oyintloko wobomi bakho
- Yiba nguwe, ke umphefumlo wakho uyakuqonda xa udibana
Ngeminyaka eyi-40, bendingazi ukuba ndiza kufumana umphefumlo wam, kodwa ndenza njalo. Kwiminyaka elishumi kamva umtshato wethu usonwabile kwaye ugcinwe ngomlingo njengalo nyaka wokuqala.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba ndithetha ukuthini ngomphefumlo?
I-Soulmate ngumntu othi ngenxa yothando olunzulu- kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ubunzima obunzulu-asikhuthaze ukuba sinyaniseke ngakumbi.
Umzekelo, siza kujikeleza ekhitshini kusasa, senze ikofu, sijonge iifowuni zethu, kwaye sibambe amehlo omnye nomnye. Siyema kwaye sijonge nzulu omnye komnye, buthule sibulela uThixo ngokuba siyifumene enye.
Siza kuhlala sineenyembezi xa sitshintshisana ngombulelo onzulu. Siyawolana, siphuze kancinci, sithathe uphando nangakumbi ngemiphefumlo yomnye nomnye, kwaye sithethe ngeentliziyo zethu: "Ndiyakukhumbula."
Phantse yonke into endiyiphuphileyo, kodwa hayi. Ngalo lonke olo lonwabo onokulucela, ndingayithetha njani into enjalo, akunjalo?
Ukufumanisa ubudlelwane bakho nesiqu sakho
Njengabantu abaninzi, ndikhule ndicinga ukuba ukufumana iqabane eligqibeleleyo, indoda elungileyo, umphefumlo wam, uya 'kundigqibezela'.
Kwaye, kumanqanaba amaninzi iziva ngathi, Kodwa, inyani kukuba akukho mntu ungaphandle kwam, nditsho noMlingane wam, onokuthi azalise isithuba esikhoyo ngaphakathi. Inokuzaliswa kuphela kukufumanisa isiqu sam sokwenyani.
Mandicace, umyeni wam uyiyo yonke loo nto. Uyindoda emangalisayo kuwo onke amanqanaba. Unyanisekile kwaye unobubele, ubukrelekrele kwaye uyile, ushushu, unothando, unesisa, onomphefumlo. Ndingaqhubeka. Kwaye okwangoku, ndafumanisa ukuba ngaphandle kwayo yonke le nto ayikazalisekisi ulangazelelo olunzulu olwalukho ngaphakathi kwam.
Ixesha elingaphezulu, into endiyifundileyo kukuba bendizifuna.
Ukophula ukungunda kwenkqubo yakho edlulileyo
Umyeni wam omhle uncede, ngokuqinisekileyo. Ubonelela ngokusondeleyo kuthando olungenamiqathango njengoko ndikholelwa ukuba kunokwenzeka kubomi bethu banamhlanje. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane buqinile, ndaziva ndinenkululeko engummangaliso yokuzihlola nokwandisa imimandla emitsha, ndiphinde ndizibuyisele ngaphakathi ngaphakathi.
Ummangaliso kukuba ndiyenzile kubudlelwane bam obuzinikeleyo-into eyam inkqubo eyadlulayo yayicacile!
Kodwa into ebendingayazi ngeloxesha kukuba ebomini bam bonke bendinomnqweno ongaphakathi kwaye onzulu "wokuzazi". Okwam okwenyani, Thixo wam. Unjingalwazi wam uGqirha Mary Hulnick ukubiza oku "ngumnqweno ongcwele." Ndiphantsi nje kokungaqondi ukuba inokufumaneka kuphela kwiqabane, ngaphandle kwam.
Ukufuna ubungangamsha bakho nokulunga kwakho
Into endiyifundileyo lolu hambo yile: sonke silapha sifuna ubungangamsha bethu, uzuko lwethu, nokulunga kwethu. Sikhangela iintlantsi zobuThixo esinguye. Sinqwenela ukubona ubuThixo bethu, impilo yethu yonke, ubungangamsha bethu.
Amaqabane ethu anokugcina indawo kwaye abonakalise oko kuthi, kodwa ulangazelelo olungcwele, olu luvo lunzulu lonxibelelwano kunye nothando olugqithisileyo sonke, yile nto siyifunayo. Inokufunyanwa kuphela ngaphakathi. Kwaye, inokubonakaliswa kwenye xa sele ifunyenwe kuthi.
Ukukrwela okulele phantsi kwesithunzi sakho
Kuphi ngaphakathi kwethu, unokubuza? Ukungena ngokukhuselekileyo phantsi kwenkqubo kunye nokulandelwa kwento abanye abayibiza ngokuba sisithunzi sethu. Apha ngezantsi komphezulu 'wokwenza-nokwenza-nokwenza-ugqithiso' ukuzama ukuqinisekisa ubukho bethu.
Emva kwemaski sinxiba ukubukeka ngcono, ukuzama ngakumbi, ukuqhubeka. Ngaphantsi kwentsalela yeemvakalelo zokuba ngabantu sihlala sizifumana sibhukuda sijikeleza.
Kodwa omnye umaleko obaluleke ngakumbi phantsi kwayo yonke le nto nguwe.
Qhubeka umba. Kukho ubunyani bakho. Inxalenye ephezulu yakho. Undoqo wakho.
Kwaye oku kubalulekile kuyafana nokuhamba okuthandabuzekayo kothando. Yinyaniso yokuba ungubani.
Uthando. Kwaye loo nyaniso, inguwe, yile nto uyifunayo.
Yiba ngumyili oyintloko wobomi bakho
Ayikho emsebenzini okanye emotweni okanye endlwini okanye kwikhondo lomsebenzi. Akunjalo nakubantwana bakho. Kwaye ndilapha ukuze ndibelane ngamava okuqala, akukho nakwiSoulmate yakho.
Ndiphila ubomi obunomtsalane nobusikelelekileyo. Ndingumyili oyintloko wayo kwaye umthombo wam onzulu wombulelo kunye novuyo luyaphuphuma kukwazi ukuba ndikwazile ukwenza oku kufunyanwa ngam ngaphakathi kwesikhongozeli sobudlelwane obungumtshato wam. Inike ukhuseleko kunye nokwamkelwa ekwamkeleni apho ndivavanya khona. Indinike inkululeko yokufaka umbala ngaphandle kwemigca endicinga ukuba ndingubani.
Yiba nguwe, ke umphefumlo wakho uyakuqonda xa udibana
Ukuba uphume kwihlabathi ukhangela iSoulmate yakho, thatha umoya. Beka isandla sakho entliziyweni yakho kwaye wazi ukuba ufuna ntoni ngokwenene. Ukuba uxakeke kakhulu uzama ukufumana iSoulmate yakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyakukhumbula.
Fumana oyinyani-kwaye emva koko, hamba uye ehlabathini, ukuze iSoulmate yakho ikubone xa udibana.