Umxholo
- Umcimbi webhayoloji
- Uxinzelelo, ukusinda, kunye neemvakalelo
- Inkumbulo zokusinda
- Ukwamkela ngokugqibeleleyo
Njengabantu, sonke sinqwenela ukuziva sithandwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Ukuziva ngathi silungile ngokwaneleyo njengoko sinjalo.
Xa sidibana 'nalowo,' sikhwela phezulu kwiimvakalelo zokuba umntu esiva ukuba umangalisa kakhulu ubona into efanelekileyo kuthi.
Thina (okwexeshana) siyabamkela ngaphandle kwemeko. Asiziboni iimpazamo okanye ukungafezeki.
Emva kwexesha elifutshane, ilifu lokuvuya linyuka. Izinto ezincinci ziqala ukusikhathaza malunga nomnye, kwaye iimvakalelo zokungoneliseki ziye zithi chu kubudlelwane bethu.
Eli nqaku lichaza indlela, ngokuzazi nokuzamkeleka, onokuthi uhlakulele okanye ufumane ukonwaba ebomini ngokwenza inzame zokulawula iimpendulo zomzimba wakho ngokwengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kubudlelwane bakho.
Umcimbi webhayoloji
Uvuyo esivakalelwa ngalo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane sisiphumo sokuhamba kwexesha elifutshane kwehomoni kunye nemichiza eyenzelwe ukuqinisekisa ukuba iintlobo zethu ziyaphila.
Ezi hormone zisigcina sitsala omnye komnye. Zinefuthe kwiimvakalelo zethu nakwiingcinga zethu, yiyo loo nto sibona i-idiosyncrasies ezithile njengezithandekayo kwezi nyanga zokuqala kodwa kamva zibacaphukise.
Njengombandela wokugcina iintlobo ziphila, ezi "thando zemichiza" zigcina ezo ziqheleke kakhulu, kunye neengcinga zokuzibona zithe cwaka okwethutyana.
Kodwa nje ukuba imizimba yethu ibuyele kwimeko ekuyiyo, sishiywa sihamba kuluhlu lweemvakalelo zabantu eziva kunzima kuthi kwaye zisenza sizive singazinzanga.
Sonke siqhelene neemvakalelo zokuba netyala okanye ukuziva sinoxanduva, kunye nobunzima esifubeni obuhamba nayo.
Phantse wonke umntu uyazi imvakalelo yokugula emhadini wesisu ehamba neentloni. Ukutsha okubomvu okutshisayo esifubeni sethu xa siziva sinomsindo okanye inzondo nako kungathandekiyo.
Asifuni ukuziva ezi zinto, kwaye sijonga kwimithombo engaphandle ukuze sizenze zihambe kwaye zisincede "sizive ngcono."
Rhoqo, sithembele kumaqabane ethu ukuba abe ngumthombo wentuthuzelo yethu kwaye sibe nomsindo xa besilela okanye "ingunobangela" weemvakalelo zethu kwasekuqaleni.
Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokunqongophala kokuzazi, into uninzi lwabantu olungayiqondiyo kukuba ezi mvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zomzimba ezihamba nazo ziinkumbulo zokwenyani.
Oko kukuthi, kwakudala xa sasidibaniswa nabanakekeli bethu yayingumcimbi wobomi kunye nokufa, umzimba wethu wafunda ukuphendula nakuphi na ukungonwabi, ukwaliwa, ukuphoxeka, okanye ukunqamka kubaboneleli ngenkathalo.
Ezi zihlandlo zokunqunyulwa okubonakalayo kunye neempendulo zomzimba wethu ziyakhunjulwa kwaye zikhunjulwe njengomcimbi wokuphila. Kodwa uxinzelelo lunxulumene nantoni neemvakalelo?
Uxinzelelo, ukusinda, kunye neemvakalelo
Xa umzimba usebenze impendulo yoxinzelelo, Ikwathumela iihomoni kunye namachiza amayeza emzimbeni, kodwa zohluke kakhulu kunalezo zimpontshelwe emzimbeni wethu xa sithandana.
Aba bathunywa beemolekyuli bathunyelwe ngempendulo yokusinda kwaye badala ukungonwabi kwimizimba yethu eyilelwe ukubonisa umngcipheko kunye nokuqala isenzo sokusindisa ubomi bethu-oko kukuthi, ukulwa okanye ukubaleka.
Kodwa kwimeko yobuntwana, xa ezi mpendulo zifunyanwa kuqala kwaye zikhunjulwa, asinakwenza nto, ke siyabanda, endaweni yoko, siyaziguqula.
Inkqubo yohlengahlengiso ngamava omntu kwindalo iphela.
Iqala kwelona xesha lobomi, iluncedo kuthi kwixesha elifutshane (emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba utata usixelele ukuba singalili okanye asinike into esizokhala ngayo, sifunde ukuyifunxa), kodwa ixesha elide, kudala iingxaki.
Isiseko soku kukuphendula ngoxinzelelo lwe-neurobiological, eyinxalenye yephakheji yokusebenza esisiseko esizalelwe kuyo (kanye kanye nokubetha kwentliziyo yethu, ukusebenza kwemiphunga yethu, kunye nenkqubo yethu yokwetyisa).
Ngelixa ukuvuselelwa kwale mpendulo kuzenzekelayo (nangaliphi na ixesha ibona ingozi okanye isoyikiso), impendulo yethu kweso siphumo iyafundwa kwaye ikhunjulwe.
Inkumbulo zokusinda
Ngalo lonke ixesha lobuntwana ukuya ebudaleni, iimpendulo zomzimba wethu ezifundileyo kwingozi ebonakalayo yingozi eqala ukudibana neengqondo zethu (njengoko bekhula).
Ke, yintoni eqala njengempendulo elula yokuvuselela / ye-neurobiological (cinga ngesirhubuluzi esothukileyo esibaleka siye kuzimela), sithatha iingcinga zokuzigxeka nokuzigxeka apha endleleni, ezifundwayo kwaye zikhunjulwe- kwaye zikwathetha ukugcina ezinye imo yokhuseleko ngendlela yolawulo.
Umzekelo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, kuya kusiba sengozini yokuthatha isigqibo sokuba asithandeki kunokuthembela ukuba siziva kwaye sithandwa kwaye sibanzi. Cinga ngezi nkumbulo zomzimba wobuntwana njengebhotile yemabhile eluhlaza.
Ngexesha lokuba sibadala, kwaye uvuyo lothando olutsha luyaphela, sishiyeke sinesitya esipheleleyo semabhule eluhlaza (siphelelwe lixesha kwaye singaphantsi kweenkumbulo zomzimba eziluncedo).
Umntu ngamnye kubudlelane uzisa ingqayi epheleleyo ye-visceral / imvakalelo / ingcinga ephelelwe lixesha iinkumbulo kubudlelwane.
Umbono kukudala ukuziqonda ngakumbi kwaye uhambelane ngakumbi noko siziva kwaye kutheni sivakalelwa njalo.
Ukwamkela ngokugqibeleleyo
Ukuziqhelanisa nokwamkeleka ngokupheleleyo kuqala ngokuzazi ngakumbi okanye ukuzazisa.
Oko kukuthi unokulufumana ulonwabo ngokuzazi ngokwamkela into eyenzekayo emzimbeni wakho ngalo mzuzu.
Cinga ngexesha apho waziva uloyiko, uxanduva, iintloni, okanye inzondo malunga neqabane lakho okanye ulwalamano.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba inento yokwenza nokuziva ungamkelwa, okanye ungaqondwa kakuhle, okanye ungathandwa okanye wenze into engalunganga okanye udidekile kwaye ubanzi ngokubanzi.
Kuyavunywa, onke la maxesha azive onwabile. Kodwa ebuntwaneni, umzimba waphendula ngealam ukuba ubomi bethu busemngciphekweni.
Ke, xa iqabane lakho livakalisa ukungoneliseki yinto mhlawumbi ebekade iliso elingenatyala, iinkumbulo ezisemizimbeni yethu zibiza iqela elisindisa ubomi (ezo hormone kunye nezinto eziphilayo ezenza imvakalelo yomzimba engathandekiyo).
Ngokwazi ngokwethu indlela oku kusebenza ngayo, sinokuba namava amatsha, enza iinkumbulo ezintsha (masithi yimabhule eluhlaza) ukubuyisela ezindala.
Oku kunokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba unolwalamano olutsha kunye neemvakalelo ezinzima zomzimba, iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo.
Ukwamkelwa ngokuzimeleyo yimveliso yokuhlangana rhoqo kunye nomzuzu ngamnye ngale ndlela intsha, ukumiswa kwesigwebo, kunye nokukwazi ukunqumama ngaphambi kokuphendula.
Ukuphuhlisa le mbono intsha, kufuneka sizibophelele ekugxileni kwiimvakalelo emizimbeni yethu kwaye siyamkele njengememori (imabhile eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka).
Akukho mfuneko yokukhumbula nantoni na; ngokukodwa, kwanele ukuvuma ukuba umzimba wakho uyakhumbula, kwaye uphendula ngememori yakudala-ngokungathi ubomi bakho busemngciphekweni.
Imvakalelo zomzimba esiziva ukuba ayingonobangela wokubandezeleka komntu. Ukubandezeleka kudalwa ziingcinga ezisezingqondweni zethu.
Kungenxa yoko le nto xa samkela iimvakalelo zokuba ziyintoni-indlela yokuphendula kwethu nge-neurobiological, sinokuqala ukubhenca ukubandezeleka kwethu.
Sinokuvuma ukuba iingcinga zethu ziyafundwa kwaye zikhunjulwe impendulo engasasebenziyo kuthi (inxalenye yeblue marble jar yethu).
Xa siziqhelanisa nokuzamkela ngokwethu, sinamava amatsha, kwaye la mava matsha enza iingcinga ezintsha nezinomdla ngakumbi nezinovelwano.
Ngalo lonke ixesha sisenza oku, senza imemori entsha (ibhastile eluhlaza) yengqayi yethu.
Oku kuthatha ixesha, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha njengoko ingqayi yethu yememori igcwele ngakumbi ngamabhastile aluhlaza (amatsha), ukufikelela kwimpendulo entsha / ehlaziyiweyo iya isanda ngokuzenzekelayo.
Ubomi bethu buziva bungaphantsi ubunzima, siziva sizithembile kwaye somelele, kwaye ubudlelwane bethu bunempembelelo entle kuba asisakhangeli iimpendulo ngaphandle kwethu.
Ukuba uyazibophelela ekuhlangabezaneni nomzuzu ngamnye ngale ndlela intsha, iya kongeza kutshintsho oluhlala luhleli. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba wenze ikhefu phakathi kwempendulo yomzimba wakho kunye neengcinga zakho (ezizenzekelayo) kunye nezenzo.
Enye yeendlela eziluncedo kakhulu zokwenza ukuba unqumame kukongeza indlela elula ebomini bakho ngalo lonke ixesha uziva uxinezelekile. Ndibonelele ngento enye apha ngezantsi:
Ngexesha elizayo xa uxabana neqabane lakho, okanye uziva ubanzi, ungaqondwa kakuhle, okanye uxanduva lweemvakalelo zeqabane lakho zama oku kulandelayo:
- Thetha ngqo emzimbeni wakho, uwuxelele ukuba oku kuyinyani (umzimba ukuxelela ukuba ubomi bakho busemngciphekweni), kodwa ayisiyonyani leyo.
- Thatha ubuncinane imiphunga eyishumi yokuphefumla njengoko kuyalelwe apha: phefumla ngeempumlo zakho kwaye uve isifuba sakho kunye nesisu sakho sifutha. Nqumama. Khupha impumlo yakho, uziva isifuba sakho kunye nokuhla kwesisu. Nqumama.
- Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ingqondo yakho iyabhadula, jonga amanani (cinga isitayile seSesame Street) entlokweni yakho kwaye ubale ushiye kwishumi uye kwelinye emphefumlweni.
- Zibophelele ekungenzi nto de inkqubo yomzimba wakho yehle, kwaye ingqondo yakho izive igxile kwaye isiseko.
Ixesha elingaphezulu, ingqayi yakho iya kugcwaliswa ngeemabula ezintsha zememori, kwaye ungaqhubeka nokunceda abo ubathandayo ukuba bafumane inkululeko entsha njengawe.
Ukuzazi linyathelo lokuqala lokufumana ulwaneliseko, ekuhambeni kwexesha kungakhokelela ekwamkelweni ngokwakho, oko kusinceda ukuba sonwabe ngakumbi ebomini bethu.