Umxholo
Umtshato ngumanyano oluhle phakathi kwabantu ababini, kodwa ngothando oluhlala lusanda. Njengomtshato wabantu ababini abatshintshela ekuqaleni kosapho, kubalulekile ukuba iyunithi ihlale kunye. Ukuba kukho imicimbi yomtshato okanye iingxaki ekhaya, kubalulekile ukuba ayisiyiyo kuphela isibini esifumana isikhokelo, kodwa nosapho luphela, ngokunjalo.
Ungabona “uLuleko ngeNtsapho” kwaye ucinge ukuba iluncedo kuphela xa usapho lusengxakini, kodwa lunokusetyenziswa nokuba imeko injani na yosapho. Masithathe imizuzu embalwa kwaye sijonge ukuba iyintoni na injongo yokuba neengcebiso malunga nosapho, kwaye ke ezinye zezibonelelo zokuchitha ixesha, imali kunye namandla kumcebisi wosapho lwakho.
Yintoni icounselling kusapho?
Ukucebisa kusapho yindlela yokucebisa eyilelwe ngokukodwa ukujolisa kunye nokuphucula iindawo ezithile ezenza usapho lube namandla. Unokubona umcebisi wosapho ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Ukuba umntwana wakho wayenemicimbi yokuziphatha, umcebisi wosapho unokuba yindawo yokuqala yokufuna uncedo. Ukuba umntu othile kusapho lwakho wayenomhlaza okanye enye imeko enzima yonyango, unokufuna uncedo kumcebisi wosapho ukunceda ukuxhasa usapho luphela ngeli xesha linzima.
Ngamafutshane, ingcebiso kusapho isetyenziselwa ukuxhasa impilo yengqondo, yemvakalelo kunye neyasemzimbeni yeyunithi yosapho. Nokuba inceda usapho ukuba luqhubeke emva kwentlekele okanye luhlale lomelele kumntu othile, umcebisi wosapho uqeqeshelwe ukwenza nantoni na abanokuyenza ukwenza indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuphilisa.
Kwenziwa njani?
Zininzi iindlela ezinokuthathwa ngumcebisi wosapho, ezinye zithandwa ngakumbi kunabanye.
- Indlela yeBowenian: Le ndlela ibekwe endaweni yabo balwa neemeko zosapho lwabo kodwa abafuni ukubandakanya onke amalungu. Kunzima ukwenza ukuba wonke umntu avume ukuhlala phantsi kwaye asebenze nomcebisi, ke le ndlela ivumela nabani na ukuba angene kwaye ajonge kuncedo abalufumanayo malunga neyunithi yosapho. Nangona le ndlela ingalunganga kuba wonke umntu akekho kulo msebenzi wenziwayo, ivumela umntu lowo ukuba afumane umbono kwiqela lesithathu. Amaxesha amaninzi le ndlela yokucebisa usapho isebenza kakhulu ngendlela umntu asabela ngayo ebantwini nakwiimeko zosapho.
- Indlela yolwakhiwo: Le ndlela ijolise ekwakheni isiseko esiqinileyo kusapho olusengxakini. Endaweni yokuchitha ixesha ejongana nezinto ezenziwayo ngoku, umcebisi uya kujonga emva kwiziseko zosapho kwaye abone into enokuhlengahlengiswa ukunqanda ukonzakala kosapho kwixa elizayo.
- Indlela yenkqubo: Ngale ndlela, umcebisi wosapho uya kujonga kwiindlela zokuziphatha kunye nokunxibelelana kwamalungu osapho kwaye azame ukukhupha ezinye zeentlungu ezifihlakeleyo emva kwezo zenzo. Amaxesha amaninzi sithetha kwaye senza izinto kubantu abasondeleyo kuthi kwaye asazi ukuba kutheni. Ngendlela yenkqubo, umcebisi wenza konke okusemandleni ukwenza ukuba iingqaqambo zingabikho zingqondweni ukuze zisebenze.
Ziziphi iinzuzo?
Zininzi izibonelelo ezikhoyo kuyo yonke indlela yokufumana iingcebiso kusapho, kodwa iyonke inzuzo ilula: imeko ephucukileyo yosapho.
Ukuba ilungu elithile losapho linobunzima ngokwenene kwindlela umama wabo abaphatha ngayo, indlela yaseBowenian iya kubavumela ukuba bathethe nomntu ongaphandle kosapho malunga noku kunxibelelana. Ukuba umntu uzama ukuya kumama-aphethwe kakubi ngu-ngezo nkxalabo, ngekhe afike kude. Ngokwazi ukuphuma kumcebisi malunga nayo kwaye emva koko ufumane uqeqesho ngendlela yokusabela ngokwahlukileyo kwizenzo zikamama, umntwana angadala uxolo ngakumbi ekhaya.
Ukuba usapho lusokoliswa yinto yokuba omnye wabantwana enesifo somhlaza, indlela yenkqubo inokujonga ukungazazi okukuko kweso sigulo. Mhlawumbi utata uyabagxotha abanye abantwana bakhe kuba efuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba lowo unomhlaza ukhathalelwe. Mhlawumbi abanye abantwana banenzondo kuba bafuna ukusondela kutata wabo, nabo. Yonke le nto yokungaziboni nokungaziphathi kakuhle inokuziswa ekukhanyeni kweengcebiso malunga nosapho.
Ukuba usapho ludibana notshintsho ngequbuliso kumandla nakwimbeko ekhayeni, indlela yoLwakhiwo inokuba yindlela yokutyhila ezinye zezimanga. Umcebisi wosapho unokujonga kwimbali yosapho, iinkolelo zabo kunye nendlela abasebenza ngayo kwaye baqale ukukroba umaleko. Emva kokwenza lo msebenzi okwethutyana, banokwazi ukutyhila apho usapho luthathe khona ujikelo olungelulo kwaye bancede iyunithi ukuba ibuyele kwindlela elungileyo.
Isiphelo
Nokuba yeyiphi na imicimbi yosapho ehlangabezana nayo, ukufumana umcebisi oza kunceda uhambe kuloo mlilo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Indlela yabo ejolise kuyo kunye namava abo anokunceda ukusombulula imibimbi ethi iziswe naluphina usapho etafileni. Iimbono zabo zizodwa ziya kunceda ukukhanyisa kwiindawo ezingaboniyo ezingasoze zibonwe lusapho.
Lutyalo mali olufanelekileyo lwexesha lakho namandla akho, nokuba usapho lwakho lude kangakanani kuhambo lwabo.