Ukulingana ligama elisetyenziswe kakuhle kuLwimi lwesiNgesi. Sonke sifuna ukulingana kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu. Ngokwenyani, sikhangela into elungileyo nelungelo lomntu wonke. Iimfuneko zethu zibaluleke njengaye nabani na. Umntu ngamnye kufanelekile ukuba onwabe kwaye anelise iimfuno zakhe. Nabani na okholelwa ngenye indlela uthatha amalungelo omnye umntu ngokungekho sikweni. Ukulingana, ubulungisa, kunye nobulungisa zonke ezi zinto ziyaxhasana.
Ke iyondla njani le nto kumxholo wobudlelwane. Njengokuba bendicebisa kwaye ndiqeqesha izibini ngentambo efanayo kukuba ukulingana / imbeko sisiseko okanye isiseko sayo yonke ubudlelwane obomeleleyo, bokukhulisa. Ukuba iqabane libona elinye lilingana, kuyakubakho imbeko. Ukuba kukho ukunqongophala kwembeko, oku kuya kukhokelela ekubeni omnye okanye abantu abaninzi baphathe kakubi omnye rhoqo.
Ukuba umntu omnye unamandla ngakumbi kubudlelwane abayi kufuna ukushiya isikhundla sabo ngaphandle kokuba kukho into abanokuyizuza. Ke kukho ukujikeleza. Singaqinisekisa njani ukuba umntu oqhele ukukhawulelana neemfuno zakhe kuqala uvumela iimfuno zomnye umntu ukuba zihlangatyezwe ngaphambili okanye endaweni yezazo?
Ezinye izibonelelo zezi:
- Iqabane lakho liya kukulungela ngakumbi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho zomzimba / zeemvakalelo mihla le
- Umntu otyhalelwa ezantsi akazukuvuya okanye aneliseke. Ngaba uyafuna ukuhlala nomntu okhathazekileyo, odandathekileyo, oxinezelekileyo okanye onomsindo ixesha elininzi?
- Ukuhlala uxinzelelo kubudlelwane kungakhokelela kwimicimbi yezempilo.
Izibini ezininzi ezinemicimbi kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla ziphikisana ngokwenene ukuba zeziphi na iimfuno ekufuneka zihlangatyeziwe. Ngokwenyani, bobabini abantu kubudlelwane bafanelekile ukuba iimfuno zabo zifezekiswe kwaye umceli mngeni kukuba zingadibana njani iimfuno zomntu wonke xa ezinye zingqubana ngqo. Kunzima ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuthatha oku ukuba ukulingana, ubulungisa, kunye nobulungisa azisetyenziswanga xa kugqitywa ukuba yeyiphi na imfuno ehlangatyezwayo kwaye yeyiphi eyona nto iphambili. Lo ngumsebenzi wabo bobabini amaqabane, hayi umntu onamandla ngakumbi kubudlelwane.
Ndiyakukhuthaza ukuba ujonge ngokunyanisekileyo ubudlelwane bakho kwaye uzibuze le mibuzo:
- Ngaba ufumanisa ukuba uyalwa / uphikisana rhoqo kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni?
- Ngaba enye yam ebalulekileyo yonwabile okanye izalisekisiwe?
- Ngaba ndiziva silingana? Ukuba akunjalo, kutheni?
- Ukuba ukulingana kuyasilela, unokwenza ntoni ukutshintsha oku?
Uthando olungondliwayo kwaye lutyiswe rhoqo luza kuqala lutshabalale .. luze luphele ... luze luphele ... kude kubekho ukwahlukana okukhulu kubudlelwane. Umntu akanakho kwaye akufuneki abeke ecaleni ZONKE iimfuno zabo ukuze omnye umntu aphile ubomi babo obulungileyo.
Kuthatha umsebenzi ukwenza ubudlelwane bume ukuvavanywa kwexesha. Ulungelelanisa kangakanani nabanye bakho abalulekileyo ngemini eya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba ubudlelwane buhlala ixesha elingakanani. Unamandla okulawula indlela obusempilweni ngayo ubudlelwane bakho.