Umxholo
Yinyani. Akufuneki kube nzima kakhulu ukuyamkela kuba iyinyani epheleleyo.
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Sisiphi esona sizathu sokuqala soku?
Kule minyaka ingama-30 idlulileyo, umbhali wokuqala othengisa kakhulu, umcebisi, kunye nomphathiswa uDavid Essel bebencedisa abantu kunye nezibini ukuba ziveze ukuba kutheni ubudlelwane busoyikeka, kwaye kutheni le nto iqhubeka namhlanje.
Apha ngezantsi, uDavid wabelana ngeengcinga zakhe kwinto ekufuneka siyenzile ukuguqula amanani abi kakhulu kubudlelwane bethu obungasebenziyo.
Isizathu
"Ngaba wakha weva xa abantu besithi, emva kolunye ulwalamano olungaphumelelanga," Ndimele ndibe nomntu okhethiweyo "?
Kukhutshelwa ngaphandle. Kukho inyani kuyo, kodwa ikakhulu ikhutshelwa ngaphandle.
Ke yintoni esona sizathu sokuqala sokuqhubeka nokungena kubudlelwane obungasebenziyo?
Nantsi impendulo, nokuba uyafuna ukuyiva okanye hayi.
Ayinanto yakwenza "nokukhetha ubudlelwane" bakho.
Ayinanto yakwenza nabantu abathi abantu basetyhini bafuna nje ukuxhaswa ngemali, kwaye amadoda afuna nje isondo.
Kodwa inento yokwenza noku: siyala ukuthoba isantya, jonga esipilini, kwaye sijonge iipateni ebesiziphindaphinda mhlawumbi ukusukela kumhla wethu wokuqala, ezingazange zisisebenzele.
Ngaba iyavakala loo nto?
Isizathu sokuqala sokuba siphele kwi-a ubudlelwane obungasebenzi kakuhle. Ngaba thina!
Ayikuko ukuba asinakufumana amadoda okanye abafazi abalungileyo, okanye asinakukhetha amadoda okanye abafazi abalungileyo, okanye ikamva lothando alikho kwicala lethu.
Kungenxa yokuba sonqena ukuchitha ixesha, umgudu kunye nemali ukujonga esipilini kwaye sifumanise ukuba senza ntoni okungalunganga amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Ndiyayithanda le ngxelo, “nguwe wedwa oqhelekileyo kubo bonke ubudlelwane bakho obungaphumelelanga”
Kuyinyani, kwaye akukho mntu ufuna ukuyamkela.
Bukela ividiyo emfutshane kaDavid Essel malunga nokuba wenze ntoni ukuba uku ubudlelwane obungathandekiyo bothando.
Ungaze uphele iipateni zobudlelwane ezingasebenziyo
Kwincwadi yethu ethengisa kakhulu, "Uthando kunye neemfihlo zobudlelwane Wonke umntu ekufuneka ezazi!" Siya kwiinkcukacha ezichaza indlela yokuziphatha okungalunganga kunye neepatheni esiqhubeka nazo ebomini, ziya kuthi i-100% isixelele ukuba sikubudlelwane obungasebenziyo kwixesha elizayo.
Iipateni, ezibekwe kwingqondo engacacanga, zisiphazamise ekukhangeleni inyani, zisiphazamise ekujongeni esipilini, kwaye zisiphazamise ekuqesheni iingcali njengam, ukusinceda ukuba sifike kwezona zizathu ziphambili zokuba kutheni ubudlelwane bothando busondla.
Iipateni zinokunikwa ususela ebuntwaneni, ngokungazi ungene kwi-subconscious yakho njengoko ubukele umama notata wakho besilwa, bexambulisana, bangabi nolwazelelo omnye nomnye, bazimele geqe, kwaye behlazisa omnye komnye.
Okanye mhlawumbi unabazali abangabonisi kuthintwa ngokwasemzimbeni, kungekho thando lwasemzimbeni, kwaye kungekho magama okuvuma.
Ewe, amathuba okuba uza kuphuma kwelo xesha kwaye uphinde enye okanye yomibini yokufundisa kwabazali bakho, kwaye konke oku kufakwe kwingqondo engazi nto.
Khumbula, sondla i-subconscious ngokuhlala kwindawo ezingenampilo.
Ke ukuba ukhe wakubudlelwane obunye, ezimbini, okanye ezilishumi ezingenampilo kubudlelwane obungasebenziyo kwaye awuzange uye kumcebisi kwaye usebenze kuzo ukufumana ukuba yintoni isivumelwano sakho, zithini iimpazamo zakho, ezo patheni zihlala zibambekile kwi-subconscious, kwaye uza kuziphinda.
Kodwa ngomsebenzi nomcebisi okanye ugqirha okanye umqeqeshi wobudlelwane, ungaqala ukubona indlela iipateni oziqhubayo ukusuka ebusaneni ukuya kwinqanaba lakho lokufikisa okanye mhlawumbi neentsuku zakho zekholeji zibonakalisa ubudlelwane obukhulu.
Ukutshintsha ipateni
Akukho mntu ufuna ukuthoba isantya kunye nokuthatha ixesha emva kobudlelwane obungaphumeleliyo bokungaboni kakuhle ukuba yeyiphi indima yethu kwaye ndiphume njani kwipatheni yolwalamano olungasebenzi kakuhle.
Kungcono sikhombe umnwe kwaye senze ukuba kubonakale ngathi sisiphoso somnye umntu, emva koko sihambe kwaye siphinda-phinda izinto ezimbi kwakhona kwakhona!
Nabani na onako tshintsha iipateni zengqondo ezingabalulekanga ngoncedo lweengcali ezifuna ngokwenene.
Ke ukuba ulungele uthando olunzulu, lungela ukuthatha ubuncinci iinyanga ezintandathu, ungathandani kwaphela, kwaye usebenze nengcali ukufikelela kwisiseko semicimbi yakho.
"Xa ugqiba imiba yakho, uvula umnyango wothando ukuba luqhakaze."
Umsebenzi ka-David Essel'ukhuthazwe kakhulu ngabantu abanjengongasekhoyo uWayne Dyer nosaziwayo uJenny Mccarthy uthi, "UDavid Essel yinkokeli entsha yombutho ocinga kakuhle."
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