Umxholo
- Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kuthando
- Uthando: yimvakalelo?
- Imibuzo yokusombulula iqhina-ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kuthando
- Q1. Nonwabile xa nikunye?
- Umbuzo Ngaba wonwabile nawe "me" ixesha lakho?
- Umbuzo. Ngaba uluvo lokwahlukana luzalisa uloyiko?
- Umbuzo Umhlaba wakho uye waba mkhulu- ngaba luthando olu?
- Ungazimela njani ngokweemvakalelo?
- 1. Zihlolisise
- 2. Yenza ulonwabo lwakho
- 3. Zikrobe wedwa ixesha
- 4. Ukuthetha ngokwakho
Uninzi lwethu luhlala luphikisana ngaphakathi kwabo ekuqondeni iimvakalelo zabo zokwenyani.
Umzabalazo wamandla wokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kuthando ubhidanise abathandi abaninzi ekukholelweni ukuba iimvakalelo zabo kumaqabane abo luthando xa, enyanisweni, yimeko yokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo.
Isifundo sithi ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo akukho nto ngaphandle kokubonakaliswa kokuziphatha gwenxa kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye umntu oxhomekeke ngokweemvakaleloithathe indawo engaphantsi ukugcina uthando lwamaqabane abo abathandanayo. Umntu / abantu abanjalo bayaphela Ukuphulukana nobuntu babo ngokupheleleyo.
Xa sithandana, nathi sinamathela kuloo mntu.
Ngoku, uthando ngokuncamathisela kubandakanya oko lonke ulwalamano luneentlobo ezimbini zokuncamathiselwa - izinamathiselo eziphilileyo nezingenampilo.
Kodwa ezi izinamathiselo ezisempilweni ziyinxalenye ye- Inkqubo yesiqhelo yokubopha uthando, kwaye ke kukho izinto ezinamathiselo ezingenampilo ezibonisa uhlobo lokuxhomekeka emntwini olungadaleli eyona ndawo intle yokuba ubudlelwane bothando buchume.
Makhe sihlolisise ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo emntwini, kwaye kujongeka njani kubudlelwane bothando.
Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kuthando
Ngoku, kuthetha ntoni xa sithetha ngokudibana ngokweemvakalelo? Kukho umgca omncinci wokwahlula olala phakathi kokuncamathiselwa kweemvakalelo kunye nokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo.
Ngaba uthando luyimvakalelo? Kulungile! Uthando yimvakalelo enzulu kwaye umntu / abantu abaseluthandweni bathanda ukuziva bencamathele ngokweemvakalelo kumaqabane abo. Ukuncamathela ngokweemvakalelo komnye umntu oko akuthethi ukuba uxhomekeke kubo ukuze bafumane imvume.
Ukuxhomekeka kuthando okanye ukuxhomekeka kwiimvakalelo kwenzeka nje ukuba uqale ukuthembela kubo ukuze bakunike ukuqonda kwesazisi sakho.
Ubudlelwane obuxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo abuthathelwa ingqalelo njengohlobo lokuncamathela olusempilweni, kuba awunayo imvakalelo yakho yokuzimela okanye inkululeko. Uxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane lakho kwaye uya kwenza nantoni na ukuze uhlale kubudlelwane, nokuba ayonwabanga kuba woyika ukuba wedwa.
Uthando: yimvakalelo?
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, uthando luthando. Uthando lusikhukulisa ngeemvakalelo, ke ngaloo ndlela, ngokwenene kuvakala kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Kodwa kuba uthando luvela kwingqondo, kukho i element neuroscientific kuyo.
Abaphandi bazamile ukwenza inzululwazi ngasemva kothando kodwa basilela ukuqonda isizathu sokuba sithanda umntu omnye hayi omnye. Kodwa bacinga ukuba sifuna amaqabane asikhumbuza ngento esiye sayifumana ebuntwaneni.
Ke ukuba sikhulele kwikhaya elingonwabanga, sihlala sithambekele kumaqabane aya kuthi abonakalise loo mava, kumzamo wokuzama ukulungisa oku njengomntu omdala.
Ngokuchasene noko, ukuba sikhulele kwikhaya elonwabileyo, siya kufuna amaqabane abonisa olo lonwabo.
Inkqubo ye- ukuqhubela kuthando lweemvakalelo kukhuthazwa lulonwabo, ke ngaloo ndlela, uthando luthando, olusinika ulonwabo olukhulu ukuba namava. Kodwa ungaze ulibale ukuba kukho iikhemikhali emva kolovakalelo, ngakumbi i-dopamine kunye ne-serotonin, ezikhukulisa ubuchopho bethu xa sibona okanye sicinga ngento esiyithandayo.
Abo imichiza isenza sizive silungile.
Imibuzo yokusombulula iqhina-ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kuthando
Singahlula njani phakathi kothando olusempilweni kunye nokuncamathisela okungenampilo? Ngamanye amaxesha umgca womahluko ufiphele. Kodwa ukuba uyazibuza, zibuze le mibuzo ilandelayo-
Q1. Nonwabile xa nikunye?
Iimpendulo. Ukuba ixesha lenu kunye nilichitha ngokuhleka, uthetha ngeeprojekthi zexesha elizayo okanye ubanda nje ukubambana ngezandla, luthando.
Kodwa, ukuba ixesha lenu kunye nilichitha niphikisana okanye niphepha omnye komnye, kwaye niya entlokweni yenu yonke indlela ngalo lonke ixesha iqabane linicaphukisa, mhlawumbi kukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo.
Umbuzo Ngaba wonwabile nawe "me" ixesha lakho?
Iimpendulo. Ukuba uyalonwabela ixesha lakho ngaphandle kweqabane lakho, ulisebenzisela ukutyebisa impilo yakho yobuqu, ukubona abahlobo, ukuzilolonga, ngalo lonke ixesha ucinga ngothando ngexesha elizayo xa uza kuba neqabane lakho, olu luthando.
Ukuba ixesha elahlukileyo likuzalisa luloyiko kwaye ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho liza kufumana omnye umntu ngelixa nahlukene, likulahla, oku kukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo. Ayisiyondawo intle ukuba intloko yakho ibe yiyo, akunjalo?
Umbuzo. Ngaba uluvo lokwahlukana luzalisa uloyiko?
Iimpendulo. Ukuba umbono wokwahlukana uzalisa uloyiko, u-angst, kunye noloyiko kuba awukwazi ukujongana nobomi wedwa, oku kukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuba ujonga ukwahlukana okunokwenzeka njengeyona nto ilungileyo ukuyenza kuba ulwalamano aluzalisekisi, nangona nina nobabini nisebenza kulo, oku kuthetha ukuba nisebenza kwindawo yothando.
Umbuzo Umhlaba wakho uye waba mkhulu- ngaba luthando olu?
Iimpendulo. Ukuba eyakho Ihlabathi liye labulela kakhulu kubuhlobo bakho, olu luthando.
Kwelinye icala, umhlaba wakho uye wancipha — wenza izinto kuphela neqabane lakho, nizahlule ekuzibandakanyeni nabahlobo okanye izinto ezingaphandle komntu — uxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo.
Eyakho ubudlelwane bukunika intsalela yoxolo, ulonwabo, kunye nolonwabo okuthetha ukuba luthando. Ngokwahlukileyo, ulwalamano lwakho lubangela uxinzelelo, umona, kunye nokuzithemba, ke oko kuthetha ukuba uxhomekeke ngokwasemoyeni.
Uzichonge njengomntu oxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo. Ngoku uzimela njani ngokwasemphefumlweni?
Ungazimela njani ngokweemvakalelo?
Nanga amanye amanyathelo okuba uzimele ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye ukhule ube sempilweni kuwe!
1. Zihlolisise
Thatha inyani jonga ubudlelwane bakho bangaphambili nobangoku kwaye qaphela indlela oziphethe ngayo.
Ngaba zonke zikhomba ekuxhomekekeni ngokweemvakalelo? Zibuze ukuba kutheni ufuna ukwamkelwa kwabanye, kutheni woyika ukuba wedwa? Ngaba oku kukukhumbuza ngento ethile ukususela ebuntwaneni bakho?
2. Yenza ulonwabo lwakho
Qalisa ukwenza izinto ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakho, kwaye ungaceli imvume kwiqabane lakho.
Ayinamsebenzi ukuba uyayivuma iprojekthi yakho okanye hayi; Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuba uqala ukongeza imisebenzi ebomini bakho ekwenza uzive ulungile kwaye uphucule impilo yakho. Awudingi ukuqala enkulu-zama ukongeza ukuhamba okuncinci ngaphandle yonke imihla. Ngokwakho.
3. Zikrobe wedwa ixesha
Abantu abaxhomekeke kuthando banobunzima bokuba bodwa.
Ke nikela ixesha lakho wedwa suku ngalunye, ixesha apho uhleli nje ngokuzazi. Ungalisebenzisa eli xesha ukucamngca okanye ukumamela umhlaba wakho ... ukuba ungakwenza oku ngaphandle, konke kungcono!
Ukuba uqala ukoyika, nikela ingqalelo ekuphefumlweni kwakho ukuzama ukuphumla. Injongo kukuqonda ukuba ukuba wedwa akuyona indawo eyoyikisayo.
4. Ukuthetha ngokwakho
Yenza ezinye iimantra ezintsha ukuba uzixelele suku ngalunye. “Ndikhohlakele.” “Ndiyigolide.” "Ndiyakwazi kwaye ndomelele" "Ndifanelwe luthando olulungileyo".
Le miyalezo yokuzihambisa iya kuba luncedo ekukufumaneni ukuthembela komnye umntu kulonwabo lwakho ukuthembela kuwe.