Umxholo
Ukungabikho kwemali- Ukuphumelela kwizifundo
- Ukuzijongela phantsi
- Umzekelo wokuziphatha
- Iziphumo ezilungileyo
- Iingcebiso zomzali omnye
Usapho - eli ligama elivusa iinkumbulo zamaxesha okonwaba.
Ukwabelana ngokwenzekileyo imini yonke kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, ukuvula izipho ngeKrisimesi, nokuba nomdlalo wokukhwaza nomninawa wakho; Zonke ezi zinto zibonisa ukuba unesibophelelo esingenakuhlukaniswa namalungu osapho lwakho.
Kodwa asingabo bonke abantu abasikelelwe ngeentsapho ezonwabileyo.
Kweli xesha siphila kulo, sibona inani elikhulu labazali abangenamaqabane besokola ukufumana ikhaya elikhuselekileyo labantwana babo. Zininzi izizathu zoku kunyuka kwenani labantwana abakhuliswe ngabazali abangenamaqabane.
Inkqubo ye- ezona zinto zixhaphakileyo zokuba ngumzali omnye kukukhulelwa kolutsha, uqhawulo-mtshato, kunye nokungavumi kweqabane ukwabelana ngoxanduva.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngabantwana bomzali ongenaqabane abona bakhulu xa amaqabane engazinikelanga ekwenzeni ulwalamano lwawo lusebenze.
Abantwana abakhulele kwikhaya elinabazali ababini bonwabela imfundo elungileyo kunye nezoqoqosho.
Iziphumo ezibi zokuba ngumzali omnye emntwaneni zinokuchaphazela ukukhula komntwana ngokwasentlalweni kunye neemvakalelo.
Eli nqaku lijongana nemicimbi yokuba ngumzali omnye kunye neepivots malunga nefuthe leentsapho ezinomzali omnye kuphuhliso lwabantwana.
Jonga kwakhona:
Ukungabikho kwemali
Omnye wemicimbi oqheleke kakhulu wokuba ngumzali kukunqongophala kwemali.
Abazali abangenamaqabane bajongene nocelomngeni lokunqongophala kwemali kuba kuphela komthombo wengeniso. Umzali ongenaqabane kusenokufuneka asebenze iiyure ezongezelelekileyo ukuze ahlangane neemfuno zezemali zokuqhuba umzi ngesandla.
Ukunqongophala kwemali kunokuthetha ukuba abantwana banokunyanzelwa ukuba bayeke ukudanisa okanye iqela lezemidlalo njengoko umzali ongenaqabane engenakho ukuhlangabezana neendleko ezongezelelweyo.
Ukuba kukho abantwana abaninzi endlwini, ke ngoku kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu ukwanelisa zonke iimfuno zabantwana.
Uxinzelelo lwezezimali lokuhlala ngesandla ukuya emlonyeni lubeka uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo kumzali ongenaqabane, onokuqondwa ngokulula ngabantwana.
Ukuphumelela kwizifundo
Oomama bahlala bephethe amakhaya anomzali omnye. Ukungabikho kotata, kunye nobunzima bezezimali, kungonyusa umngcipheko wokungaqhubi kakuhle kwabafundi.
Kwangokunjalo, iimpembelelo zengqondo zokukhula ngaphandle komama zinokwenzakalisa umntwana.
Ukuba akukho nkxaso mali ivela kootata, oomama abangenamaqabane kufuneka basebenze ngaphezulu, oko kuthetha ukuba abanakho ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nabantwana babo.
Banokuphulukana neziganeko ezizodwa zesikolo kwaye basenokungabikho ekhaya ukubanceda ngomsebenzi wesikolo.
Oku Ukungabikho kolawulo kunye nokukhokelwa kungakhokelela ekusebenzeni kakubi esikolweni xa kuthelekiswa nabantwana abaneemvakalelo kunye nenkxaso yemali evela kootata.
Ngapha koko, oku kukongeza kwiingxaki zoomama abangenamaqabane kuluntu njengoko abantu bejonga ukuba ngumzali ongonelanga.
Ukuzijongela phantsi
Umntwana ufumana uluvo lokhuseleko ekhaya, oluchaphazela indlela abanxibelelana ngayo nehlabathi langaphandle.
Ukulindela okuphantsi kubantu ababangqongileyo yenye into enokubakho ekukhulisweni ngumzali ongenaqabane. Basenokungakwazi ukugcina ubomi obonwabisayo nobusempilweni bomtshato njengoko bengakhange babenamava okuhlala nabazali bobabini.
Esona sizathu siphambili sokuzithemba okuphantsi kwaba bantwana sisusela kwinto yokuba abafumani ngqwalaselo kunye neengcebiso ezaneleyo kumzali wabo ekuphela kwakhe, okunokuthi kuthintele ukukhula kwabo ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo.
Kubalulekile ukuba bonisa ukuba uyaziqhenya ngempumelelo yomntwana wakho ngokubeka ingxelo yakhe kwifriji okanye ngokubanika umvuzo ngokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Abantwana bomzali ongenaqabane banokuziva bebodwa ukuba bachitha ixesha elininzi bebodwa, oko kusenza kube ngumngeni kubo ukunxibelelana neqela labo leminyaka.
Banokuba neengxaki zokulahlwa kwaye banokuba nengxaki yokunxibelelana nabantu abadala ngenxa yokungazithembi.
Ukuba baziva ngathi abazali babo ababathandi, ke bayasokola ukuqonda ukuba omnye umntu angabafumana njani befanelekile. Imiba enjalo inokukhuliswa xa umntwana ekhula enomzali omnye.
Iziphumo zokuba ngumzali omnye kubantwana kunokuba nzima kakhulu, ngenxa yokuba banomgcini omnye kuphela ojonga iimfuno zabo.
Umzekelo wokuziphatha
Amakhaya angabazali abangabodwa ahlala enokunqongophala kwemali, enokuba nefuthe kubantwana, njengokukhathazeka kunye nomsindo kunye nengozi eyandayo yokuziphatha gwenxa.
Banokuziva belusizi, unxunguphalo, isizungu, belahliwe, kwaye banobunzima ekuhlaleni.
Umbutho wabazali abangenamaqabane namaqabane ahlukeneyo nawo unokushiya ifuthe elinamandla emntwaneni. Aba bantwana banomzali omnye banokubakho ukuzibophelela.
Iziphumo ezilungileyo
Zimbalwa iziphumo ezilungileyo zokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga ebantwaneni, kodwa baxhomekeke kakhulu kubuchule bokuba ngumzali nakwiindidi zobuntu.
Uphononongo lwakutsha nje lubonisa ukuba abantwana abangaphezulu kweminyaka eli-12 ubudala ababonakalisi zimpawu zingalunganga zokuba ngabazali abangatshatanga ekukhuleni kwabo kwezemfundo, kwezengqondo nakwezentlalo.
Ngapha koko, enjalo abantwana babonisa izakhono ezomeleleyo zoxanduva njengoko uxanduva lwemisebenzi yasekhaya kunye nemisebenzi yasekhaya iwela phezu kwabo. Aba bantwana benza iqhina elinamandla kunye nabazali babo njengoko bexhomekeke komnye komnye.
Abantwana abakhuliswe ngabazali abangenamaqabane bakwakhulisa ubudlelwane obomeleleyo nosapho, izihlobo, okanye amalungu osapho awandisiweyo ebeyinxalenye yobomi babo.
Iingcebiso zomzali omnye
Ukukhulisa umntwana phantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko ngumsebenzi onzima; ngaphezulu koko, ukuba ngumzali omnye kuzisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ngelixa uzama ukuzilawula, abantwana bakho kunye nekhaya lakho, kukho izinto ezithile izinto onokuzenza kubo bonke ubuzali obubodwa ngokufanelekileyo.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokuba ulawule indlela yakho yokunyuka kunye nokuhla komzali ongatshatanga kunye nokuchasene neziphumo ezibi zokukhuliswa ngumama ongatshatanga okanye utata:
- Beka ixesha ecaleni yonke imihla ukunxibelelana nabantwana bakho, ufumanise malunga nento abayenzayo, kwaye ubabonise uthando lwakho kunye nenkathalo.
- Yiba nocwangciso oluhleliweyo, ngakumbi abantwana bakho. Abantwana bayaphumelela xa bebambelela kwisiqhelo, kwaye ikwabanceda ukubethelela imikhwa elungileyo.
- Zijonge. Ukuze ukwazi ukukhulisela abantwana bakho kwindawo esempilweni, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba usempilweni ngokwaneleyo. Ukuzivocavoca nanini na unako kwaye utye ngokusempilweni. Oku kuya kubakhuthaza abantwana bakho.
- Musa ukuzibek 'ityala, kwaye uhlale unethemba. Nokuba iRoma ayakhiwanga ngosuku, ke ukwenza ikhaya elilungileyo kunye nosapho kuwe nakubantwana bakho kungathatha ixesha elininzi kunye nomonde oya kufuna ukuba uhlale unethemba.
Isiphelo
Nangona ungeke ukwazi ukulawula indlela ezinokuthi zithathe ubudlelwane bakho, unokuzama ukwenza okona kulungileyo kwezi meko.
Ukwazi ubunzima obunokujamelana nomntwana okhulele kwikhaya elinomzali omnye kunokukunceda uqonde imeko yabo kwaye ube ngumzali ongcono ongenaqabane.