Umxholo
- 1. Zibophelela kwizibini ezitshatileyo ukufumana iingcebiso iinyanga ezintandathu ubuncinci
- 2. Khetha ukwahlukana okwethutyana
I-50% yezibini ezitshatileyo eUnited States, ukuba azikho ngaphezulu, ziyaqhawula umtshato. Iinkcukacha-manani azitshintshanga kangangeminyaka.
Kodwa ngaba kufanele kube njalo?
Ayenzi njalo. Ndisebenze kunye nezinye zeemeko ezinqabileyo, njengokuxhatshazwa okugqithisileyo emtshatweni, apho ngokuchasene nazo zonke iingxaki, ndincede esi sibini siwujikile umtshato wabo waba lolona lwalamano luhle kakhulu kwaye ndakhe ndabona.
Apho abantu abaninzi banokuthi "ngenene kufuneka baqhawule umtshato", Ndihlala ndisithi yima umzuzu, masilinde sibone.
Ukuba abantu ababini, okanye nokuba inye kuphela kubo ekuqaleni, baya kuvuma ukusebenza ngeempundu zabo, zininzi izinto ezinkulu esinokuzenza ukugcina ubudlelwane ngaphambi kokuba bafe kancinci, kabuhlungu ukufa.
Nali ibali malunga nesibini endandisebenza naso kwiminyaka eyadlulayo ababesecicini lokuqhawula umtshato:
Umyeni wayethandana, wayengaqinisekanga nokuba ufuna ukuwuphelisa umcimbi wakhe, kwaye ngelixa ekwilimbo lomfazi wakhe uzama ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba makenze ifayile yoqhawulo-mtshato okanye hayi. Usapho kunye nabahlobo bakhe babemxelela, kuba wayengenamdla ungxamisekileyo wokushiya isithandwa sakhe, ukuba kufuneka enze ifayile kwangoko. Kodwa endaweni yoko, ndabelana naye ngala manyathelo mabini angezantsi, kwaye wabalandela ngokwamanqaku ngamanqaku, kwaye ubudlelwane bugcinwa.
Emva kokusebenza naye malunga nenyanga, umyeni wangena kwaye waqala ukulandela inkqubo efanayo, kwaye kukothuka kwakhe kunye nokothuka kosapho, bakwazi ukubuyisa uthando lwabo nokwakha umtshato owawomelele, womelele kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba umcimbi uqale.
Ukulandela nje la manyathelo mabini aphambili kuya kukunika elona thuba lilungileyo lokusindisa umtshato wakho. Nantsi into ekufuneka uyenzile-
1. Zibophelela kwizibini ezitshatileyo ukufumana iingcebiso iinyanga ezintandathu ubuncinci
Ndixelela zonke izibini ukuba kufuneka bazibophelele xa umtshato usengxakini enkulu, ukuya kwiinyanga ezintandathu ubuncinci zokufumana iingcebiso. Andikholelwa kwintetho yesintu emtshatweni. Ngo-1996 sayishiya inkqubo yokucebisa ngomtshato wesintu, apho ndisebenza khona bobabini umyeni kunye nenkosikazi kwiyure enye ngefowuni, ngeSkype okanye ngobuqu.
Ndifumene ukusukela ngo-1990 ukuya ngo-1996 ukuba le ndlela kunqabile ukuba ibe luncedo konke konke. Ndixelele izibini zam ukuba banokuphikisana ekhaya, kanye njengoko benzayo ngexesha leseshoni kunye nam, simahla. Yinkcitho yexesha nemali yabo.
Kodwa ukuba bebezimisele ngokuzama ukufumanisa ukuba ingaba ubudlelwane kufanelekile ukuba bungagcinwa, ndingasebenza kunye nabo ngokukodwa kangangeenyanga ezintandathu.
Kwaye iinyanga ezintandathu zihlala zilixesha elincinci endilifumeneyo lithatha ukunyanga umtshato okanye ubudlelwane. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuthatha ukuya kunyaka. Kodwa kwinqanaba lokuqala, sibenza bazibophelele ubuncinci beenyanga ezintandathu zokusebenza nam kube kanye ngeveki ngeyure.Kananjalo ziya kuba zizabelo zomsebenzi wasekhaya. Izabelo zokuBhala. Ukufundwa kweencwadi ezithile. Ukuba bayayilandela le nkqubo, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba siqale ukuguqula umtshato.
2. Khetha ukwahlukana okwethutyana
Ukuba ekupheleni kweenyanga ezintandathu ubudlelwane busabonakala ngathi bukhona kwisiphithiphithi, ndiyacebisa ukuba isibini eso sohlukane. Ukuhlala kwiindawo ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Ukwahlukana kunokuhamba naphi na ukusuka kwiinyanga ezintathu ukuya kwiinyanga ezintandathu, ngelixa besasebenza nam njengomcebisi.
Ngamanye amaxesha amandla amabi akhiwe kule minyaka idlulileyo, anamandla kakhulu ukuzama ukusebenza ngelixa behlala kunye. Esinye isibini endenze ngaso oku, esifuna ukuqhawula umtshato xa bengena e-ofisini yam, bafumanisa ukuba emva kokufumana iingcebiso akuzange kubancede bagcine ubudlelwane phakathi kweenyanga ezintandathu zokuqala, ukwahlukana kunye nokucebisa yayiyimpendulo kwimithandazo yabo.
Ngelixa bohlukanisiwe, kwaye bobabini besasebenza nam veki nganye, bafumanise ukuba ukungakhathali kuyancipha, umsindo wabo wawuqala ukusonjululwa, ingqumbo eyayiqhume kubo bobabini, ngokwahlukana kwaqala ukuzola .
Kwakusemva kokwahlukana kweentsuku ezingama-90 apho babekwazi ukucinga ngokucacileyo, bavule iintliziyo zabo kwaye bahambise ubudlelwane babo kwindawo entle entsha.
Ukuba emva kokulandela la manyathelo mabini angentla, ubudlelwane busekhona kwisiphithiphithi, kulapho ndicebisa ukuba badlule kuqhawulo mtshato. Xa abantu belandela inyathelo lokuqala kunye nenyathelo ezimbini ngasentla, kukho amathuba amahle kakhulu esinokuthi sigcine ubudlelwane. Kodwa ayiqinisekiswanga nge-100%. Ubuncinci ukuba bathatha isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato ngeli xesha, banokujonga emva bobabini, bahambe besazi ukuba benze konke okusemandleni abo ukugcina umtshato kunye nobudlelwane.
Ukuba kukho abantwana, ndincoma la manyathelo mabini angentla, ngokulandela amanyathelo ukuya kugqitywa. Ukuba akukho bantwana, ngamanye amaxesha isibini siya kuthatha isigqibo emva kweenyanga ezintandathu zokuqala okanye unyaka wokucebisa ukuba ubudlelwane buhambe kakhulu.
Ngayiphi na indlela, ndiyazi xa abantu abatshatileyo befaka lo mzamo mkhulu emsebenzini, ukuba bayawuqhawula umtshato, bazakuhamba bafunda ngakumbi ngabo, uthando kunye nokuba kuthatha ntoni ukwenza ubudlelwane obunzulu nobusempilweni kunye nomtshato wethu. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, kufanelekile ukuzama.
Kodwa ukuba awuzimisele ukubeka umzamo ngoku, amathuba okuba uya kuphinda imikhwa efanayo yokungasebenzi kulwalamano lwakho olutsha. Yehlisa isantya. Jonga ngaphakathi. Masenze umsebenzi kunye