Umxholo
- 1. Ukuzikhathalela kakuhle kubalulekile
- 2. Zincede ngokuziva ukhululekile
- 3. Cinga ukusebenzisana kwakho kakuhle
- 4. Akukho kubhalwa esidlangalaleni!
- 5. Ukuqhubela phambili kuthetha ukuqhubeka
- 6. Galela iimbotyi
- 7. Umgaqo weeRoutines
- 8. Gcina ingqondo ecacileyo
- 9. Ukuqhubela phambili
Igama eliyoyikekayo D yinto ekungekho mntu ufuna ukuyamkela, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi uqhawulo-mtshato luyimfuneko. Nokuba uyiqalisile inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato, okanye unyanzelwe ngumfazi wakho, uyakufuna uncedo ekucwangciseni iinyanga ezizayo.
Akukho ntloni ngokuba noncedo oluncinci ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha loqhawulo-mtshato, nokuba ubulifuna, okanye awulifuni, uyakufuna uncedo oluncinci apha endleleni. Ukuthathela ingqalelo ukucebisa okuya kukunceda kwisicwangciso sakho soqhawulo-mtshato emadodeni kuphela, yeyona ndlela igqibeleleyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato wakho luhamba kakuhle kangangoko.
Ke sidwelise ezinye zeengcebiso ezibaluleke kakhulu nezisebenzayo kucwangciso loqhawulo-mtshato kumadoda apha.
1. Ukuzikhathalela kakuhle kubalulekile
Ukuba awusikholelwa, kuya kufuneka ujonge kuMgaqo kaMaslow weeMfuno, othi kwelona nqanaba lethu lisisiseko sidinga ukutya, indawo yokuhlala, ukuphumla nokhuseleko.
Amadoda asandula ukwahlukana nabafazi bawo aqhele ukuba ngamahlwempu ekuzinyamekeleni ngale ndlela. Kodwa ukungazikhathaleli ngokufanelekileyo kuya kukushiya ubuthathaka, ubuthathaka kwaye ungenampilo.
Endaweni yokwenza imeko yakho ibe mandundu, qala njengoko uzimisele ukuqhubeka nokuzikhathalela, upheke, okanye ufunde ukupheka ukutya okusempilweni kwaye uzame ukufumana indawo ezinzileyo nekhuselekileyo yokuhlala ngokukhawuleza.
Nokuba ayisiyonto yobunewunewu oyiqhelileyo.
2. Zincede ngokuziva ukhululekile
Kukwabalulekile ukugcina ukhathalelo olukhulu kubuntu kuluhlu lwakho lwezinto eziphambili, kubalulekile.
Awuyi kuziva kakuhle ukuba awukhathaleli iimfuno zakho ezisisiseko njengokuhlamba, ukucheba, kunye neenwele. Eli lixesha apho ungasayi kuva okona kulungileyo ngokwasemoyeni nasengqondweni, ukongeza kumthwalo wakho ngokungaziva ulungile kuya kuyidibanisa ingxaki kunye nokunciphisa impilo yakho.
Zityhale ukuze ugcine ukhathalelo lwakho nokuba awuziva unjalo kwaye ukongeza ukubamba kwecologne ngenxa yayo. Iphunga lenza izimanga kwi-psyche.
Le yenye yezona ngcebiso zisisiseko kodwa zibalulekile zokucwangciswa koqhawulo-mtshato emadodeni kwaye ukuba awuyenzanga le nto ngaphambi kokuba uqalise inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato, ngoku lixesha lokwenza utshintsho lwakho lokuqala kwikamva.
3. Cinga ukusebenzisana kwakho kakuhle
Zama ukuqala ukubonisa indlela onxibelelana ngayo ne kungekudala oza kuba ngumdala. Ungamvumeli ukuba acofe amaqhosha akho, ungambonisi ukuba nomsindo, ukukhathazeka okanye uthando. Zonke zinokukhokelela kwiimeko ezincangathi ongazifuniyo ngoku.
Ucocekile onokugcina ukusebenzisana kwakho kungcono kuwe kwixesha elide. Nokuba kuya kufuneka uthathe indlela ephezulu ngamanye amaxesha.
4. Akukho kubhalwa esidlangalaleni!
Yenza into engxamisekileyo ukuze uqiniseke ukuba AKUKHO ubeke nantoni na ebhaliweyo nge-media media, i-imeyile, okanye ileta. Qiniseka ukuba uyema kwaye ucinge. Nokuba umzuzu wokuhlekisa uza kukunceda uzive ungcono okomzuzwana, kuyakwenza uqhawulo-mtshato lula ukuba awuwubasi umlilo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuziveza ngale ndlela, bhala wedwa, ngasese emva koko uyitshise xa sele ukulungele.
Ukudlula nje ngobundlongondlongo akusokuze kuyincede imeko yakho ngakumbi ukuba kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo kwaye licebo elibalulekileyo ekucwangcisweni komtshato emadodeni.
5. Ukuqhubela phambili kuthetha ukuqhubeka
Yeka ukuthembela kungekudala ukuba uza kuba ngumhlobo, kulungile, nantoni na.
Oko kuthetha ukuba ungamsebenzisi njengengcali yeemvakalelo zakho, okanye indawo yokulahla umsindo, usizi, uloyiko, ityala.
Ukuba ufuna ukukhupha umoya, fumana ezinye iindlela ngokusebenzisa umhlobo othembekileyo okanye ilungu losapho, ngokubhala (ngasese), okanye ukuyitshisa ngokubaleka, ukuhamba, ukucoca, ukulungisa (izinto zakho ayingomfazi wakho).
Sukuvumela i ex yakho ukuba ixhomekeke kuwe ngendlela efanayo nokuba.
6. Galela iimbotyi
Sukugcina okwenzekayo kubomi bakho babucala kuwe. Xelela usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho, kwaye ucinge nangokwazisa umphathi wakho. Ngale ndlela banokuqonda, babe ngoonozakuzaku xa befuna (oya kuthi ubuxabise ngamanye amaxesha), bakukhangele kwaye bakuxhase.
Awusoze wazi, unokufumana nje ukutya okunempilo kubo.
7. Umgaqo weeRoutines
Yenza inkqubo entsha ye-asap.
Qiniseka ukuba kubandakanya ukutya okusempilweni, ukuzilolonga, ukuzikhathalela, imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukulala, ubusuku obuncinci ubuncinci kunye nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho (ngokukhethekileyo ayingobusuku obutyebileyo obunamandla) qiniseka ukuba unamathela kuyo.
Siyazi ukuba ayivakali imnandi kakhulu, okanye iluncedo, kodwa iindlela zisindisa ubomi xa amaxesha enzima. Sithembe.
8. Gcina ingqondo ecacileyo
Ukuba uziva ngathi uyasela okanye uthatha iziyobisi njengendlela yokuthintela iingxaki zakho, musa!
Leyo yindlela ekhawulezayo yokuya entshabalalweni.
Endaweni yoko, gcina intloko yakho icacile ukuze ukwazi ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo kuwe xa uqhawula umtshato kwaye uhlale usempilweni.
Uya kuzuza kulo mzamo xa ukwelinye icala loqhawulo-mtshato kuba ukubuyela kwakho esiqhelweni kunye nokukwazi ukuqhubekeka kuya kuba lula kakhulu kuba awuzukuchitha unyaka okanye emibini ulungisa umonakalo osenokuba uwenzile ngokwakho.
Ukuba ufumanisa izinto ezinzima kwaye uhendelwa kutyekelo lwe-hedonistic, lixesha lokuba ufune umcebisi okanye ugqirha oza kukunceda akukhokele.
Kodwa kunjalo, ukubethwa ngamanye amaxesha nabahlobo abathembekileyo kulungile (ukuba nje awunxibelelani nenkosikazi yakho okanye uzame ukuziphindezela kwimikhwa yokuziphatha kakubi).
9. Ukuqhubela phambili
Okokugqibela, sukuzityhala uye kubudlelwane obutsha kungekudala.
Unokuzifumana ukuhlobo oluphosakeleyo lobudlelwane, kwaye kunokuphazamisa izicwangciso zakho zoqhawulo mtshato.
Abantu bayakulumkisa malunga nobudlelwane obuphindaphindeneyo ngesizathu. Usengozini!
Ziqwalasele ukuba usengozini, kwaye uya kwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
Kukho isikhokelo esincomela inyanga enye yokungatshati unyaka nonyaka womtshato, eyindlela esebenzayo neluncedo yokuzinqanda ekungxamelaneni nomntu kwaye iya kukunika ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nobomi bakho obutsha, uzifumanele kwaye ujongane neemvakalelo zakho kwaye ezemali ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuze xa udibana nomntu omtsha uza kuba kwindawo efanelekileyo ukutsala umntu ofanelekileyo kwaye wonwabele ubudlelwane obunempilo.