Umxholo
- Ukholo okanye inkolo ikwabumba ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla
- Ngubani olungileyo?
- Imicimbi yosapho
- Umahluko kwindlela yokuphila
- Ngubani ozakulandela abantwana?
- Ungoyisa njani oku?
Inkolo yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini ebaluleke kakhulu kuninzi. Ibumba indlela umntu abuphila ngayo ubomi bakhe. Kwabaninzi, inika unyango ngokomoya kunye nemvakalelo yokuzola. Kubo, inkolo ibonelela ngokhuseleko kunye nesiqinisekiso.
Ukholo okanye inkolo ikwabumba ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla
Ukuba uyakholelwa kwaye uqhuba inkolo ethile okanye inkolo, ikwabumba ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Into oyinxibayo, into oyityayo, nendlela othetha ngayo zonke ziphenjelelwa yinkolo. Ngapha koko, ikwan negalelo ekusekweni kwexabiso lakho.
Kuyo yonke inkolo, into elungileyo nengalunganga iya kwahluka ngamanye amaxesha.
Nangona kunjalo, akuyomfuneko ukuba wonke umntu alandele inkolo ethile. Kukwakho nabantu abangakholelwa kuyo nayiphi na inkolo, ukholo okanye into enamandla onke. Inkolo kubo iyinkolelo nje engenamsebenzi. Ngokwendalo indlela abaphila ngayo ubomi babo iyakwahluka, kubandakanya amaxabiso abo, isimilo sabo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo.
Uninzi lwamaxesha abantu baphela ngokutshata nomntu ohamba nenkolo yabo. Nangona oko kungasoloko kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha abantu ababini abavela kwiinkonzo ezahlukeneyo baya kukhetha ukuba babe ngumfazi nenkosikazi. Kukhuselekile ukuthi ubomi buya kuba ngumceli mngeni kubo.
Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Eli nqaku liza kuxubusha zonke izizathu zokuba kutheni.
Ngubani olungileyo?
Yindalo yomntu ukukholelwa ekubeni umntu uhlala elungile. Kunqabile ukuba umntu azibuze imibuzo, ngakumbi amaxabiso, isimilo kunye nenkolo. Nangona oku kungabonakala ngathi akukho ngxaki inkulu ukoyisa kodwa izinto ziyatshintsha xa inkolo ibandakanyeka.
Xa inkolo yomntu ingumbandela othile wempikiswano, kusenokwenzeka ukuba bangonwabi. Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho alikholelwa kuTixo kwaye ukholelwa kwinkolo ethile, nobabini niyakube nicinga ukuba enye ayilunganga.
Omnye umzekelo uya kuba apho omabini amaqabane aneenkolo ezahlukeneyo. Ngexesha elithile okanye elinye, baya kudibana nengcinga yokuba iqabane labo liphila ubomi besono. Le ngcinga inokujika ibe ngumbono wekhonkrithi kwaye ibangele iingxaki phakathi kwesi sibini.
Imicimbi yosapho
Yikholwe okanye ungakholelwa, nakwinkulungwane yama-21, izinto ezinje ngoxinzelelo losapho zinefuthe elihle kwindlela umntu akhetha ukuhlala ngayo. Ngokwesiqhelo, ubudlelwane phakathi konqulo abamkelekanga. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba yaphula isithethe.
Oku kuhlala kuboniswa ngokumangalisayo kwiidrama nakwiimuvi. Umlinganiswa ophambili uyakubhengeza ukuba batshata njalo-njalo, kwaye iyakukhokelela ekubeni umama aphele amandla kwaye utata ahlaselwe sisifo sentliziyo.
Nangona le isenokungabi yindlela izinto ezenzeka ngayo kubomi bokwenyani, inokubangela inani elifanelekileyo leengxaki. Ngokukodwa ukuba umntu uyanikezela kuxinzelelo losapho.
Umahluko kwindlela yokuphila
Esi sesona sizathu sibonakalayo. Lowo unokubonwa ngaphezulu. Oku kunokubonakala kuyinto encinci kodwa iyantlukwano inokwakha kude kube ubudlelwane buye kufikelela kwinqanaba lokuncipha.
Umntu unokungavumelani nendlela abanye abazikhethela ngayo iimpahla. Ke kukho umahluko kwiipleyiti. Omnye unokutya izinto omnye angazityiyo.
Kuhlala kukho umahluko ekuthandazeni. Ukuya ecaweni okanye kwi-mosque okanye etempileni okanye kwi-monasteri. Kungenzeka ukuba iimfundiso ezahlukeneyo zinokubangela ukungazinzi kulwalamano.
Ngubani ozakulandela abantwana?
Abantwana bayinto ebuthathaka kakhulu xa kufikwa kubudlelwane benkolo. Xa kukho iinkolo ezimbini ezibandakanyekayo kukho ithuba lo mbuzo. "Uzokulandela bani umntwana?". Oku kunokubangela ukungavisisani phakathi kosapho. Kuyenzeka ukuba bobabini bafune umntwana ukuba alandele inkolo yakhe.
Njengokuba bekutshiwo ngaphambili, kuyindalo ukuba umntu akholelwe ukuba banyanisile. Ityala elifanayo liya kusetyenziswa apha ngokunjalo. Ngapha koko, ukuphazamiseka kwiintsapho nako kunokubangela iingxaki. Ngootatomkhulu noomakhulu abafuna ukuba abazukulwana babo babalandele njengenxalenye yelifa labo.
Ayibangeli iingxaki kuphela kodwa ikwabangela ukudideka okukhulu okuchaphazela umntwana ngendlela engeyiyo.
Ungoyisa njani oku?
Ukoyisa le micimbi kunokuba lula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe. Nangona kunjalo, inyathelo lokuqala kukuma kwaye uqaphele kwaye uwuhloniphe lo mahluko. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ukholelwe kwinto iqabane lakho likholelwa kuyo. Ukuhlonipha nje oko bakucingayo kungenza umahluko kwihlabathi.
Inyathelo lesibini iya kuba kukuyeka ukuvumela abanye abantu baphazamisane nemicimbi ebuthathaka kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba ume phi. Ukungaqiniseki akuyi kulimaza ulwalamano lwakho kuphela kuya kukwenzakalisa abo ungafuni ukubenzakalisa. Ke ngoko, zenzele isigqibo kwaye unxibelelane neqabane lakho.
Inxalenye yokugqibela ngabantwana. Ewe, konke okufuneka ukwenze kukuvumela ukuba bathathe isigqibo. Gwema ukuzama ukubumba into ethile. Bayeke bathathe isigqibo ngokwabo.