Umxholo
- Yintoni isicwangciso sokuba ngumzali?
- Amanqaku abalulekileyo ekufuneka ebandakanyiwe kwisicwangciso sokuba ngumzali
- 1. Inkolo
- 2. Ukwahlulwa kwabasebenzi
- 3. Uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali
- 4. Ukondla umntwana
- 5. Amalungiselelo okulala
- 6. Iidrafti
- 7. Xa umntwana elila
- 8. Ukwenza ukuba umntwana alale
- 9. Ukondla
- Emva konyaka wokuqala nangaphaya
- 1. Uqeqesho
- 2. Imfundo
- 3. Umabonakude kunye nokunye ukuboniswa kweendaba
- Umsebenzi womzimba
Abazali abalindeleyo banemisebenzi esisigidi kuluhlu lwezinto abanokuzenza.Ukubhalisa kwiiklasi zokubeletha, ukubonelela nge-nursery, ukugcoba uncedo kwezo veki zokuqala emva kwesahlulo ... kuhlala kukho into entsha yokongeza, akunjalo? Nantsi enye into oya kufuna ukuyifaka kolu luhlu lusoloko lusanda: Ukuxoxa kunye nokuyila isicwangciso sobuzali.
Yintoni isicwangciso sokuba ngumzali?
Ukubeka nje, isicwangciso sokuba ngumzali luxwebhu oluchaza indlela abazali abatsha abaya kujongana ngayo nemicimbi emikhulu nemincinci njengoko isebenza kukhuliso lwabantwana. Uncedo lokuyila isicwangciso sokuba ngumzali ngokuchasene "nokuyixhasa" kukuba ininika nobabini ithuba lokuxoxa kwaye nize kwizigqibo ekuvunyelwene ngazo malunga nendlela eziza kuphathwa ngayo izinto ezibalulekileyo kubomi bomntwana wakho wexesha elizayo.
Amanqaku abalulekileyo ekufuneka ebandakanyiwe kwisicwangciso sokuba ngumzali
Ungabandakanya nantoni na ogqiba kuyo ukuba ibalulekile. Awuyi kuza nawo onke amanqaku afanelekileyo kwingxoxo enye; Ngapha koko, uya kuthi ubambe iingxoxo ezininzi ngexesha lokukhulelwa (nasemva kokuba umntwana efikile) njengoko ucinga ngezinto ofuna ukuzongeza (kwaye uzicime) kwisicwangciso sakho sobuzali. Cinga ngesicwangciso njenge xwebhu “kwimowudi yokuhlela” engapheliyo kuba yiyo kanye le nto iyiyo. (Uya kufumanisa ukuba ukuba ngumzali kunje kananjalo, kunyanzelekile ukuba utshintshe umkhombandlela njengoko ufunda ukuba ngubani umntwana wakho kwaye yeyiphi eyona ndlela yakho yokuba ngumzali.)
Isicwangciso sakho sokuba ngumzali singahlulwa sibe ngamanqanaba obomi, umzekelo, iiNtsana ezisanda kuzalwa, iimfuno zeenyanga ezi-3 - 12, iimfuno zenyanga eziyi-12 - 24, njl.
Ukwenzela i isicwangciso sokuzalwa, ungafuna ukuxoxa
1. Inkolo
Ukuba umntwana uyinkwenkwe, uya kwaluka na? Eli iya kuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba uthethe ngendima yenkolo ekukhuleni komntwana wakho. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho ninenkolo ezahlukileyo, nizokwabelana njani neenkolelo zakho kunye nomntwana wakho?
2. Ukwahlulwa kwabasebenzi
Iya kwahlulwa njani imisebenzi yokugcinwa kwabantwana? Ngaba utata ubuyela emsebenzini kanye emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe? Ukuba kunjalo, anganegalelo njani kwimisebenzi yokunyamekela?
3. Uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali
Ngaba uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lwakho luyamvumela umongikazi wasekhaya okanye umntwana ongumongikazi? Ukuba akunjalo, ngaba usapho luza kubakho luze luncede ngelixa umama echacha ekuzaleni?
4. Ukondla umntwana
Ngaba omnye wenu uziva ngamandla malunga nokuncancisa-ukuncancisa ibhotile? Ukuba izimvo zakho zahlukile, ngaba ukhululekile xa umama esenza isigqibo sokugqibela?
5. Amalungiselelo okulala
Ukuba umama uyancancisa, ngaba utata angakwazi ukuthatha uxanduva lokuzisa umntwana kumama, ngakumbi ngexesha lokondla ebusuku? Kuthekani ngamalungiselelo okulala? Ngaba ucwangcisa ukulala sonke ebhedini yosapho, okanye ngaba uziva unamandla wokuba umntwana kufuneka alale egumbini lakhe, enikezela abazali ixesha lokuzimela kunye nokulala okungcono?
6. Iidrafti
Banokulahlwa okanye ilaphu? Ukuba ucwangcisa ukuba nabantwana abaninzi, uya kufumana ixabiso lemali yakho kwintengo yokuqala. I-diapers ezilahlayo kulula ukujamelana nazo, nangona kunjalo, kungekho mfuneko yokuqhubeka nokucoca nokuhlamba iimpahla. Akunjalo njengobungane beplanethi, nangona kunjalo.
7. Xa umntwana elila
Ngaba ngaphezulu "myeke akhale" okanye "athathe umntwana ngalo lonke ixesha" abazali?
Ukwenzela i Isicwangciso seenyanga ezi-3 - 12, unokufuna ukuxoxa:
8. Ukwenza ukuba umntwana alale
Ngaba uvulelekile ekuphandeni iindlela ezahlukeneyo?
9. Ukondla
Ukuba uncelisayo, unayo ingcamango yokuba uza kulunyulwa nini umntwana wakho?
Ukondla ukutya okuqinileyo: ufuna ukubazisa kubuphi ubudala ukutya okuqinileyo? Ngaba uza kuzenzela ngokwakho okanye uthenge ukutya kosana olwenziwe kwangaphambili? Ukuba ungumlimi okanye imifuno, ngaba uya kubelana ngokutya kunye nosana lwakho? Ukubona njani ukulungelelanisa ukuncancisa kunye nokwaziswa kokutya okuqinileyo? (Khumbula ukudibana nomntwana wakho kuwo onke la manqaku.)
Emva konyaka wokuqala nangaphaya
Zithini iingxoxo zakho kunye nesicwangciso sokuba ngumzali ekufuneka sigxile kuzo:
1. Uqeqesho
Yiyiphi indlela yabazali bakho yokuqeqesha xa ukhula? Ngaba uyafuna ukuphinda le modeli? Ngaba wena neqabane lakho niyavumelana ngeenkcukacha zoqeqesho, ezinjengokuphuma kwexesha, ukubetha, ukungahoyi isimilo esibi, ukuvuza isimilo esihle? Ngaba ungeza nemizekelo ethile yokuziphatha kunye nendlela oza kuyiphendula ngayo, umzekelo, "Ukuba intombi yethu inyibilika evenkileni, ndicinga ukuba masimke kwangoko nokuba asikagqibi ukuthenga." Okanye "Ukuba unyana wethu ubethe umhlobo wakhe kumdlalo wokudlala, kufuneka anikwe ixesha lokuphuma imizuzu emi-5 aze avunyelwe ukuba abuye azokudlala emva kokuxolisa kumhlobo wakhe."
Ungathini ukuba omnye wenu ungumluleki ongqongqo kwaye ukhuthaza ukubethwa, kwaye omnye akenzi njalo? Yinto leyo kuyakufuneka niqhubeke nixoxa ngayo de nide nifike kwiqhinga loqeqesho eninokuvumelana ngalo.
2. Imfundo
Ngaba ungaphambi kwesikolo okanye uhlale ekhaya kude kube kwisikolo sabantwana abancinci? Ngaba kubhetele ukuhlalisana nabantwana abancinci kwangethuba, okanye ukuba bahlale ekhaya kunye nomama ukuze bazive benamathele ngokuqinileyo kwiyunithi yosapho? Ukuba ukhathalelo lwabantwana luyimfuneko kuba bobabini abazali bayasebenza, xoxa ngohlobo lokhathalelo lomntwana oziva ulunge kakhulu: ukunakekelwa kwabantwana ngokudibeneyo, okanye umondli wasekhaya okanye umakhulu notatomkhulu.
3. Umabonakude kunye nokunye ukuboniswa kweendaba
Lingakanani ixesha umntwana wakho ekufuneka evunyelwe ukuba alichithe phambi komabonwakude, ikhompyuter, ithebhulethi okanye ezinye izixhobo ze-elektroniki? Ngaba kufanele ukuba kube kumvuzo-kuphela, okanye yinxalenye yenkqubo yakhe yemihla ngemihla?
Umsebenzi womzimba
Ngaba kubalulekile kuwe ukuba umntwana wakho athathe inxaxheba kwimidlalo elungelelanisiweyo? Mncinci kangakanani mncinci ukuba angadlala ibhola ekhatywayo encinci okanye athathe iiklasi zeballet? Ukuba umntwana wakho uveza ukungawuthandi umsebenzi omkhethele wona, ungasabela uthini? Menze "uyikhuphe"? Okanye uyihloniphe iminqweno yakhe yokumisa?
La ngamanqaku nje ambalwa onokuthi uqalise ukuseka isicwangciso sakho sokuba ngumzali. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba neendawo ezininzi ngakumbi oya kuthi ufune ukuxoxa uzichaze. Khumbula: uya kube uhlela kwaye uhlela kwakhona isicwangciso sakho sokuba ngumzali njengoko ubona ukuba yintoni esebenzayo nengasebenziyo nomntwana wakho. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba wena neqabane lakho nivumelane ngento ekwisicwangciso sokuba ngumzali, kwaye nibonise imbono emanyeneyo njengoko nithatha owona msebenzi ubalulekileyo ebomini: ukukhulisa umntwana wakho.