Umxholo
- Yenza indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuthetha ngeemvakalelo
- Ziqhelise ukuphulaphula ngenyameko
- Sebenzisa intetho eyakhayo
- Hlonipha utshintsho lomnye nomnye
Unxibelelwano ayisoloko iyinto esinika ingcinga eninzi kuyo. Uyavuka, uthi kusasa ekuseni kwiqabane lakho, uye emsebenzini uthethe nabantu osebenza nabo, uphinde uncokole neqabane lakho ngexesha lesidlo ... kodwa uluhlalutya kangaphi olo nxibelelwano?
Unxibelelwano olulungileyo lushiya omabini amaqela azive evile kwaye eqinisekisiwe, kwaye njengemixholo yabo ixabisiwe ngomnye umntu. Kulula kakhulu ukutsiba kunxibelelwano olulungileyo kuba uxakekile okanye uxinzelelo, okanye ngenxa yokuba ungakhange ucinge kakhulu ngendlela onxibelelana ngayo.
Kwizibini ezininzi, ukutyelela i-Therapist yindlela elungileyo yokusebenza ngemiba yokunxibelelana nabanye ngenkxaso yengcali enokubakhokela kwinkqubo. Mhlawumbi yile nto wena neqabane lakho ninokuxhamla kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, awunyanzelekanga ukuba ufumane unyango ukuze uzuze kwezinye zeendlela ezisetyenzisiweyo ngexesha leseshoni. Zama ezinye iindlela ngokwenu ekhaya-unokumangaliswa yindlela ophucula ngayo unxibelelwano.
Nazi iindlela ezithile ezilula zonyango onokuzisebenzisa ukuphucula unxibelelwano lobuhlobo namhlanje.
Yenza indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuthetha ngeemvakalelo
Ngamanye amaxesha eyona nto inzima ngokuthetha ngeemvakalelo kukwenza indawo ekhuselekileyo kuyo. Ukuba nobabini niziva nixhalabile ngesihloko okanye imilo edlulileyo edlulileyo, kunokuba nzima ukwazi ukuba ungayenza njani.
Unokuzama ukuqala ngokubuza iqabane lakho "Ngaba uziva ukhululekile ukuthetha ngale nto?" okanye "ndingayenza njani lula le ngxoxo kuwe?" Babuze malunga nento oyifunayo ukuze uzive ukhululekile, nayo.
Xa uqala kwisikhundla sokwamkelana iimfuno zomnye nomnye ukucwangcisa ingxoxo ezolileyo kunye nembeko.
Ziqhelise ukuphulaphula ngenyameko
Ukumamela ngokukuko sisakhono sobomi esixabisekileyo, kodwa esoloko sihoywa. Ukumamela ngokukuko kuthetha ukuthatha ngokwenyani oko kuthethwa ngomnye umntu, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka okanye ukubanjiswa kuloliwe wakho weengcinga.
Enye yeendlela ezilula zokuphulaphula ezinokuzama kunye neqabane lakho namhlanje kukufunda ukujonga amanye amagama. Endaweni yokunqwala nje okanye ukuzama ukungenelela xa iqabane lakho lithetha, mabagqibe kwaye baphinde oko bakuthethileyo ngamazwi akho. Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba niyaqondana ngokwenene.
"Mna" iingxelo sisixhobo esihle sonxibelelwano. Xa uqala ingxelo ngo "wena", iqabane lakho libekwa ngokuzenzekelayo ekuzikhuseleni. "Wena" uvakala utyhola, kwaye abantu abaziva betyholwa akunakwenzeka ukuba bavuleleke kwiingxoxo ezinyanisekileyo, ezisuka entliziyweni. Iingxelo "Ndi" zinciphisa ukulwa kwaye ziququzelele iintetho zangempela.
Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna inkxaso engaphezulu ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kwaye uqala ngo "awusoze wenze nayiphi na imisebenzi yasekhaya", iqabane lakho liya kuzikhusela kwaye libuyise nemipu. Kwelinye icala, ukuba uqala ngo "Ndiziva ndicinezelekile yimali ekufuneka ndiyenzile ngoku kwaye ndiyaluxabisa uncedo lwam kwimisebenzi yasekhaya", uvula indlela yengxoxo.
Iingxelo ezithi "Ndi" zikwadala indawo yokuba ugxile kwaye ubonakalise iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye uviwe liqabane lakho. Unokwenza okufanayo kubo, ukuva iimvakalelo zabo kunye neenkxalabo kunokuva izityholo kwaye uqhubeke uzikhusela.
Sebenzisa intetho eyakhayo
Sebenzisa ulwimi oluqinisekileyo kulandela ngokwendalo ukwenza ingxelo ka "Mna". Sebenzisa ulwimi olulungileyo akuthethi ukujonga indlela oziva ngayo okanye ukuzama ukuhambisa imeko.Nangona kunjalo, oko kuthetha ukuba ukhumbule amagama owakhethileyo ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho, kunye nendlela amagama anokuthi alichaphazele ngayo iqabane lakho.
Umzekelo, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ukhathaza iqabane lakho kakhulu, unokufuna ukuqala ugxile kokuhle. Fumana izinto ozithandayo ngabo. Jonga izinto abazenzayo ozithandayo, kwaye ubaxelele ngazo. Yenza izicelo kunokuba unike iiodolo. Soloko uzibuze ukuba ungaziva njani ukuba ubunokufumana unxibelelwano lwakho neqabane lakho.
Hlonipha utshintsho lomnye nomnye
Sonke siyatshintsha njengoko sihamba ebomini, kodwa kuyamangalisa ukuba bangaphi abantu abalindele ukuba amaqabane abo angatshintshi. Abanye bethu bade babe nomsindo kwaye badane kubo xa besenza njalo.
Nangona kunjalo, umtshato umalunga nokuhloniphana nokuhloniphana njengokuba iminyaka idlula, kwaye oko kubandakanya utshintsho lomnye nomnye.
Endaweni yokuzila ukuba iqabane lakho lalikade lingubani, okanye unqwenela ukuba angangulaa mntu uthandana naye kuqala, khangela iindlela zokubonisa imbeko nokuhlonipha ukuba bangobani ngoku. Bona ukwazana ngokutsha njengoko utshintsha njenge-adventure eniyenzayo kunye. Thatha ixesha ubuzana malunga neengcinga zakho, iimvakalelo, amaphupha kunye neenjongo zakho ebomini kwaye ufunde ngakumbi malunga nokuba ngubani iqabane lakho ngoku.
Imiba yonxibelelwano ibangela uxinzelelo oluninzi emtshatweni, kodwa inokusonjululwa. Musa ukoyika ukufikelela kwaye ucele uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuba uyalufuna, kwaye nokuba awuyidingi unyango ngoku, kutheni ungazami ezi ndlela zingasentla ukuze ukhule usondele kwaye unxibelelane ngcono.