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Umxholo
- Isitshixo esilahlekileyo
- I-80% yobudlelwane ayinampilo!
- Ingqondo ngokuchasene nemvakalelo
- Ukudibanisa ingcinga kunye nemvakalelo
Yintoni eyona nto ibalulekileyo ilahlekileyo, kwihlabathi lokuthandana, kwihlabathi lobudlelwane?
Baninzi abantu abafuna ukufumana uthando olunzulu.
Abanye bafuna ukuthatha ubudlelwane babo bangoku kwaye baye kwindawo ezinikele ngakumbi nenomdla.
Kwaye abanye bazama ukufumanisa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukugcina ubudlelwane babo bangoku.
Ke yintoni elahlekileyo kuzo zonke ezi meko?
Kule minyaka ingama-30 idlulileyo, umbhali oyena mntu uthengisa kakhulu, umcebisi, umqeqeshi wobomi, nomphathiswa uDavid Essel bebenceda abantu kunye nabantu abatshatileyo ukuba baqonde amanyathelo athathayo ukwenza ubudlelwane obunothando obungenakukholwa.
Apha ngezantsi, uDavid wabelana ngeengcinga zakhe ngesitshixo esilahlekileyo esiya kuthi sakubamba kuso, senze ubudlelwane bube sisihogo ngokulula kakhulu.
Isitshixo esilahlekileyo
“Xa ucinga ngothando, ucinga ntoni ngalo?
Uninzi lwabantu lucinga ngeemvakalelo. Umnqweno. Ukuhambelana. Inkanuko okanye iminqweno yesini. Inzala.
Abanye banokuyolula le kwaye babandakanye uvelwano, unxibelelwano, kunye nokunye.
Kodwa kukho enye into elahlekileyo xa kuziwa ekudaleni ubudlelwane obuhle!
Kwaye loo nto ilahlekileyo izokumangalisa.
Kwincwadi yethu entsha ethengisa kakhulu, "Uthando kunye neemfihlo zobudlelwane ... Wonke umntu kufuneka azi!"
Ndingena kwiinkcukacha ezinkulu ndithetha ngekhonkco elilahlekileyo, amakhonkco alahlekileyo, kunye nento ekufuneka siyenzile ukwenza uhlobo olwahlukileyo lothando kweli hlabathi.
Kwiminyaka yethu engama-40 yamava, sibonile ukuba i-80% yobudlelwane ayinampilo.
Funda kwakhona.
I-80% yobudlelwane ayinampilo!
Kutheni kunjalo? Inokubaleka isuka kumlutha iye kumbono, uswele, indlela yokuziphatha enoburharha, ulawulo, ulawulo, ukuxhomekeka kwekhowudi nokunye okuninzi.
Abantu bahlala bebambekile kubudlelwane kuba abafuni ukuba bodwa.
Abantu bahlala bebambekile kubudlelwane kuba baziva bengenakufanelekela nantoni na engcono kunangoku.
Kodwa ikhona into engekhoyo!
Ke yintoni le nto ... Yintoni elahlekileyo kubo bonke obu budlelwane bungenampilo obunokwenza umahluko wokwenene kwihlabathi lobomi?
Into engekhoyo kubudlelwane obungenampilo yinto eqhelekileyo kulwalamano olusempilweni.
Yintoni leyo? Ingqiqo.
Owu, Nkosi yam, ndiyasiva isikhalo esivela kwiibhalkoni ngoku.
"David, Uthando lumele ukuxabisa uluvo ngaphezu kokuqiqa ... David, uzama ukusicothisa kwaye ungavumeli iintliziyo zethu zivuleke ... David, uthando luphelele malunga nokuziva unomtsalane, ukuhambelana, nokukhetha. iimvakalelo ngaphezulu kwengcinga ... Nceda sukuzisa ingcinga koku; iza konakalisa lonke ulonwabo! "
Ngaba uyaphikisana nezimvo zingasentla malunga nokuqiqa ngokuchasene nemvakalelo kubudlelwane?
Ingqondo ngokuchasene nemvakalelo
Ukuba ulwalamano olungenampilo, nokuba uyafuna ukuvuma okanye hayi, ezinye zezimvo zingasentla zisebenza kakhulu malunga nokuba kutheni ukobudlelwane bobuhlobo.
Kodwa kuthekani ngeepesenti ezingama-20 zezibini ezinobudlelwane obusempilweni?
Kulapho safumana khona olona lwazi lwethu luxabisekileyo, kule minyaka ingama-40 idlulileyo, xa kuthelekiswa iipesenti ezingama-80 zabantu abatshatileyo abasebudlelwaneni obungenampilo xa kuthelekiswa nama-20% asezingabaphilileyo.
Kwaye umahluko ulula ngokwenene ukuwubona: kusengqiqweni.
Xa abantu bethandana, bavumela iintliziyo zabo ukuba zingene kwindlela yokuqiqa kwabo, bavumela iminqweno yabo yesini ukuba ingene kwindlela yokuqiqa, kwaye bavumela ukuxhomekeka kwabo, njengoloyiko lokuba ndedwa ukuze bangene kwingqondo.
Kodwa ingqiqo impendulo! I-Logic kunye neemvakalelo, xa zidityanisiwe, ziyimpendulo yokudala olo lwalamano luthando olunamandla kangangokuba uninzi lwethu lunqwenela kwaye lulahlekile.
Ke ngengqondo, ngaphambi kokuba siqale nokuthandana, siyazazi iimpawu zomntu ongazukusebenzela thina.
Nokuba yeyiphi enye into abayizisayo etafileni, ukuba banabo nabaphi na ababulali bethu, asizukuthenga kubuhlanya bokutyhala into esiyaziyo ukuba iyinyani, yintoni esebenzayo kuthi okanye engasebenziyo kuthi ecaleni ngenxa yokuba ... Unomzimba omkhulu ... Unemali eninzi ... Unamandla ... Okanye uyathobela kwaye uya kwenza nantoni na esiyicelayo.
Ukudibanisa ingcinga kunye nemvakalelo
Zininzi iindlela ngeendlela esizicwangcisayo, sizithethelela ngokuhlala, okanye singena kubudlelwane obungenampilo.
Kodwa ukuba udibanisa ingcinga kunye nemvakalelo, uya kuyila imicimbi yothando emangalisayo.
Kodwa enyanisweni, bambalwa kuphela abantu abaziyo ukuba bangaphantsi kwiimvakalelo kwaye babe nengqondo ngakumbi. Uphando luye lwagqiba ukuba iimvakalelo zinokuba nefuthe elibonakalayo kwindlela yethu yokuqiqa kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bethu.
Sixhomekeke kakhulu ekufundeni iinoveli zothando, iimovie zothando, amanqaku ephephancwadi athetha ngokufumana "umphefumlo" wakho, "kunye noxinzelelo lokufumana" umphefumlo "wakho," ngakumbi njengoko usiba mdala, landa ngokubalaseleyo.
Ngenxa yokuba xa sijula ingcinga ngokuchasene nemvakalelo, ingcinga iyaphuma ngefestile!
Ukuswela kwethu ... Uloyiko lwethu lokuba yedwa ... Ukufuna kwethu ukwamkelwa luluntu kuba ngoku "sineqabane."
Makhe sinciphise isantya.
Ukuba ujonga ubudlelwane bakho bangaphambili kwaye bazaliswe ngumdlalo weqonga kunye nesiphithiphithi, uninzi lwethu olukulo, fikelela kubuchwephesha namhlanje ukuze ufumane isiqalo sendlela ekufuneka uzitshintshe ngayo iinkolelo zakho, ingqondo yakho kunye nengqondo encinci kwi Ukudala uhlobo olwahlukileyo lothando kwixa elizayo.
Sinikezela nge "jumpstart, iseshoni yokucebisa yemizuzu engama-30", kubantu abavela kwihlabathi liphela ngefowuni kunye ne-Skype ukubanceda ubuncinci baqalise inkqubo yokuvavanya iinkolelo zabo, kunye nendlela abanokuzisa ngayo ingqiqo kwihlabathi ukuthandana, uthando, kunye nobudlelwane.
Ndiyazi ukuba ndingakunceda, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba uyakonwabela ukwenza lo msebenzi.