Umxholo
- Ukuzama ukuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo ngelixa utshatile
- Ukuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo ngaphandle kokuthandana kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo
Kukho ukubekwa amabala kubudlelwane ekufuneka kupheliswe, ukuze siqhubele phambili njengempucuko.
Isigwebo esincinci. Zincinci izimvo. Xa kuziwa kwimicimbi yentliziyo.
Ukuthandana, kodwa uhlala kwindawo ezahlukileyo zokuhlala, kunokuba yimpendulo kwizigidi zabantu abafuna unxibelelwano olunzulu kunye noxolo lwangaphakathi ngaxeshanye.
Malunga neminyaka engama-20 eyadlulayo, kweza umfazi efuna iinkonzo zam zengcebiso kuba umtshato wakhe wawusesihogweni ngokupheleleyo.
Wayekholelwa ngokuqinileyo kumxholo wokuhlala kunye ngonaphakade, wakube utshatile ... Kodwa wayetsala nzima nge-idiosyncrasies yomyeni wakhe, kunye nembono yokuba babechasene kakhulu nendalo.
Wenqabile ukuza kusebenza nam, ke bekuxhomekeke kuye ... Ulwalamano lwaluzakutshona okanye lubhukude ngenxa yento ayikhethileyo ukuba ayenze nayenza.
Emva kweenyanga ezintandathu sisebenza kunye, kwaye veki nganye ndinikina intloko xa engena kwaye endixelela amanye amabali malunga nendlela ababonakala bengahambelani ngayo, ndacebisa into endandingazange ndiyithethile nakubani na kwikhondo lobungcali ngaphambi koko . Ndimbuzile, ukuba yena nomyeni wakhe bazakuvulela ixesha lokulingwa lokuhlala bodwa ngelixa batshatile, kodwa kwiindawo zokuhlala ezahlukeneyo.
Kuqala, wabuyela umva kukothuka, wayengayikholelwa le ndiyithethayo.
Njengoko besithetha ngalo lonke elo lixa, ndiye ndaqala ukuthethelela ukuba kutheni ndicinga ukuba le inokuba yiyo kuphela into enokusindisa umtshato wabo. Isizathu sam sokuqala sokuba bahlale bodwa ngelixa betshatile kwakulula ... Babenamava eminyaka yokuhlala kunye engasebenziyo. Ke kutheni ungazami okwahlukileyo?
Ngokoluvo lwam, babekhokelele kuqhawulo mtshato, ke kutheni unganiki uluvo lwento efana nokutshata kodwa ukuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo eyayingumbono ongaphandle kwebhokisi ithuba. Ngoloyiko olukhulu, wagoduka waya kwabelana ngalo nomyeni wakhe. Wothuka kakhulu, wayithanda le ngcamango!
Ukuzama ukuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo ngelixa utshatile
Ngaba abantu abatshatileyo banokuhlala bodwa?
Ngaloo mva kwemini waqala ukukhangela i-condo emayile ukusuka kwikhaya labo langoku.
Kwisithuba seentsuku ezingama-30 wafumana indawo anokuhlala kuyo, igumbi lokulala elincinci, i-condo, kwaye wayenemincili kodwa enovalo lokuba uza kusebenzisa inkululeko yakhe entsha ukufumana iqabane elitsha.
Kodwa bendibasayine ikhontrakthi, ukuba baya kuhlala bodwa, akukho micimbi yeemvakalelo kunye nemicimbi yomzimba evunyelweyo.
Ukuba, ukuba omnye wabo uqala ukuphambuka, kuye kwafuneka axelele amaqabane abo kwangoko. Konke oku sikubhalile. Kwaye oku bekuza kuba luvavanyo.
Ekupheleni kweentsuku ezili-120, ukuba bekungasebenzi, ukuba bazifumene besisiphithiphithi nakwidrama, baya kuthi emva koko bathathe isigqibo malunga nento abaza kuyenza ngokulandelayo.
Emva behlala bodwa betshatile, bona bangagqiba kwelokuba bahlukane, bathathe isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato okanye bathathe isigqibo sokubuyela kunye kwaye bayinike enye yokugqibela.
Kodwa lonke ibali liyintsomi. Intle. Kwiintsuku ezingama-30 bobabini bebewathanda amalungiselelo ahlukeneyo.
Badibana nobusuku obune ngeveki kwisidlo sangokuhlwa kwaye bahlala impelaveki phantse bebonke.
Umyeni wakhe waqala ukulala ngobusuku bangoMgqibelo, ukuze babenosuku lonke lwangoMgqibelo kunye nayo yonke imini yangeCawa kunye. Ukuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo ngelixa utshatile kwabasebenzela bobabini.
Ngokwahlukana apho babesatshatile kodwa bengahlali kunye, umgama ababewudinga bobabini kuba iintlobo zabo zobuntu zahluke ngokwahlukileyo, kwakuholelwa kuwo. Ixesha elifutshane emva kokwahlulwa kwesilingo kwaba lusuku lokugqibela ...
THayi bobabini bonwabe ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
Kungekudala emva koko, wabuya weza kum eyokufunda ukubhala incwadi. Sisebenze kunye iinyanga simnceda ukuba enze ulwandlalo lwakhe kuba ndandibhale iincwadi ezininzi ngelo xesha, ndamnika yonke imfundo endandiyifumene, kwaye wayephumelela njengombhali wokuqala.
Undixelele amatyeli amaninzi, ukuba angakhe azame ukubhala incwadi kwaye aqhubeke ehlala kwindlu enye nomyeni wakhe, uya kuhlala emsokolisa. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba wayengekho kuloo nto, waziva ekhululekile ukuba yedwa, azenzele, kwaye onwabe yedwa esazi ukuba usenomntu omkhathaleleyo kwaye umthanda ngokunzulu ... Indoda yakhe.
Ukuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo ngaphandle kokuthandana kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo
Eli ayiloxesha lokugqibela ndenza olu hlobo lwesincomo kwisibini esitshatileyo kodwa sihlala sodwa, kwaye ukusukela ngeloxesha kuye kwakho izibini ezininzi endikhe ndazinceda ukugcina ubudlelwane kuba bagqibela ngokuhlala ngokwahlukileyo zokuhlala.
Izibini ezitshatileyo ezingahlali kunye. Iyavakala ukuba ayiqhelekanga, akunjalo? Ukuba silugcina uthando kwaye sivumela uthando ukuba luhlume ngokuhlala ezantsi kwesitalato omnye komnye? Kodwa iyasebenza. Ngoku ayizukusebenzela wonke umntu, kodwa iyasebenzela izibini endizicebisileyo ukuba ndizidubule.
Uthini ngawe? Ngaba ulwalamano apho umthanda ngokwenene iqabane lakho, kodwa awunakudibana? Ngaba ulikhova ebusuku kwaye kukho intaka yokuqala? Ngaba uyila kakhulu kwaye unomoya okhululekileyo kwaye banolwazelelelo olukhulu?
Ngaba uhlala uphikisana? Ngaba kuye kwaba ngumsebenzi nje ukuba kunye kunye noVuyo? Ukuba kunjalo, landela ezi zimvo zingasentla.
Ungaphila njani ukuhlala ngaphandle kweqabane lakho?
Ewe, kukho izibini ezitshatileyo ezigqibe kwelokuba zihlale kwindlu enye, kodwa enye yayihlala ezantsi kwaye enye yayihlala phezulu.
Esinye isibini endandisebenza naso sasihlala kwindlu enye, kodwa omnye wasebenzisa igumbi lokulala elilelona gumbi labo lokulala, kwaye oko kwakubonakala ngathi kuyanceda ukugxotha iyantlukwano kwindlela yabo yokuphila ngelixa bebagcina bekunye. Ke nangona babetshatile kodwa behlala bodwa endlini enye, isithuba phakathi kwabo sasivumela ubudlelwane babo buqhubeke.
Izibini ezitshatileyo ezikhetha ukuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo zinika ubudlelwane bazo elinye ithuba ngokungafuthanisani. Ukutshata kodwa uhlala kwizindlu ezahlukileyo kwiimeko ezininzi kubhetele kunokuhlukaniswa ngengqondo ngelixa uhlala phantsi kophahla olunye, kuphela ukuba ubudlelwane bube krakra. Izibini ezitshatileyo ezihlala zodwa, indawo abayifumanayo inokwenza imimangaliso kulwalamano lwabo. Wakhe weva ngelizwi - 'Umgama Wenza Intliziyo ikhule ngakumbi?' Ubheja uyenzela izibini ezitshatileyo ezihlala zodwa! Ngapha koko, kufuneka sophule i-taboo ejikeleze izibini eziya kulungiselelo lokuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo ngelixa zitshatile.
Nantoni na oyenzayo, musa ukuzilungiselela ububhanxa bobudlelwane obuhlekisayo bempikiswano. Yenza into eyahlukileyo njengokuhlala utshatile kodwa nihlala ngokwahlukana. Yahlukile. Thatha amanyathelo namhlanje, kwaye inokugcina nje ubudlelwane onabo ngomso.